BeatsPerMinute, BSN, RN 327 Posts Specializes in Critical Care. Has 9 years experience. Oct 2, 2022 On 9/27/2022 at 2:18 PM, CommunityRNBSN said: I definitely agree with “don’t stand there and wait for her to acknowledge you.” She’s already rude and/or doesn’t like you, so why are you trying to be polite? Walk up and say “Excuse me, Susan, I need you for a moment.” I’m sure it feels like interrupting, because people are talking. But if they’re talking socially and you need help with work, you have every right to loudly talk over them to get her attention. Yes, people might think you’re being rude— so what? She’s already being rude to you, so I wouldn’t worry too much about how you appear. Beyond speaking professionally and keeping a neutral/pleasant look on your face. Very fair point. I think my hesitation comes from the fact that she knows how to run the place and get things done - again, has many valuable traits.. She WILL complain about others and she has the upper hand in many areas. I have noticed that whether it be me or a few others (usually, its the younger nurses) asking for help when drowning Even if all she is doing is telling a story totally unrelated to work... and has been chatting for nearly 45 mins - it is like dare I interrupt that story tellingtime for when I legit need help. Somehow, it's always my fault. didn't get a break yet and it's almost 5pm (but I'm still interrupting her story teling time) = I am a nuisence and she is quick to try to tell others and management that it's obvious that I (or others) just cannot "handle things" Current boss has heard things here and there and has been taking those things with a grain of salt when this charge nurse complains... however, still concerning for me. Again.. this charge nurse knows what she's doing... She can be rude all day. It's that fear of me upsetting her too often and running to boss to tell her all about it with all of the right words is where the anxiety comes from. I'm guessing my biggest problem is knowing how to step up for myself that is firm however professional and in a way that this charge nurse can't really use against me? Finding those words is hard in situations like this.. or maybe it's just me? Honestly, I do not know.