So my IUI in late September turned in a eight-week long odyssey of miscarriage-ectopic pregnancy craziness. We can't try again until March because of the methotrexate. When I entered the monitoring program two years ago, my husband and I had to nix our "really belated honeymoon" trip to Rome. So my thought: why not make the best out of a bad situation and see about re-scheduling that trip? I am technically allowed to leave the country and I have the PTO...
Of course, new rules with the monitoring program state that if you want to leave the country, you have to get the trip okayed by the state BON. The BON knows about my monitoring program because of my relapse early into the program but I do not have an open case with them. I have left four messages over the last two weeks with the BON and not heard anything back, of course. I don't think that I will. I doubt the vacation plans of a dysfunctional, "bad" alcoholic such as myself merit much attention in the hierarchy of BON problems.
I feel like I am stuck in this continual punishment loop that I can't get out of no matter how hard I work at sobriety. It's...disheartening, to say the least.
I am hoping and praying for ya! However I must agree with the above post. I would in no way mention anything about your husband. You can be assured it will stamped in bold into your file. They would most definitely use it against you on some way. When I originally applied for my CNA way back when they grilled me on all my relationships : family included. When I was honest they basically used it against me and said I didn't have a support system!!!! These boards are judge mental and critical and have no idea about addiction!!!! They really should be required to have some knowledge about the addiction process. Keep us updated!!!
I could see these power-hungry boards putting some whacky condition into your contract like that you have to leave your spouse/significant other for the time the contract is active or something. They'd say that they don't want you to be around any triggers, and consider your spouse/S.O. a trigger.
Yeah. I ended up just mentioning that the apartment we want to rent is within walking distance of one English-speaking AA meeting and on the busline of another so that they know I am researching all this stuff.
Bought all the tours, outlined how to get to the stuff I haven't bought a tour for, have the dog boarding arrangements made -- just need to hear back from the company watching our cats and fish. Less then a month to go! Of course I have been UA'd 4 times in the last 18 days. Boo.
Specializes in ER, ICU/CCU, Open Heart OR Recovery, Etc.
So glad to hear you are getting close to departure! I'm so happy for you and your husband, and sincerely wish you both a bon voyage! Enjoy yourselves! You deserve it :)
Actually, I'm not surprised they are overdoing the testing. Very little surprises me when it comes to these programs.
I know right?? It's a bit stressful because I try not to drink much fluid because of my gastroparesis but I have to keep well hydrated on UA days which at the very least irritates my stomach...oh well.
Specializes in ER, ICU/CCU, Open Heart OR Recovery, Etc.
Yeah, I can appreciate the hydration part. I don't have the gastropareisis as you do, I just can't always pee on command. It's worse if you have to drive a ways to the clinic to give the specimen. I hate to hit the road with a full bladder so I have to pee before I leave. Then there's no telling how long I have to wait at the clinic before I can give the specimen, thusly I make sure I have water or liquid with me, one 12 oz to go container. Some days I feel like "This is just crazy. Does the average person have to think this out to the brass tacks like this? Good heavens. If I wait to go I'll pee my britches. If I drink water or juice before I go and pee, it might be considered Abnormal. Enough. "
Omaapecm, ASN, RN
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I am hoping and praying for ya! However I must agree with the above post. I would in no way mention anything about your husband. You can be assured it will stamped in bold into your file. They would most definitely use it against you on some way. When I originally applied for my CNA way back when they grilled me on all my relationships : family included. When I was honest they basically used it against me and said I didn't have a support system!!!! These boards are judge mental and critical and have no idea about addiction!!!! They really should be required to have some knowledge about the addiction process. Keep us updated!!!