I am looking for advice or words of encouragement as my self esteem is in my toenail this morning. My husband and I have been married for ten years and have two little boys ages six and four. My husband has been unsupportive thru pre-req's well hell who am I kidding when I worked full time for many years with babies he was unsupportive then too and never even missed an hour of work when they were sick. So, anyway.....now nursing school starts this week and I'm scared to death about failing!!! I asked my husband to help out a little more while I do this and suggested laundry or picking up around the house and OMG....he went ballistic on me!!! I was in tears this morning talking to my mother about it and she made it clear that he would love to see me fail so he could throw that in my face too!! Obviously I do not plan to stay married to him and I am sure he feels the same way......this nursing program is accelerated and is only one year........please let me know if any of you think this seems too hard or if you have had similar experiences please let me know.....I just think he feels threatened by this....
Unforetunately some men are so threatened by anything thier wives do that makes them independent. That is what is going on in your house. I was married to this jerk's soulmate for 20 years, had three children and fought like heck with him about everything from housework to spending time with my dying mother, I put off nursing school and really put it out of my head and just worked full time and took care of the kids, the house the shopping, laundry etc by myself, one day I just took my kids and left, literally, just me the kids and the clothes on our back, plus a few garbage bags of clothes etc. it took me 10 years to rebuild my life and now I graduate in June 09 from my ADN program. Leave now, immediately, can you stay with mom for a while or go on welfare, a woman's shelter whatever you need to do, but go. What your doing now is a good thing, you and your kids will have a wonderful future, and you will be happy.
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Unforetunately some men are so threatened by anything thier wives do that makes them independent. That is what is going on in your house. I was married to this jerk's soulmate for 20 years, had three children and fought like heck with him about everything from housework to spending time with my dying mother, I put off nursing school and really put it out of my head and just worked full time and took care of the kids, the house the shopping, laundry etc by myself, one day I just took my kids and left, literally, just me the kids and the clothes on our back, plus a few garbage bags of clothes etc. it took me 10 years to rebuild my life and now I graduate in June 09 from my ADN program. Leave now, immediately, can you stay with mom for a while or go on welfare, a woman's shelter whatever you need to do, but go. What your doing now is a good thing, you and your kids will have a wonderful future, and you will be happy.
Good luck and feel free to pm me anytime