I felt like I should work in med surg to get hospital experience before becoming a NP, so I applied at this local hospital and was hired on the med surg floor. I like the job just fine, but it comes down to money. I couldn't afford to leave my old job (it was a 30% difference in pay between one job and the other) so I foolishly thought I could handle working both jobs. I'm so tired I can't give my new job the kind of dedication I am satisfied with. If I have to choose between one job or the other I will have to keep my old job. I feel awful, because I went through orientation and have worked about 4 shifts. They are even giving me a patient load now (is it normal to have a patient load after 3 days orientation?)
Anyway, I'm supposed to work there 12 hours tomorrow and I don't feel like I can do it. Will they be really mad at me for resigning? Do you think they will expect me to finish orientation? I'm supposed to be in orientation 4-6 weeks. What is the most gracious way to leave?
Should I show up tomorrow? Or send an email?
I need to get out the back, Jack, make a new plan, Stan...thanks for any advice.
no i read your whole post i read every page and every reply. No you did not intentionally take the job to quit it the first week but you set unrealistic goals. No i don't know you and i am really not judging you. But you just don't seem focused to me i understand money is important to you, in the end the experience is what you need. I would stay at the hospital a job where i will get real experience. I am not trying to take pot shots, just giving u a response obviously that you are taking to heart. But don't because that is what these forums are all about. You write a post and we respond you may not like all of the responses but it is what it is. People giving their opinions. Don't take it personal.
]no i read your whole post i read every page and every reply. No you did not intentionally take the job to quit it the first week but you set unrealistic goals. No i don't know you and i am judging you:angryfire. But you just don't seem focused to me i understand money is important to you, in the end the experience is what you need. I would stay at the hospital a job where i will get real experience. I am not trying to take pot shots, just giving u a response obviously that you are taking to heart. But don't because that is what these forums are all about. You write a post and we respond you may not like all of the responses but it is what it is. People giving their opinions. Don't take it personal.
that's better because according to the other poster, i am judging you and i don't care so let me reword this for you i am not here to sugar coat it.
Before you up and quit, you need to find out the policy. At my current employer, the consequence for quitting without adequate notification means you are not elligible for rehire, ever. You really should think long and hard before burning any bridges. You may need them as a reference one day.
I was not being realistic when I assessed my ability to work two jobs. I was being very stupid. What actually happened is that I got mad at my old job (nursing home administration and RN supervisor every other weekend, work the floor once in awhile when they are short) where I pretty much do as I please, in fact, I'm at work now) Anyway, I started feeling resentful because of positions some of the nurses here hold that I do not feel they are worthy of and so I felt like getting "back" at the facility (I wanted to get back at my DON, mostly, because I know he thinks highly of me, I heard him telling someone I was one of the top three nurses at this nursing home) so I went and got another job. In other words, I was acting like a spoiled brat, I accept full responsibility (please don't think lowly of me for admitting it.) When they told me what the hospital job paid, at the time I thought I could swing it but it didn't take long for me to realize what a dummy I was.
Anyway, I already left a letter to the CNO saying I would not be able to work full time and asked if they would consider me to work every other weekend. This would mean I would never have a weekend off but I feel guilty for coming this far and then splitting. The CNO actually came in to help cover the shift the next day and never mentioned the letter I had written her, though I know she got it because my preceptor told me she was wanting me to come talk to her to see what I was going to do. The CNO was very nice and friendly to me. Most of the staff there seem to like me, a couple of the doctors came and introduced themselves and welcomed me to the hospital, which made me feel two inches tall because in the back of my mind I was planning how I was going to get out of the job. I've been told I'm doing an excellent job for having never worked in a hospital. This is a rural hospital in a small town so everyone knows my business. I also have an unusual name so it sticks in peoples' minds. I've burned bridges at two other hospitals because I was hired then ended up not taking the job. I've even got a reputation here at the nursing home as being flighty, but I can't help it. There is so much to do and learn and I want to be a part of as much as I can. I'm conflicted because I have a family depending on my income, too. So, I know I will have to take the more boring job because of the money.
I'm so tired.
after reading this post, and the fact that you left two other jobs after you'd been hired, I don't know what to tell you. I would be tired too, but the NH job you have - you're beloved by admin - why would you quit? I understand you said you were acting spoiled, but why? Did you need a challenge? You were writing on AllNurses from work, and "doing as you please" - sounds like a cushy job to me. I think before you took that job that you want to quit, it should've been limited part-time - why not try to renegotiate the position, if they would. Tell them you've overextended yourself and would like to try the position in a lesser capacity. Maybe hospital nursing is just much harder to you than NH nursing and you've overextended yourself. I took a Part time job in a NH while I was PRN at a hospital and I quit after a few weeks. It was so boring - hated it. I tried to do it just to supplement my income, but it was too awful for even that - I sucked it up and budgeted elsewhere.
