In nursing we all do things that we look back on and we are proud of. Even though we do it we don't always acknowledge it. So I double dawg dare you, just HOW have you made a difference in a single person.
Let's face it, it is always easy to point to another and show what they have done, now I challenge you to show what YOU have done. Think long and hard about this. It could be a smile at the right time, holding someone's hand at the right time, breaking rules such as taking your mask off in OR to show your smile to a pt too fearful to undergo surgery before they are put under.
I think those of us in nursing need to respect what we have done vs. what we were unable to do. So.. what is yours?
I have a favorite. It was H. I referred to him earlier in a different thread.
H was 90+ years old and a hermit. He looked like what Jesus Christ would look like at 90+ years old... long beard, long hair, the works.
I used to try to get him to come out of him room and join in fun with other LTC pts. He refused. So I would go to his room and talk. Verrry little talking with Herbie. There, I wrote his name. He deserves nothing less.
My all time favorite thing to do was to get my old folks to tell me what life was like when they were my age. Considering I was about 25 and Herbie was about 92, we had a lot to discuss.
I would ask him questions. Example, during the holidays I would ask what a Christmas tree looked like when he was my age. He would explain that his family didn't have money. They would use food (popcorn, fruits, etc.) to decorate their tree. It was amazingly hard to get Herbie to talk, but when he did he was very interesting.
In our main building we would have a variety of trees during Christmas. I tried to cover everyone's beliefs and traditions.
One year I paid especially close attention to what Herbie explained his trees. Herbie was kind of cold, standoffish, not really wanting to elaborate on anything. It was clear he was merely annoyed at amusing me with his stories. Well, I did pay attention and I listened to exactly what he told me.
One of our trees was exactly as I pictured Herbies trees from when he was younger. Fruit and popcorn for decorations, candles for lights. Paper people cut out in place of tinsel. A hand-drawn angel to top the tree. (That was beyond my skills, had an artist patient do that one for me.)
I finally had the tree decorated JUST as I understood Herbie to describe it. It was about 10PM. I went to Herbie's room. I woke him from a deep sleep. I apologized, yet begged him to come with me. Most annoyed he did as I requested. I took him to the main building where everyone else was asleep and we had the room to ourselves. I had an employee whose ONLY job that night was to watch that ONE tree. It had live candles lighting it. ALL that employee had to do that night was to watch the candles so the tree didn't catch on fire. (Needless to say, I had a LOT of offers for that job that night!)
Hand in hand, Herbie and I walked into the main dining area where we had several trees, including HIS tree.
We sat down and he looked at that tree in awe. He just stared at that tree, I quickly realized I did a good job. It was as he described. I could easily tell just by watching Herbie.
We sat there for the longest time just watching the tree. Without moving his eyes from the tree he put his hand on mine and said, "Thank you, child."
That still makes me feel good to this day. In nursing we all get caught up in the pressures of the job. But we all do good things for people too. It might be simple or it might be elaborate. Or... it might be inbetween.
I think during a time of stress (our very jobs!) we need to focus on what we do quite well.
So, what IS it you do well? What have you done or what do you want to do to impove how you feel about your patients, or more important, how you feel about yourselves?
Com'on... I risked telling my story. The least you can do is to not leave me hanging. What have you done or what do you want to do?
Mods... I *need* this thread for reasons I'd prefer not to go into detail. Please don't move it. I need to hear from my fellow medical peers.
my eyes out.
~He explained that something that little can get a chill. They will die if they get a chill. I repeated to him that I was buried that day, the best I could do was to find an appropriate place for the kitten when I got off work. I shrugged my shoulders, said I was quite sure the kitten would be fine for a few hours.
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I once turned my head and allowed a family to sneak a chihuahua in to see her owner who was terminally ill. Yeah, health code regulations and all that stuff...I can honestly say it was the right thing to do. That little dog laid under her owner's covers for 4 or 5 hours, never made a sound and didn't hurt a thing. My patient was recieving pallitive care at the time...terrible pain , grieving about the things he shoulda, woulda, coulda done in his life. The spark that lit up in his eyes when his daughter pulled that little pooch out of her (rather large) handbag made it worth any trouble I may have gotten into. As it turned out, no one was ever the wiser and he died a short time later. The episode gave my patient and his daughter one last good memory of mischievous fun together. Now that's what nursing is all about!