Living with the decision I made

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Of course I don't have to spend a lot of time talking about how much I would like to get away from the bedside. I spent my days off obsessively looking at jobs, thinking of furthering my education and just overall plotting my escape. Or I am venting to my husband, who does not understand, about something that happened at work.I have turned down about 3 offers so far because of the money and flexibility. Leaving the bedside is less money and I am not in the best financial situation to take a paycut. I am also in the pool and can work any days I want. I have ultimately put the school idea on hold because I am scared of more loans. I hate my role right now but I am stressing my self out even more when I keep searching for answers but keep returning to this. So, my decision is final. I have made my bed and now I need to figure out how to lie in it more comfortably. I try to be grateful that I do have a job. But when things arise, it goes out the window Any suggestions.

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Don't be scared of debt. U will die with debt. Go back to school and get a great life insurance plan ; )

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If you took a non-bedside nursing position, how many hours of a per diem job would you need to make up for the paycut?

What if you worked one weekend day a month? Would that generate enough revenue while keeping your nursing skills up to date?

I work with a couple of nurses who work in research, and work the occasional per diem weekend shift for that reason.

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Don't be scared of debt. U will die with debt. Go back to school and get a great life insurance plan ; )

Strongly disagree. Student loan debt should never be undertaken lightly. It can hang over your head for the rest of your life and can interfere with other life events such as obtaining a mortgage, buying a car, etc.

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I know your not supposed to answer a question that wasn't asked......but ...where is your money going? what areas can you cut back? Is your husband overspending? how much debt are we talking about for school? how old are you? are you depressed, do you need a counselor? are you afraid of school and using debt as an excuse? are you self sabotaging? These are all questions for you to answer, I don't need, nor want the answer. good luck.

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Don't be scared of debt. U will die with debt. Go back to school and get a great life insurance plan ; )

Sounds financial advice, methinks not...

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If your decision is not truly final, then take a look at all your options and make a decision.

If you decision is truly final ... then stop looking at other options for a while. Stop reading job adds. Stop looking at threads on allnurses.com about other types of jobs. Stop paying attention to those posters who make suggestions for alternative career paths. When people go on a diet to lose weight, it's often good for them to clean out their refrigerator and cupboards and get rid of all the tempting food. You need to do a similar thing with career information. Just get it out of your sight and take a break for a couple of months.

Once you have gotten all that stuff out of your site, find some pleasant ways to spend any free time that you have. It could be "little things," like a bubble bath or a "date" with your husband. Arrange a little "Rest & Relaxation" for yourself. Have a little fun. Stop and smell the roses. Appreciate the good things you have in your life right now. Compartmentalize the stuff you don't like about your job ... put it in a separate compartment and leave it at work. Enjoy life when you are not there and vow to make the best of it while you are at work. When you leave work, leave the work issues behind in the separate compartment.

Given a little time, if you can consistently schedule some fun things into your time off ... your mood will lighten a bit and you will be in a better place mentally to re-visit your long-term career decisions.

I have struggled through some rough patches in my career, too. Sometimes, the best thing you can do is just "put it aside" for a little while and focus on enjoying the rest of your life. Muddle through at work while you give yourself some time to build mental strength. You can solve all your problems in life later. Most problems will wait: only spend energy on the few that need immediate attention for a while.

Good luck to you.

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Don't be scared of debt. U will die with debt. Go back to school and get a great life insurance plan ; )

I couldn't agree more!! When it comes to your dreams, I don't believe a student loan should stand in your way when you weigh out your options. Money isn't everything & you are giving every obstacle possible but what do you want? So you can't afford a pay cut but there are many things a nurse can do. Google it, go on indeed.com & research your options. We are all nurses for different, personal reasons & if I were a nurse with a higher education, paying off my student loans would be farthest from my mind. JMO

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Do you do 3 12s? I know some dislike this but they have made my job so much more tolerable.

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