I yelled at another nurse.

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I'm not proud of it, but I feel it was justified. This nurse is a known drama queen and can't talk about anything unless it is how much harder she has things than everyone else, how everything is about "me, me ,me." She runs around like a chicken with its head cut off. Most people can't stand her, but she has ONE thing going for her: the DON thinks she hung the moon.

We were working 3-11 last night. They were already short one night shift nurse and the other one called in. Drama Queen took the call in, and started carrying on about how she "could" stay until 3 am when the other nurse was scheduled to come in, but she was not going to take the whole building herself and be responsible for all those patients.

So, I agreed to watch my hall and we could both stay until 3 am.

A little while later Drama Queen came over and told me she was getting everyone bedded down "good" and I shouldn't have any trouble out of them. I said to hold on a minute, wasn't she staying until 3AM???

She just gave me this blank look. So I reminded her that if she was going to refuse to work the whole building by herself why should I be expected to?

She stood there a minute and then said, "Ok, you got me."

Later, she came charging up to the nurses station shaking with anger and said something was going on at her house and she was so mad she couldn't stand it and could I call anyone to come in and help.

Being the pushover I am, I told her to just go home at 11.

She calmed down almost immediately.

Later, I saw her chatting with the CNA's, laughing and going out to smoke. This ran all over me and the more I thought about it the madder I got. When she came over at 10:30pm to give me report and leave I couldn't stand it anymore. I told her she had more drama in her life than a soap opera and i just KNEW she was going to muster up some reason she couldn't stay like she promised she would. Furthermore, she expects everyone else to adhere to strict standards but these standards don't apply to her (she leaves two hours early every night, in spite of saying she has too much on her and carries a heavier workload than anyone else.)

Anyway, she gets real quiet and walks away, then comes back and starts making snarky remarks about how I had no right to talk to her that way. I shot back with some remarks of my own while she kept mouthing off and that is where it ended.

I wonder if I will get in trouble for this?

Why has this thread devolved into yet-another "blame the OP" session? I know that not everyone is blaming the OP, but like so many other times, there are unconstructive comments by people who seem to think everyone should always act perfectly. And the OP is getting blamed for the other person's bad behavior, because she "let" that person treat her badly. :angryfire I'm unsubscribing to this thread.

Why has this thread devolved into yet-another "blame the OP" session? I know that not everyone is blaming the OP, but like so many other times, there are unconstructive comments by people who seem to think everyone should always act perfectly. And the OP is getting blamed for the other person's bad behavior, because she "let" that person treat her badly. :angryfire I'm unsubscribing to this thread.

Thank you.

There will always be smug people who look down their noses at what most everyone would agree is an understandable (albeit not "professional") reaction to being taken advantage of...I'm not having a pity party, but I think it is downright comical to learn from the flawless few about hypocrisy.

It just proves time and again how the average person thinks they are better than the average person. They are more moral, ethical, professional...etc. They are quick to point out the flaws of others yet are blind to their own.

No, what I did wasn't professional, but it was human. I'm not a robot and I wouldn't expect anyone else to be, either. The DON has lost her cool so many times (in front of whoever happens to be standing there) I don't think you could contain it in a large book-and over less than what I showed my butt for) but I'd dare anyone to prove they have always taken the high road in life. I'd love to have their autograph.

Specializes in SICU, NICU, Telephone Triage, Management.

it's easy to come across as holier than thou. it's a lot harder to work to fix the problem. the losers here are the patients who end up being shortchanged in their care due to lack of staff or lack of professionalism in the staff. we are all human but some of us act more so than others.

i hope you find a better working situation so you don't get completely burned out.

Well, you had a right to feel pooped on but...you didnt say exactly where your confrontation took place. If it was at the desk in front of others, you could both be in some soup. Probably just you before it's over with since she "hung the moon" and all. I hope it goes well for you. Don't forget this little episode the next time the "queen" needs to leave early. Dont cover for her again. Let her cry. :)

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