And I know I shouldn't be on the computer at work, which is my point. I'm so bored. They know I get on the computer, too. In fact, the ADON reminded me I wouldn't be able to piddle on the computer and do as I please at the hospital. I'm like the one on standby. For example, we just had a situation where a resident was trying to leave AMA and no one could get ahold of his doctor. So...I had to go talk to the patient and try to calm him down and then find a way to get ahold of the doctor. Now, I'm back at the computer because it's boring again. I'm kind of like the standby person here. I'm available to take over a med cart, call the doctor, round with the doctor, take orders, deal with staffing issues, pharmacy issues, incident reports, patient and family complaints, help the LPN assess patients to see if they need to go to the hospital, draw stat labs..(jack of all trades and master of none, I guess) Then it's back to sitting. It may be handy to have me around but the work I don't find very satisfying. Thanks for listening to me vent.
What a great job you have. You could be such a great help to the floor nurses if you got over being bored and got your nose out of the computer. I'm sure there is more you could be doing if you just asked or dug a little. I'm not trying to be judgemently but as a floor nurse sometimes I'm too busy to call the house sup and wonder why she doesn't magically appear. Not fair but true.
Are you ADD? Are you taking meds or seeing someone? As someone who suffers I recognize the work and emotional symptoms.
Good luck You've already had some good advise from others. Please let us know what happens.
"The grass is always greener on the other side" syndrome...but wait darn it!. "You will never know until you've tried"... Or..or, how about, "You don't know what you have until you lose it... but again...
The list just goes on and on. There are always pros and cons to every situation, but in the end, it must reflect what suits you, your wants and needs. You're "flighty", because you want to have it all, or at least an experience of everything.
Which just means you haven't found your niche yet. Some are lucky to spot it right away and some never do find it. The thing is to find something that you like and work at it till you love it or at least come to terms with it.
Right now, being economically sufficient trumps the other one. You sound like a helper everyone wants to have around.
Find things to occupy your time, get creative and get so darn efficient at what you do, that it becomes a passion with you. Perhaps in time, you'll come to feeling truly needed and not just a "jack-of-all-trades".
If we only had it set in stone on what our paths in life would be...ask GOD. I'm still asking HIM.
I'm such a coward when it comes to letting people down. The people at both jobs have been nothing but good to me, which makes it all the worse. I think you all are absolutely right, it would be more than tacky to drop an email to let them know I can't cut the mustard, but facing the CNO is going to be horrible. For one thing, she is so sweet, how can I be ungateful like that? Why do I keep doing stupid things to make life hard? Why can't I be content? Why do I get myself in these messes? Why am I not happy unless I have something to stress out about? It's killing me.
And I know I shouldn't be on the computer at work, which is my point. I'm so bored. They know I get on the computer, too. In fact, the ADON reminded me I wouldn't be able to piddle on the computer and do as I please at the hospital. I'm like the one on standby. For example, we just had a situation where a resident was trying to leave AMA and no one could get ahold of his doctor. So...I had to go talk to the patient and try to calm him down and then find a way to get ahold of the doctor. Now, I'm back at the computer because it's boring again. I'm kind of like the standby person here. I'm available to take over a med cart, call the doctor, round with the doctor, take orders, deal with staffing issues, pharmacy issues, incident reports, patient and family complaints, help the LPN assess patients to see if they need to go to the hospital, draw stat labs..(jack of all trades and master of none, I guess) Then it's back to sitting. It may be handy to have me around but the work I don't find very satisfying. Thanks for listening to me vent.
or maybe do some school work? Geez, I'd love to have a "boring" job where the bosses love me. Sounds like a dream! Maybe you could round on the nurses and help them out? See residents? Talk with people? Be proactive in making your work life less boring!
no i read your whole post i read every page and every reply. No you did not intentionally take the job to quit it the first week but you set unrealistic goals. No i don't know you and i am really not judging you. But you just don't seem focused to me i understand money is important to you, in the end the experience is what you need. I would stay at the hospital a job where i will get real experience. I am not trying to take pot shots, just giving u a response obviously that you are taking to heart. But don't because that is what these forums are all about. You write a post and we respond you may not like all of the responses but it is what it is. People giving their opinions. Don't take it personal.
she wrote she had unrealistic expectations about the two jobs (or something along those lines). She admitted her part in all of it. Give her a break.
that's right ugghhh unbelievable. if that is judging oh well this is the real world no body has to sugar coat things for people. *** are you people serious. if that is judging then hell i am judging your a$$.. and you sound dumb as well talking about i might as well work at star bucks for 8 dollars an hour then go work there.
Get a grip! It's responses like that that are "uggggg unbelievable."
side note here - why is everyone writing two weeks for providing notice? professional standard is four weeks, sometimes six!
From my experience (and admittedly, I have not worked in a hospital) 2 weeks is standard for floor nurses; 4-6 seems to be more the norm for management. :)
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]no i read your whole post i read every page and every reply. No you did not intentionally take the job to quit it the first week but you set unrealistic goals. No i don't know you and i am judging you:angryfire. But you just don't seem focused to me i understand money is important to you, in the end the experience is what you need. I would stay at the hospital a job where i will get real experience. I am not trying to take pot shots, just giving u a response obviously that you are taking to heart. But don't because that is what these forums are all about. You write a post and we respond you may not like all of the responses but it is what it is. People giving their opinions. Don't take it personal.
that's better because according to the other poster, i am judging you and i don't care so let me reword this for you i am not here to sugar coat it.