How is school effecting your relationship?

[busybeaver]

About every two weeks my boyfriend comes to me with the "we need to talk". Basically the talk boils down to that he's not getting the amount of attention he needs. I try to explain that school won't last forever and it won't always be this way, but he's still unhappy.

We have dinner together every night and always do something fun together on the weekends. I feel we're lucky to have this much time together, but he still feels neglected! If I'm with him I feel guilty about neglecting my studies. If I'm studying I feel guilty about not spending time with him. It seems like I'm in a no win situation.

Any suggestions on how to balance school and relationships, and also maintain your own sanity?

[bamamomof4]

I think dinner every night and weekend dates are plenty. I've got three dks and I don't get that much "private" time with my own husband. We rarely go out on weekends and he works the entire time so I'm at home with the dks. Dinner is usually just one interruption after another. We get a little time after we put the dks to bed but we're both so exhausted we fall asleep on the couch.

If your bf feels neglected now then you should seriously think about it before or if you ever decide to have dks. I feel he needs to be a little more understanding. I bet if the situation were reversed (as in my situation) he wouldn't think HE was doing anything wrong and he'd just expect you to get over it.

Good luck and I hope things get better.