Ok, so i'm guessing that this issue has been discussed many times, but my problem is a little different. I'm in the end of my second year out of four now, so in clinical I know what I'm doing (most of the time). I've had some confidence problems in the beginning, but they resolved after second semester. This semester is a total nightmare for me! I have a tough instructor, and it wouldn't be a problem, i had tough instructors before. However, every time she grills me, instead of being confident (b/c most of the time i'm on top of things) I'm on the verge of crying. With her I start doubting all my actions and after I talk to her I feel very incompetent. She is very old fashioned and some things that she is very picky about having things done her way. I try to meet her expectations but sometimes its too much (i just run out of time, b/c other more important stuff needs to be done). Anyway, I have two weeks left, but I feel like i'm going to have a nervous break down. Im just very exhausted and i feel like i'm starting to lose passion in nursing Any tips would be nice, cuz i'm completely out of ideas!
Litenbug, calling someone names is intentional insult. Also, constructive advice does not begin with name calling. I expect an A student to have a decent grasp of communication skills, which is why your new claim of good intentions is hard to believe.
Your school situation makes more sense thanks to your second explanation. It's still miles from what the OP asked about and your knee-jerk reaction was out of line.
I think you will find that this probably won't be the last nurse/instructor you meet that makes you feel this way. You will feel that way as a student and as a new grad. You will feel that way giving report to the next shift sometimes too, if you do things differently than the oncoming nurse, or if you run out of time to do something you really should have done. Where I live, the culture of nursing has changed somewhat from the old "nurses eat their young" ways, but there are always a few that still operate that way. I have to say, I actually have learned to appreciate them as much as I fear their wrath. What you will find often if you look closely at them is that they are fiercly protective of their patients. When you are a student, your patients are their patients too. As a student and new nurse, you can be more dangerous to those patients than you will often realize, so the instructor is your buffer. Do your best to live up to her standards, and when you don't, LEARN from it. I have left many shifts in tears, but I'll tell you what, I will never forget the lessons learned during those shifts. Do the best you can, but accept you will never be perfect in the eyes of those kind of nurses or instructors. But you will probably be a better nurse in the end if you take to heart the things you can learn from them. Good luck!
Litenbug, calling someone names is intentional insult. Also, constructive advice does not begin with name calling. I expect an A student to have a decent grasp of communication skills, which is why your new claim of good intentions is hard to believe.
Your school situation makes more sense thanks to your second explanation. It's still miles from what the OP asked about and your knee-jerk reaction was out of line.
I have communicated effectively and would never intentionally insult anyone.
I wish everyone the best, but the fact of the matter is if we as students dont take the Instructors interactions and turn it into the betterment for ourselves, we would not prosper effectively in a real situation where there is madness and chaos.
I Thank-you for weighing in and making your contribution. I am always open for constructive advice.
Noone can "make" you feel something - how you feel is up to you. If you are prepared and know your stuff, then you just need to learn how to deal with her personality. You will meet all types in nursing, so consider it a learning experience. Some people are just nasty - you gotta cope with it anyhow.
Thank you for your advice everyone!!! I've been thinking about and reflecting on this situation and thanks to your tips I feel much better!! I'm sooo prepared for next week :) But really, you guys are great, thanks for your wonderful support!!!
I appreciate your advice. I understand your perspective, the reason I was offended is because "tough love" is just not what I needed in this situation. But thanks anyways. I do hope you have a great day in clinical!
I appreciate your advice. I understand your perspective, the reason I was offended is because "tough love" is just not what I needed in this situation. But thanks anyways. I do hope you have a great day in clinical!
Zele,
I just want the BEST for you and anyone (myself included) that works hard to be on their "A Game" in Nursing School so that the experience can be transformed into producing better Nurses. You will do well, stay focus, and don't give up, YOU'VE INVESTED TOO MUCH.
Any tips would be nice, cuz i'm completely out of ideas!
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Litenbug, calling someone names is intentional insult. Also, constructive advice does not begin with name calling. I expect an A student to have a decent grasp of communication skills, which is why your new claim of good intentions is hard to believe.
Your school situation makes more sense thanks to your second explanation. It's still miles from what the OP asked about and your knee-jerk reaction was out of line.