I'm going to try to make this post as short as possible...
I have a friend and we've been best friends for over 15+ years (We're both 18 now). Well, both of our future goals since HS was to become a RN and then move in together once we graduate nursing school, then later on become traveling nurses together.
But now she's saying that she doesn't want to be a nurse anymore or get her CNA license with me next summer because there are too many pre-reqs and she doesn't want to take the nursing admission exam because she's horrible at math.
So I said "Alright, what do you want to be because there's no point paying for these expensive classes and you don't know what you want to do yet". So long story short, she now wants to major into something else where you can make a lot of money with just a bachelor's degree (She wants a career that can make over 50,000+ annually).
So I recommend just about everything in the book that she could major in with a bachelors and still make a lot of money (like a biology technician). But she didn't even consider those things either.
So I looked online (more like glanced) and I found out about a Scrub Tech and told her that they can make up to 40,000 a year. Now she wants to become a scrub tech and she just forgoed her seat out of the university we're enrolled into to pursue that career at a local CC. I didn't even know she was planning on doing that rash move.
But now I honestly believe that I just set her up because what if she changes her mind again and wants to come back to the university to become a nurse again? I researched a Scrub Tech a little more and it says that an associates degree Scrub Tech can make the 40,000 annual, not the certificate one. And now she believes that.
I'm afraid to tell her that, because she'll no doubt be pissed at me for feeding her B.S and telling her that she'll make good money. But she now cannot enroll back into the university.
I feel so guilty and horrible now that I did that to her and I'm just looking for anyone to tell me how should I go about the situation now. I honestly feel like I stabbed her in the back and she's my only friend.
I think you should just mind your business and face YOUR studies. If nursing is truly what you want to pursue then buckle down and start foccusing in your education.
Indeed. Nursing school will be your 97% focus for several years, especially if you also work. The other 3%: sleeping, eating, and apologizing to people for not being around until they drift away.
Seriously think about this. It will be as if you moved to another continent. You are going to meet different people, keep a different schedule, and use a different vocabulary. You are going to have different problems and different priorities. You start seriously considering what it means to respect another person's autonomy. Your personal boundaries become more defined. You are going to meet people with whom you have nothing in common with except nursing school, and they will be the people you spend time with, laugh with, and go to for support.
When you do see your friend, it will be like trying to explain Game of Thrones to someone who doesn't own a TV. There is too much backstory, too many weird words, and a totally different culture.
You can still be friends with your bestie, but it will take conscious effort and mindfulness from both of you.
Sorry to be so dramatic, but this is a challenge when people's lives diverge right after high school.
RNrhythm, BSN, RN
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Indeed. Nursing school will be your 97% focus for several years, especially if you also work. The other 3%: sleeping, eating, and apologizing to people for not being around until they drift away.
Seriously think about this. It will be as if you moved to another continent. You are going to meet different people, keep a different schedule, and use a different vocabulary. You are going to have different problems and different priorities. You start seriously considering what it means to respect another person's autonomy. Your personal boundaries become more defined. You are going to meet people with whom you have nothing in common with except nursing school, and they will be the people you spend time with, laugh with, and go to for support.
When you do see your friend, it will be like trying to explain Game of Thrones to someone who doesn't own a TV. There is too much backstory, too many weird words, and a totally different culture.
You can still be friends with your bestie, but it will take conscious effort and mindfulness from both of you.
Sorry to be so dramatic, but this is a challenge when people's lives diverge right after high school.