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I was told to get the hell out of a clients home yesterday...

Without going into too much detail, this client lives at home with his wife. They are both in their late 80s. Yesterday was my first visit to care for them. The first few minutes went smoothly until I told them that I would be there for 3 hours per my agency. The husband then proceeded to tell me that what I had just said really ****** him off because I was putting time restraints on them. Wow! I attempted to diffuse the situation by apologizing but that only got him more upset. He finally told me to get the hell out of his house. As I stood up to leave, he told me that I was being disrespectful. I just turned around and left.

Luckily their housecleaner was there and witnessed this tirade of his. When I walked outside, she followed me and told me that Mr. G is an angry man and to not take it personally. I was more shocked at how he just blew up at me. Scary. I called the agency and told them what transpired and the lady there had the nerve to ask me if I would be going back. I told her that I would not. The clients anger scared me.

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    Anyone with that much of an explosive temper probably has a hard time keeping any care workers around for very long. If he has a problem with the schedule of caregivers he should talk to the agency as they are the ones who set the schedules.

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    I feel your pain. Years ago i worked as a support specialist. similar to home health aide. about the same but different title. the guy was really mean and one time i drove him to the store because he wanted cigarettes. I was new and didnt know what place he wanted to go to in the area because i was not familiar with that area. Anyways..he went on and on about how im such privilege little girl and that my parents paid for college and then he had the nerve to call me a n*gger. The next day when i went to his house he refused to let me in so I had to report it.

    If you feel that you are in danger report it . At the agency where i worked they said with him to leave the area if he became physically abusive. As in the past he has pulled knives on people. yikes. needless to say i left the job. It was not safe.

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    He complained about not having enough care time, but then eliminated all available time. This type of behavior certainly calls for an assessment by the clinical supervisor. He needs to be seen by the nurse.

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    A very, very similar thing happened to me with a very, very wealthy client. My agency's attitude was to practically accuse me of being the cause of my eviction. I told them straight up that the man, amongst other things, demanded RNs instead of LVNs. How that became my fault, I'll never know.

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    Heck, I get told to get the **** out at least twice a week! OK, I exaggerate but cantankerous family members seem to be pretty common! I think to myself "so you'd rather have no care than 3 hours of care?" Most of the time they'll settle down after they get to know you better.

    My agency would back me up if I stated I refused to be mistreated though. If I had one like Cali's that takes the family's side I would have to be faced with eating kibble for dinner pretty much before I would work for them again!

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    Kibble can be tasty with some of the new toppings that are out now. There are beef, chicken, and bacon flavors. And the sauces are fortified for your good health.

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    omg this happened to me a couple of weeks ago. The man was in a wheelchair and the moment he realized I would be there all day he freaked! He was screaming at me every time he saw me and even tried to catch a cab all because he couldnt go to the casino. Then he called his wife who was out of town and lied about me saying I wasnt helping him. It was strange because clients usually love me but not this one. Once they changed the HHA he was apparently a total sweet heart. Alzheimer's pts sometimes just dont have good days and take it out on us. Thats why I switched to LTC although its more work, I can remove myself from a situation once help arrives and know the resident will be safe still

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    It's funny how these clients assume that just because they have all the time in the day, we supposedly do, too.

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    I'm sorry that happened!

    I have a patient who has alzheimer's and I see her twice a week to give a shower, but everytime I go she'll tell me she had one already that she don't want one. It's usually a struggle to get her to get up. One day she got so ****** that she said "if you don't leave right now I am going to smack you!" lol I went into the other room called my boss, and they told me to go back the next day.. Thankfully she forgotten the whole thing and everything went smooth. I haven't yet came across a real mean patient.

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