I passed, you didnt.

__patiently_waiting · May 7, 2013

I think you should be proud of yourself. There's alot of people that are jealous because you're doing better & try to make you feel bad about doing good. I go through this same situation all the time. I graduated last year, and all of the girls I went to high school with, we all started college together. At first, we all used to talk about school then they started not doing so good. As of now, one is still in support classes & failing those, one girl dropped out after she failed all of her classes first semester, and one girl said she is thinking about not going back after this semester. I finished my first year of college w/ a 3.68 GPA and ready for the second year. Every time I tell them how well I am doing they don't seem interested at all or come up with an excuse for why they aren't doing good .. Sometimes they don't even respond to my messages about school (or say "oh"). Now we RARELY ever talk because I think they don't like the fact that I'm succeeding. The only thing you can do is be proud of yourself because you pushed yourself to do well & it's not your fault others aren't in the same boat.

Congrats on passing & Good luck! :up:

truckinusa, BSN, LPN, RN · May 7, 2013

I'm not saying you are doing anything wrong at all, but I just think if you are this good you should be helping others that are struggling to pass. I've offered my mediocre nursing school abilities to others, but nobody has taken me up. I would love some help from the students in study groups or the smarties, but have never made it into their cliques.

Hazel Newin · May 7, 2013

She may be disappointed that she didn't pass, but that's not your fault. Nursing school isn't for anyone, but you passed. You did good, be proud of yourself!

Trenata · May 7, 2013

She is probably embarrassed, even if she made it out not to care. It does matter! I would be supportive of her and offer help and reach out. Just keep trying every now and then, but don't force it. She probably needs some time to deal with the disappointment!

You are doing well, but somethings are harder for others for whatever reason - just because she doesn't work doesn't mean she isn't struggling with exhaustion (infant), studying, travel - whatever.

LadyFree28, BSN, LPN, RN · May 7, 2013

Congrats on passing your first semester!!!

One of the many lessons I learned on this wild rue of life, is that personal goals are a "solo" journey-that's why they are personal, lol. :)

Even if you have friends, extended family or close family members with you in the same college or program, it may be exciting and encouraging to be with someone familiar, however, ultimately the work is individual...and if it is challenging, the stress is at an all time high, and when you don't do well, the disappointment or personal failure, if the individual feels that way and internalizes it that way, you may not get the welcomed responses and congrats, or pays on the back, etc.

So, treat yourself. Have a small celebration, and then prepare for the next semester. Each semester will be more complex. Perpetration is the key to more victories! :)

FutureRNKKP · May 7, 2013

I'm not saying you are doing anything wrong at all but I just think if you are this good you should be helping others that are struggling to pass. I've offered my mediocre nursing school abilities to others, but nobody has taken me up. I would love some help from the students in study groups or the smarties, but have never made it into their cliques.[/quote']
Oh I'm not good at all...I wasn't in study groups (I feel more comfortable studying alone) and I'm def not a smartie at all...I passed by 1 point. It was actually the opposite she would act like she knew everything mainly because of the bachelors degree, and she would try to help me. And the first class she got a B I got a C, I think that since she did well in fundamentals she thought it was going be like that for med surg...before a test I would say "all I did was study all weekend" and she would say "she didn't study at all just glanced the book". So if I could of help I would, but she figured she knew the material and was going pass.

FutureRNKKP · May 7, 2013

Congrats on passing your first semester!!!
One of the many lessons I learned on this wild rue of life, is that personal goals are a "solo" journey-that's why they are personal, lol. :)
Even if you have friends, extended family or close family members with you in the same college or program, it may be exciting and encouraging to be with someone familiar, however, ultimately the work is individual...and if it is challenging, the stress is at an all time high, and when you don't do well, the disappointment or personal failure, if the individual feels that way and internalizes it that way, you may not get the welcomed responses and congrats, or pays on the back, etc.
So, treat yourself. Have a small celebration, and then prepare for the next semester. Each semester will be more complex. Perpetration is the key to more victories! :)

Yes I'm learning this. I'm in the next semester now and it's already a whirl wind.

FutureRNKKP · May 7, 2013

She is probably embarrassed, even if she made it out not to care. It does matter! I would be supportive of her and offer help and reach out. Just keep trying every now and then, but don't force it. She probably needs some time to deal with the disappointment!
You are doing well, but somethings are harder for others for whatever reason - just because she doesn't work doesn't mean she isn't struggling with exhaustion (infant), studying, travel - whatever.

I tried to reach out twice since the class ended one week ago, I ask her if she would re apply and try to get in for fall...and each time she says "we'll see" never an answer. So I'm not going to talk about the program with her anymore I'll let her come to me. And yes she may be embarrassed.

FutureRNKKP · May 7, 2013

She may be disappointed that she didn't pass but that's not your fault. Nursing school isn't for anyone, but you passed. You did good, be proud of yourself![/quote']
Thanks

nursefrances, BSN, RN · May 7, 2013

I agree with the other posters. Do this for you (and Khalil :) ) It is not a competition (well, it was to get IN to school, but you're in now. ), it is your future job and way to make a living.

Maybe you can talk to your SIL about other things and just leave schooling out of the conversations. It is humbling to not pass and for her it is probably like a raw wound that she will need time to heal.

Congratulations on passing your first semester. :) It does get harder so take it a step at a time. Keep studying, keep persevering. It will all be worth it. :nurse:

springchick1, ADN, RN · May 7, 2013

I'm not saying you are doing anything wrong at all, but I just think if you are this good you should be helping others that are struggling to pass. I've offered my mediocre nursing school abilities to others, but nobody has taken me up. I would love some help from the students in study groups or the smarties, but have never made it into their cliques.

I disagree. Just because she is doing well doesn't mean it is her responsibility to help others who are struggling. I am doing well in nursing school but I don't have the time or energy to carry someone else through. Some people don't want the help first of all and those that do want it will ask.