How to face tomorrow

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I recently found out that I was pregnant, hadn't even told DH yet. This wasn't a planned pregnancy, so I still had mixed feelings on it. Found out that I was 2 months along on Thurs. Friday night (my birthday) got to end up in the ER, bleeding/cramping. I lost it :( I'm working on sorting out my feelings, and in private I can let my shock/pain/anger/grief come through. I go back to work tomorrow, and people knew about me being pregnant (good ole grape vine). I've been thinking about what I will say to co-workers who ask how I'm/the baby is doing, etc, and I'm completely at a loss. I don't know if I can keep up the "strong, capable nurse" facade. I can't even do it at home around my kids.

Sorry to hear of your loss. It does take time to heal. I hope you have supportive people around you. Take the time off you need. Sending caring thoughts to you.

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((hugs)) I am so sorry for your loss, if its do-able take some time,, Nursing is hard enough to do when you are all togther.. Keeping you in the prayers

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Specializes in Psych and Substance Abuse.

This is a time when the grapevine could be used to your benefit. I remember when a coworker of mine lost one of her babies and she wanted it to get around before she came back so there would be less questions being asked when she returned. I'm sorry for your loss. I can only imagine how hard this must be.

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I've lost three. You need to take some time off, if you had any bleeding you'll want to rest up a bit and not overdo it. It takes time to heal the heart too.... I had great help from a infant loss grief support group. And my last loss was 2.5 years ago, but I still cry at times at the thought of what I had anticipated, that never will be.

Thinking of you...:icon_hug:

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Specializes in LTC/Rehab,Med/Surg, OB/GYN, Ortho, Neuro.

Thank you all that have responded, your words mean more to me than you could ever know. I wish I could take time off of work, but I was actually just counseled earlier in the week about my absences (4 days so far this yea - 3 for my kids who can never get sick at the same time, and 1 for my morning sickness that was severe). I tried to call my DON today, but can't get a hold of him, will talk to him tomorrow. DH is out of town for work for the next couple of weeks. He had an idea we were pregnant when he left. I just can't imagine having this conversation on the phone, so I'm going to wait until he gets home.

Again, thank you all soooo much for everything. This site and the people are wonderful.

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hey there, thinking of you and wondering how you are doing???

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Specializes in ER.

It's crazy to go into work, and surely your DON would agree. Offer a doctor's note, this is really too much for one person to face, especially with your husband out of town.

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