I'm such a horrible wife!!!

[amd75]

Just need to vent. My 10 year anniversary is the 10th. My husband planned a weekend to get away for our anniversary. i honestly wasn't looking forward to it...i know its horrible to say. But I have an exam and pharmacology exam next week. I also have to do my care plan and hand in my assessments on Tuesday at clinical. Easter is Sunday and I have to work Monday 3-11:30. I told him maybe we should do this in May when I'm not in school and don't have to stress about anything over the weekend. So naturally he got all ****** and canceled it. And he left the house. I totally understand him getting mad. But he is an RN and I thought he might understand a little how school is. Am I such a bad wife..cause that's how I feel Thanks for letting me vent

[goodstudentnowRN]

Hmmmm...I know the feeling. I have lost touch of the outside world...I am presently in a world all by myself. I have two children and I have to remind them that I will be done in six months. Hmmmm...it feels so good to say that...You will survive. I have been through worst than what you have described and still hanging in there.

[johnst10]

No, you're not a bad wife. However, you "typically" only have a 10th anniversary once. It is extremely special and a cause for immense joy and celebration. Do not allow the pressures of school to detract from your most important relationship. Who knows...maybe a little time away would actually help your performance during your crazy schedule next week. Nothing like decompressing every once in a while! Happy Anniversary! Been married 16 years, and my hubby is the absolute best.

And 10 years on the 10th is really cool. However. If you aren't going to be able to concentrate on enjoying it, maybe another 2 months would be better. Has no one celebrated Christmas or a birthday later?

[Meriwhen, ASN, BSN, MSN, RN]

You're not a bad wife, you're just stressed. If you haven't talked to him yet, do so and tell him how much you really appreciate what he did. And plan to reschedule for the first good weekend you have, even if it means taking along a textbook to read. Or make the first good free night you have a special night just for him. You will get past this, just hang in there and keep the lines of communication open. And like the others have said, definitely keep him in the loop about your schedule. He may not have realized how hectic things were for you.

My 10th anniversary was also on the 10th...it must have been a popular day for weddings But we knew it was a hectic time for both of us (we're both in school) so we planned a low-key day which ended up with 11 hours of sleep. And I don't mean "sleep *wink wink*" but honest-to-God snoring unconsciousness! We needed it :)

[Senorasami]

Fortunately, my anniversary is after the semester is over, but there have been times when I felt like such a horrible wife. My husband has taken over everything in regards to the house because I couldn't do it all. He's closer to our kids, he makes dinner, has cleaned up the house, and even got my nursing stuff together for me. What did I do for him? Um....still thinking of something. You are NOT a horrible wife. You are a nursing student that is not a normal college student and does not have a normal school schedule. When school is over, you will have some resemblence of your former life back and that's the time to really dote on your husband. I'm glad you were able to compromise.

May I make a suggestion? My husband and I had a long talk (several times) in regards to spending time together, and we came up with a plan to get away from everything for one full day at least once a month. We look at MY schedule and we plan our special day together usually after I've just finished with a test. It gives me a much-needed chance to relax after days of studying and to really enjoy my time with my husband. If we can't go out, then we'll stay at home all day and play video games with our kids and order in. Our favorites are "Guitar Hero Metallica, Guitar Hero, and Rock Band 1 & 2". The kids are happy, I get to spend time with my loved ones, and we're all not stressed out. It's worked out so far, and I feel much better.

As everybody has been saying, this too shall pass. Just hang in there.

[itsmyturn]

Happy anniversary to the both of you! At least you remembered...my husband and I both told each other later in the week, "hey, by the way, happy anniversary this past monday"! It was hilarious. School is stress on the entire family. And, it looks like you two figured it out so enjoy the plans you have revised!