what should I do with classmate/ friend who won't study but will complain about failing?

[Goal_NP]

We started school this fall, I became friends with classmate, however everything was doing alright, until she start complaining a lot how she gets bad grades, how the test are so hard and she is struggling.( because she doesn't study that much :)

My point of view, Test isn't that hard if you study a lot and particle nclex questions.I have A's and B's, but lately I been getting mostly A's,since I have been pushing myself extra hard...so should I still be friends with her...I feel like she is slowing me down:(

[caliotter3]

I vaguely recall having met only one instructor though the years and many instructors I have interacted with, who projected distress at failing students. This individual was young and in the beginning of her career. Other instructors indicated that they knew where to draw the line at where their responsibility as an instructor, and the student's responsibility as a student, cross. You can't do it for your friend and you can't sacrifice yourself for your friend's grade. Take care of yourself first and help as long as you see that they are doing their part, but even then, there is a point where you have to cut them loose to succeed or fail on their own.

[yoshi2560]

If it means enough to you to stay friends with her and interact with her in classes or whatnot, I honestly would just tell her how you feel. You're both in nursing school and will need to communicate about things that are hard to talk about. You'll need to know how to approach the topic and explain your concerns and she'll need to know how to take constructive criticism (assuming you approach the conversation respectfully). A similar situation happened to me within my clinical group. We are 6 people together for the length of our program, which is great but obviously causes tension sometimes. The only way we're able to get through it is talking to each other about what bothers us. Good luck!

[Mischka]

Yeah, I am an A student (so far lol) and have a classmate who skips a bunch of classes, doesn't study and then messages me and asks if I want to come to school 3-4 hours early on a test day "to review material" with her? Or she'd say, oh you got such a good mark, lets study together for our next midterm or whatever...the whole reason I do well is because I go to study groups, study a lot (on my own!) and do not miss classes. And it's one thing when people have kids at home, or work to put themselves through school, this I do understand and I'm always willing to help. But if you skip school because you went to see a baseball game with your boyfriend, or you were just too lazy to leave your house, sorry I do not have sympathy for you and I'm not going to waste my time explaining material to you.