Like every nursing school, I have that one classmate....you know, the obnoxious one that chronically shows up late asking questions that she would have already known the answers too, but she was late, so she didn't? The one that makes up all the excuses in the book and has absolutely no consideration for anyone but herself? The one that mouths off to the attending MD because she feels as though she's somehow entitled to?
How this grown woman has gotten this far into the Nursing Program astounds me...
Our class has dubbed her "Tornado." She is one hot mess needless to say.
So today she shows up 20 minutes late to clinicals (surprising? Hardly, since she's late for everything). She literally ran into the clinical instructor when she finally arrived. Absolutely priceless. If this were her job, she would have been canned a long time ago according to our instructors.
Needless to say Tornado was dismissed from clinicals that day. She now has to attend Friday's clinicals and pay $50.00 out of pocket.
This lady has made her bed and now she has to sleep in it. There are consequences for everything in life, both good and bad. I certainly learned something from her experience. I wonder if Tornado learned anything.
This made me really sad. The whole situation just seems high school to me. I have definitely complained about exams, been late, had to miss class/clinical, etc. Nobody is perfect. It sounds to me like there is a personal issue going on with her if it's a constant, and everyone in the class has just written her off as being rude. She sounds frazzled, and I feel for her.
Calling her mean names does not help at all. It's hard to be on time to a place where you know you are not wanted, and believe me, she knows. The fact that your instructors discuss her conduct with you and other students is entirely inappropriate.
Offending student: loud, rude, obnoxious, impulsive, socially backward and unable to keep to a schedule.
Entire rest of the class: gangs up on her behind her back by calling her names, rejoices in the fact that she has now gotten into trouble.
I'm going to guess she eats alone, is never invited into study groups, probably has eyes rolled at her (if not to her face at least behind her back), is talked about, laughed at and ignored.
Did it ever occur to any of you that this girl is exhibiting signs of autism? She may not be able to control it. Why do I know this? Because a dear friend of our family behaves just like this and has been treated just as badly by her classmates. I have cringed at some of the things that have come out of her mouth but I won't treat her badly because I'm not perfect either. Or your classmate could just be a rude individual but none of what she has done really impacts you in a negative way. What you guys are doing, though, can have long lasting consequences. Really, this girl is her own worst enemy...she doesn't need any more help. You have much bigger things to worry about than this one aggravating person. Oh, and if you all continue with this behavior I hope you don't expect any sympathy here when you graduate and complain when some of the older nurses do the same thing to you.
I'm sorry if I've upset you but I've been bullied like this and it was devastating. I can't let you continue without giving you another perspective.
You're kidding, right? Most likely this student is narcisstic and arrogant. And for some reason the instructors let her get away with being late all the time. I've seen it before, for some unknown reason this student has the red carpet rolled out for her and is treated differently from everyone else. Well the instructors could not turn a blind eye to her lateness anymore and had to lay down the law to her. But I suspect this was only done to APPEAR to be "fair. I'm sure the instructors will be rolling out the red carpet for her again. What makes her so special?
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So let me get this straight:
Offending student: loud, rude, obnoxious, impulsive, socially backward and unable to keep to a schedule.
Entire rest of the class: gangs up on her behind her back by calling her names, rejoices in the fact that she has now gotten into trouble.
I'm going to guess she eats alone, is never invited into study groups, probably has eyes rolled at her (if not to her face at least behind her back), is talked about, laughed at and ignored.
Did it ever occur to any of you that this girl is exhibiting signs of autism? She may not be able to control it. Why do I know this? Because a dear friend of our family behaves just like this and has been treated just as badly by her classmates. I have cringed at some of the things that have come out of her mouth but I won't treat her badly because I'm not perfect either. Or your classmate could just be a rude individual but none of what she has done really impacts you in a negative way. What you guys are doing, though, can have long lasting consequences. Really, this girl is her own worst enemy...she doesn't need any more help. You have much bigger things to worry about than this one aggravating person. Oh, and if you all continue with this behavior I hope you don't expect any sympathy here when you graduate and complain when some of the older nurses do the same thing to you.
I'm sorry if I've upset you but I've been bullied like this and it was devastating. I can't let you continue without giving you another perspective.
She does not eat alone. I don't plan on inviting her to any of the study sessions I attend because things would never get done due to inability to show up on time and keep quiet as well as staying on topic. I've spoken to her on several occasions outside of class and everything is self motivating for her. The only time that eyes are rolled is when she interrupts the class because she was in the restroom demanding that something gets repeated.
