Hello all! First post! I am starting NS in the Fall of this year. I'm pretty excited and nervous at the same time.
My fiance and I have a pretty good relationship except when it comes to chores. I was unable to find a job this summer (even retail didn't want me) so I am currently acting as a temporary house wife [keeping the place clean, meals made, errands ran] until NS starts. He works 40+ hours a week at a stressful job so we both agree that this is a good trade off for now. His income is more than enough to sustain us and we have no kids.
I know that he does kind of resent me a bit. He doesn't believe that I even tried to look for a job and that I do "nothing" most of the day which isn't true. Like I said, we have a good relationship but he does get cranky about that every once in a while. However, I know it's because he stressed out at work and I'm not so stressed at the moment since it's summer break. It's not fair to him.
Main point of the post:
I was wondering if there is any literature (books, articles, etc...) that are meant for the spouses of nursing students? Something to put it in perspective for him? He's never seen anyone personally experience nursing school. He seems to think that it will be a walk in the park for me. He also thinks that he won't have to help out because I should be able to do everything while in school. Yet he can work his 8 hour day, come home and start playing video games. I'm one of those people that will need to study A LOT. I'm just getting frustrated trying to explain to him how busy I'll be. I guess it's hard for him to see because I'm taking the advice of relaxing the summer before NS. [i see that advice over and over again on these boards!]
Before anyone gets on my case about how easy I'll have it since I won't have to work (though I would be if my fiance had his way!), I have an OCD issue when it comes to keeping my apartment very clean and he has trouble even throwing out his paper plates when he's done eating. I essentially follow him around with a dust pan and broom. A clean apartment = a happy and peaceful me.
Thanks in advance for any literature recommendations.
Wow! I feel lucky! My DH does about 1/2 the cooking, doesn't mind left-overs or take out. He keeps the yard up (plus we have 30 acres and cows). He also does the laundry and cleans litter boxes. He'll even go to the grocery (if I have a detailed list for him). The vacuum and broom still amaze him, though. He can't seem to figure them out.
I still have to remind him that I HAVE to study. He thinks that since I went to LPN school as a single mom w/ 4 kids, I should now have all this free time since I only work 2 days/wk. Besides that, since I'm already a nurse, there can't be that much they are teaching me. Ha ha! I'm in a LPN/BSN bridge now. He's excited for me to be back in school...he's one of my biggest cheerleaders. He just doesn't understand the time commitment.
Good luck to all of you and remember that this, too, shall pass. Before we know it, we'll be done w/ school!
I'm one of those people that will need to study A LOT. I'm just getting frustrated trying to explain to him how busy I'll be. I guess it's hard for him to see because I'm taking the advice of relaxing the summer before NS. [i see that advice over and over again on these boards!]
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Wow! I feel lucky! My DH does about 1/2 the cooking, doesn't mind left-overs or take out. He keeps the yard up (plus we have 30 acres and cows). He also does the laundry and cleans litter boxes. He'll even go to the grocery (if I have a detailed list for him). The vacuum and broom still amaze him, though. He can't seem to figure them out.
I still have to remind him that I HAVE to study. He thinks that since I went to LPN school as a single mom w/ 4 kids, I should now have all this free time since I only work 2 days/wk. Besides that, since I'm already a nurse, there can't be that much they are teaching me. Ha ha! I'm in a LPN/BSN bridge now. He's excited for me to be back in school...he's one of my biggest cheerleaders. He just doesn't understand the time commitment.
Good luck to all of you and remember that this, too, shall pass. Before we know it, we'll be done w/ school!