How do I get over this?

[RNOTODAY]

I had a very good job at a very prestigious hospital. Unfortunately, I had a bad year, I was depressed soo bad, I called offf alot, even took a couple months on FMLA. After I used all those FMLA days, I still called out alot. They were very patient with me, but, a new manager came in, and I was terminated,,,,, after being sent home by occupational health, and taking subsequent days off.....This job was perfect. It was great money, all the OT i wanted when i wanted it, benefits perfect, I moved closer to be near it, everything. Now I am in a very small community hospital where they send you home on a regular basis, because they just dont have the volume , the benefits are three times what i was paying, and they suck...... has anybody been in this situation? I am just heartbroken, and I cant beleive I lost this job. I feel like a loser, and I desperately want to be in a level 1 trauma center again. Any advice or words of wisdom? Please?

[HappyWife77, BSN, RN]

Yes I just meant to take of you. I hope your husband can let go of the resentment and push for your health rather than a cash cow job. Maybe try to find a support group where you share with others that are going through similar struggles.

[RNOTODAY, BSN, RN]

Thank you everyone who posted thus far with words of encouragement....and wisdom

[RNOTODAY, BSN, RN]

My husband has absolutely no regard for depression, anxiety, etc.... his suggestion is to just get over it (being depressed, anxious) so I get zero support from him, in that regard. He absolutely resents the whole situation.

[RNOTODAY, BSN, RN]

He is , in my opinion, emotionally retarded. He feels too little, I feel too much.

[LadyFree28, BSN, LPN, RN]

Understand that MOST of the public thinks people who suffer from depression and other mental health crises that we should "snap out of it", including our own peers.

The most you can do is either help him understand, which may include couples therapy, as well as you understanding that what happened is a economical strain, but your health coming first and conveying that.

Best wishes.

[NurseDirtyBird]

I've had similar issues with family members. Some said depression is "just selfishness," like I had control over it. Who the hell would choose to feel that way?!? Mental illness is poorly understood by people who don't have it. I've had family members of patients with schizophrenia or dementia complain that their loved one, "has no grasp on reality! I just can't make them understand!" Well duh. And people with mental illnesses who are still mostly functional, like with mood disorders are even more confusing. "She was fine yesterday, and now all of a sudden, she won't get out of bed! Why doesn't she just get up?"

It's very frustrating.

Try this:

The Truth about Depression BBC Full Documentary 2013 - YouTube

[cardiacfreak, ADN]

I agree mental illness is not understood by most people, especially depression. It baffles me that people are starting to understand that drug/alcohol addiction is a disease, but when will it be understand that depression is a disease?

OP, I hope you can find a very good support system.