Published Feb 9, 2010
ER06
18 Posts
I just signed another 2 year contract at current job which I love. It is breakable at 6 month increments. I also am in school on-line(rn to bsn); I signed a 1 yr contract for tuition re-imbursement for that but so far will only owe 600 bucks back if I leave. I could leave before 6 mths are up but I'm sure I will owe that first installment. I have two great jobs right now and a third (which is volunteer fire dept) All of it is a sweet deal. I don't want to go into details but things at home are not as they should be with hubby and I have two sick parents back home who need me. I am not unhappy at my jobs, for once that is not a problem. But my home situation gets worse by the day at times. And have been struggling to make it work for 2 years. Staying in town is not an option; again details. Of course tried counseling, but there is only so much one can do when the other thinks they don't have a problem. My whole situation is so very sad. It was a fairy tale, it really was. I never would have seen this in a million years. I thought we would grow old together, I could see it. It is heartbreaking. Anyways, because of how things are it is best to just pack up and go. I'm trying to figure out how to give a notice also without anybody knowing. ( I was going to give a two week notice )Co-workers regularly comb through the schedule and if they see your name crossed through you get approached why. I thought of just saying I'm going prn. It's a small community and word gets out. I won't be able to leave if word gets out. I don't want to burn my bridges or break my contract. But I might have too. But if I do leave, I won't be coming back either. There are two positions open right now back home where I'm from and I'm afraid if I wait 6 mths, the position or positions will be gone. Also, do you think they will take my last paycheck?
traumalover, RN
101 Posts
Any possibility you can speak to your nurse manager and talk with her about keeping it quiet until last minute?
ukstudent
805 Posts
If I am right in reading between the lines and your problem is a matter of your safety. Then staying safe becomes before all other problems. If you have a good relasonship with your manager (you know that she/he won't talk) see if you can give a 2 weeks notice and not have you taken off the schedule until you are physically gone. If you don't have that type of manager, then just pack up one day and leave. Call to let your manager know when you are safe.
Being alive without a good reference is better than being physically beaten or dead while waiting to get one. Good luck and keep safe.
creakyjoints
9 Posts
By all means, talk to your supervisor if you have a good relationship with that person. If it is a matter of you needing to do what you need to do for your self and your safety, I don't want to overstep my bounds here and read too much into this, but you need to contact someone in your area so that someone can help you to get out fast. I am not trying to make this sound cloak and dagger, but obviously he will know where you are if you are going back home so it is a matter of just getting out quick so don't try to do everything on your own. Get support where you can and where you can trust it. Jobs that open up that you know you may actually "like" don't always come by and you have already made up your mind. So, just put the plan in action now and go through with it. It is the right thing to do for yourself. Just do it wisely and safely. And just be honest with a trusted supervisor. They can arrange for something...be safe...good luck. God Bless.
ItsTheDude
621 Posts
Also, do you think they will take my last paycheck?
doubtful, would probably be a federal or state wage and hour violation.
OncallRN
41 Posts
go to HR and have a meetign with HR and the nurse manager. they are legally obligated to keep confidenial info private.
if you would be a risk to give notice, that it would give an abuser a chance to figure out your plan to leave. make an appt w/ HR, then pack you bags, meet with HR/ nurse manger tell them what and why and just keep on driving.
good luck and be safe
vivicaq
200 Posts
I will keep you in my prayers