Published Aug 15, 2009
Harlene
12 Posts
Nursing was my second degree, I finished BS chemistry first but it wasnt my choice. It was my mom's. Leaned to love it while studying it. After that, My dad suggested Nursing, then I took it, I'm a good child you know. Then I discovered that Nursing was for me. On my third and fourth year, during clinical trainings, I never complained, in fact I wanted more. After each day of training, though exhausting, it was fulfilling. After finishing Nursing, I took our local board exams and passed it. Due to some reasons, i have to leave my country. I went to Toronto for a while to take care of my grandma. After a year and a half, I put my self in an ugly situtation because of ignorance. So I went back home. Then I discovered I LOST it. I tried applying for jobs because maybe it will help me regain the passion I used to have. Sadly, I can't find any work related to nursing. Honestly, i think i lost my passion about life. Its been 5 months now, and I really want to work as a nurse.
Any advice there?
Will appreciate it so much. thanks:D
SonyaSN2010
10 Posts
You know passion is not going to walk to your front door and give you hug. You have to embrace it!
From what I read in your entry, it appears that you've allowed others to influence you. Even though these have been positive influences, like your parents. Now is the time to follow your heart (and brain), and receive your blessings.
However, I'm a little concerned when you say that you've lost your passion for life. It might be a good thing to get an assessment. Remember-- mental health is wealth!
jules2980
21 Posts
If you're able, maybe you could try volunteering, mission trip, etc. They always motivate me and remind me why I want to be a nurse. Perhaps it might do the same for you. From your post however, it seems like there might be more than that going on. Hope you find some peace and passion for whatever it is you want to do.
carluvscats
225 Posts
Harlene, if you have "lost your passion for life" it will spill over into everything.... your career, relationships, how you view yourself and perceived weaknesses/strengths, etc etc. It sounds to me like a third party might help you sort through all of it and give you some perspective and encouragement. In the past, counseling has helped me tremendously; saved my life, really.
You certainly deserve to be happy in life and career. :) I wish you the best on your journey and hope that you will find answers along the way.
Peace (and a hug!) to you.
jrbl77, RN
250 Posts
I, too had lost my passion for nursing. I am in a little different time in my life than you are. However, I found that I was really depressed. I took time off work- withoput pay as I was new to my current job and got treatment for depression. Yes, I take 2 meds for depression and big doses, but feel good and return to work on Monday after 7 weeks. I am looking forward to getting back to nursing. I hope I have contained my burnout- lost passsion and can be the nurse I once was. You really need to seek profressional help if you have lost your passion for life. I understand- I would lay in bed with the covers pulled over my head just a few months ago. all I could think about was how death would solve my problems- not killing myself- just if I was dead. I feel much better now. I hope that you can find peace and happines with yourself and in your life. good luck.
yalienne
99 Posts
Did your grandma die? I wonder if this is why you have lost your passion for life?? Definitely try speaking to someone you trust about your life. They might be able to help you see things a little bit clearer.
When you go for job interviews, make sure you have on a positive attitude. Smile even though your heart is aching.
Good luck my dear. A BIG hug to you.
tattooednursie, LVN
660 Posts
I too had lost my passion for nursing and for life. I think the reason both seemed to happen at once, is because I chose to make nursing my life. When I wondered if nursing was going to work out for me or not I was feeling pretty hopeless.
I saved up some money and PTO to take some time off work. I had not really had time off in 7 years. I toook 6 weeks of. I made sure to stay away from all things nursing. Then I travled, partied, and basically became a free spirit over those 6 weeks.
I don't know if you have kids, husband or boyfriend. If you possibly can, do something like that. Don't worry about pleasing anyone else, just do what would please you.
I've been back to work for a while now, and with an entirely new outlook on life.
4pancakes
124 Posts
Hello Harlene,
To get your passion back for life ,and nursing, try Jesus. He is the BEST DOCTOR I KNOW!!! He Can Fix All your Problems!!!! But, what ever you do, don't give up!!!! Give in to the Lord,and he will direct your path. Only trust in him!!!! I will pray for you to discover the peace you need...The passion of knowing Jesus and having a relationship with him! This post is meant to up lift not to offend anyone. Peace in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ!!
I have Jesus Christ in my life and I did not have any passion for research as a graduate student. I too once lost my passion for life during that time frame and the will to live. I just existed. So, I dont think that having JC in one's life will help the OP find her passion in nursing. I think JC might place the right people in her life to guide her in finding her passion in life. That starts by talking with a mental health professional or a friend that the OP trust. The OP needs to be proactive about making changes in her life. God help those who help themselves. So by her talking on this forum that is a proactive first start.
JomoNurse
267 Posts
very few people with whom i work have a so called "passion" to be a nurse. they're there because it pays damn well for only a 2 year degree, you work 3 days a week, you wear comfy clothes, and they have a mortgage to pay. i really don't know if there's a way for you to get your passion back or if this is just reality settling in.
Thank you all for your reply. Means a lot to me. For 5 months, I have excluded my self from society. I didn't meet up with my friends. I was embarrassed with what happened to me. And I dont feel like talking. My grandma didn't die, its just because of my ignorance that I put myself in a bad situation. Then I had a knee injury, which I dont know If I can still run. I looked for jobs related to nursing, but I couldn't find any. And at home, I know life is becoming harder, and I know I'm becoming a burden to my parents. They keep on saying "don't you worry, Harlene..."
Recently, a lot of known people are dying in my country, and my mom said," I still dont want to die.." the moment she said that, I uttered " I want to." I saw her face, I know she was hurt with what I said.
JRBL77 was right. Its not like I want to commit suicide, I just want to be dead. I feel like I have no use anymore.
Ive been crying sometimes before I go to sleep. Its like I cant even make a plan for my self. Or even decide on simple things.
I am religious. I believe in God. But maybe I dont believe in my self....