In regards to her being treated badly by us, that's hardly the case. She is not a girl, she's a grown adult woman with two grown children who makes it known that she was Radiation Tech several times each class before she got fired.
As for the Autism? Autism: Symptoms - MayoClinic.com is a great website. Sadly she fails to exhibit any of the signs and symptoms of Autism.
When I do graduate I am not going to ever expect sympathy from anyone. Nursing is a self-less , client (family, community) focused profession that demands the maintenance of health and well-being for individuals.
Don't get me wrong, I do feel sorry for her. I want her to get her act together so she, like us can be prepared for the real world of nursing. And whatever the faculty eventually decides to do, so be it. I wish the best for her, I just hope she figures it out before it's too late.
How do you deal with a classmate that continues to want to study with you but never comes to class or is late/misses everything, including tests? I don't know what to say but I'm afraid one of these days I'm going to blow up at her when she asks me to study. Ugh!!! Any suggestions???
She does not eat alone. I don't plan on inviting her to any of the study sessions I attend because things would never get done due to inability to show up on time and keep quiet as well as staying on topic. I've spoken to her on several occasions outside of class and everything is self motivating for her. The only time that eyes are rolled is when she interrupts the class because she was in the restroom demanding that something gets repeated.
In regards to her being treated badly by us, that's hardly the case. She is not a girl, she's a grown adult woman with two grown children who makes it known that she was Radiation Tech several times each class before she got fired.
As for the Autism? Autism: Symptoms - MayoClinic.com is a great website. Sadly she fails to exhibit any of the signs and symptoms of Autism.
When I do graduate I am not going to ever expect sympathy from anyone. Nursing is a self-less , client (family, community) focused profession that demands the maintenance of health and well-being for individuals.
Don't get me wrong, I do feel sorry for her. I want her to get her act together so she, like us can be prepared for the real world of nursing. And whatever the faculty eventually decides to do, so be it. I wish the best for her, I just hope she figures it out before it's too late.
You're absolutely correct. She doesn't fit the definition of autism that you provided in your link because that is a specific kind. The Autism Spectrum Disorders have a very broad range of symptoms and their presentation in adults is often completely different than in the pediatric population. Your additional description of her behavior could also describe someone with ADHD. Or as I said before...she could just be a real jerk. But that still doesn't excuse calling her an unkind name behind her back or reveling in her punishment whether she's an adult or not. I'm glad that you set me straight regarding your empathy for her but you have to admit your first post did not say anything about how you felt sorry for her. I know it seems unfair that she is being held to a different standard than the rest of the class but unfortunately that is often how life is. And it's between her and he school faculty. She really is only hurting herself and at some point she will likely self-destruct (as far as nursing school goes) but you need to forget about the "unfairness" of the situation and worry only about what you do. This will serve you well when you begin your nursing career as well. I don't expect you to try to befriend her or even like her but for your sake stop referring to her as "Tornado" (it dehumanizes her), stop talking about her behind her back and try not to roll your eyes when she is being disruptive. I promise you that in the long run this will benefit you as a person and as a nurse.
You're kidding, right? Most likely this student is narcisstic and arrogant. And for some reason the instructors let her get away with being late all the time. I've seen it before, for some unknown reason this student has the red carpet rolled out for her and is treated differently from everyone else. Well the instructors could not turn a blind eye to her lateness anymore and had to lay down the law to her. But I suspect this was only done to APPEAR to be "fair. I'm sure the instructors will be rolling out the red carpet for her again. What makes her so special?
You will never know the answer to that question but the bigger question is... does it really matter? It's not fair, it sucks but it is the way it is. Nursing school is really hard. You need to focus your energy and time on making you successful rather than worrying about how someone else might be getting a better deal. If it means you follow rules that are randomly applied then so be it. Believe me you haven't seen anything yet until you actually start your nursing career. Just look at this as practice for the real world, because I guarantee once you are in it the inequities are going to dog the rest of your days. Your happiness will be greatly affected by your ability to deal with them.
decembergrad2011, BSN, RN
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This made me really sad. The whole situation just seems high school to me. I have definitely complained about exams, been late, had to miss class/clinical, etc. Nobody is perfect. It sounds to me like there is a personal issue going on with her if it's a constant, and everyone in the class has just written her off as being rude. She sounds frazzled, and I feel for her.
Calling her mean names does not help at all. It's hard to be on time to a place where you know you are not wanted, and believe me, she knows. The fact that your instructors discuss her conduct with you and other students is entirely inappropriate.