Is your loved one sick of hearing nursing stuff?

[melisgood]

I was just wondering what you guys think and if anyone else if going through this....my husband has been so annoyed lately if I explain to him something exciting or something I found interesting. He said that I need to learn to leave school at school. The truth is....I love nursing and I'm really looking forward to graduating in May. I've been talking about where I want to work and what I want to do. My husband says he's not interested in nursing and doesn't really give a s***. I've been so sad and frustrated about this because I feel like I'm just annoying him all the time. I listen about his day and things that interest him. Is he being selfish or should I learn to not include him in my nursing career?

[Jules A, MSN]

Now I'm normally up for a good DH bashing, lol, but in this case don't think he is necessarily being selfish. My husband could give a rip about the nursing stuff I find so stimulating so I have the courtesy not to drone on and on about it. I'll give him the abbreviated version and then call my best girlfriend who is also a nurse and we have the major gab fests. Give the man a break ladies, if he is a good husband because 'they' normally aren't too keen on chatting no matter what the topic. :)

[melisgood]

sigh....that you all for responding. It is just so hard because I feel like school/nursing is such a part of my life and it's a big exciting change that I want to be able to share with him....We're going to talk it out with a counselor but I think he's just being selfish. He does ask about my day but he's told me before he only wants me to say good or bad and not to go onto it with him in detail...that drives him nutts. For now, I'll just spend more time with my fellow nursing friends so my husband doesn't have to hear me.

[melisgood]

Just in case I didn't make it clear...it's not nursing stories he hates hearing its school in general and my career path like where to work. He's just sick of hearing about it period.....I mean isn't that messed up he wants nothing to do with it? Wouldn't that hurt anyone's feelings?

[pixie0413]

My partner says the same type of thing minus the curse words of course. He has little interest in nursing just as I have little interest in his particular job.

So far we compromise by both trying to limit our evening dissusions in these areas. I'm learning that if he understands what I'm talking about he's alot more interested then when I start using too many nursing jargon. lol

Hopefully you guys can find a balance on this. :) Good luck!

[pixie0413]

It's not unfair if you monopolize the conversation w/ only you're concerns. You are excited, but nursing school really can be all encompasing. We must all remember there is a world outside of school!

[Jules A, MSN]

Just in case I didn't make it clear...it's not nursing stories he hates hearing its school in general and my career path like where to work. He's just sick of hearing about it period.....I mean isn't that messed up he wants nothing to do with it? Wouldn't that hurt anyone's feelings?

Doesn't matter if that would hurt anyone's feelings or not since it obviously hurts your feelings. He sounds like a man of few words, many men are, but it is up to you to decide if this is something you can live with or not. Unless you have other issues that you haven't added I'm not sure I'd be heading to counseling over this but thats just me. Wish you well nursing school is too stressful of a time to drag other junk into the mix.

[Woodenpug, BSN]

Sorry, I guess I don't relate. Thought You were talking nursing, not schoolin. just ignore my post.

[RhodyGirl, RN]

Your husband is not being supportive. The least he could do is pretend to be interested, and be polite about it. My husband doesnt give a rats behind about nursing, but he knows I am passionate about it so he listens!

Sorry for what you have to deal with, it's really unfortunate.

[graceomalleyRN, RN]

Evidently my message from my earlier post was misunderstood so I would like to make what I was trying to say clearer.

As a nursing student, I am too tired to care if I'm boring my loved ones with my nursing program. Quite frankly, I'm exhausted. I nearly fell asleep in Pharm last week.

Now that I've read the original poster's comments more closely though, I really feel badly for reading what her husband said to her.

While I really too tired to care whether or not I am interesting to my family at this juncture, I would really not want them to think that "I don't give a ****" about what's going on with them as the OP was so bluntly told. And I would be very hurt if my husband said that to me.

I'm hoping he was just having an overwrought moment, melisgood, and that he really is behind you. We are working too hard right now to not receive the same kind of support that we've given our husbands and families over the years.

Hope that clears up my original post's intention. Now I'm REALLY exhausted :)

Take care everyone and goodnight.

[penelopelp]

The use of the word "sh.." sounds inappropriate to me. I've run into a similar problem with my DH in that he gets tired of me going on and on about what I am doing. He would rather get home from work and then not talk about it at all. It's actually hard for me to get him to share with me! I try not to go "on and on" because I know he gets tired of it. I think you are coming across some differences in how males and females communicate. On the other hand, maybe there is a bigger issue here. He could feel neglected, or jealous, or something.

[Reese17]

In the beginning when family/friends would ask me how school was going I would go on and on and on, I got the impression they may have regretted asking me. So now when family/friends/whoever ask how school is going I just say "Its going ok". Sometimes I want to talk about the things I've done or seen but I feel they are just asking to be nice.

[lunden]

my friend told me to give her 2 days w/o talking about school or work