Nursing & Depression - page 42

While visiting in the lounge one day, we discovered that every nurse there was on an anti-depressant. I have had 'Treatment Resistant Depression' for about 20 years--as long as I've been a nurse. ... Read More

  1. by   mario_ragucci
    Originally posted by nursechris1
    Another factor that makes depression worse, is having a spouse who does not understand it, and who makes snide comments about me taking meds, telling me I am "gorked out".
    You tell your husband he is a sick and stupid (the truth) person. Thats lower than making fun of someone with any injury or disease. Worse because your ignorant and unloving. I'm sorry :-(
  2. by   nursechris1
    Actually he could use the antidepressants worse than me, but he doesn't think so. I just made up my mind that its no different than being diabetic, or having hypertension.
  3. by   VivaLasViejas
    That's right, nursechris! You wouldn't resist taking insulin or an antihypertensive medication if they could save your life, or at least give you some quality of life, would you? Of course not, and depression is just as important to treat, if not more so since we have something like a 15-20% suicide rate!

    Tell THAT to your husband the next time he gives you a bad time about the meds.
  4. by   Youda
    Any "husband" who ridicules, instead of being supportive and loving, needs a generous boot out the door, and his clothes thrown out after him!
  5. by   micro
    Originally posted by mario_ragucci
    You tell your husband he is a sick and stupid (the truth) person. Thats lower than making fun of someone with any injury or disease. Worse because your ignorant and unloving. I'm sorry :-(

    yes, husbands should be more understanding.....
    yes, wives should be more understanding.....
    yes, friends should be more understanding.....
    yes, coworkers should be more understanding.....
    yes, managers should be more understanding.......
    yes............................................... ...........

    have to agree with Mario on this one

    it is not a perfect world, but we can each do our part, by starting with ourselves.......
    take care of yourself........

  6. by   Youda
    I have to lovingly, respectfully, disagree with you micro. It is a big part of codependent, dysfunctional behavior to "understand" someone else's bad behavior. To quote sjoe, "you will get exactly as much crap as you're willing to take." It is everyone's responsibility to demand to be treated well, as a matter of self-respect. Understanding others is, of course, a good thing, but should never be a substitute for standing up for yourself.
    Last edit by Youda on Jan 7, '03
  7. by   micro
    it is everyone's responsibility to demand to be treated well,as a matter of self-respect

    couldn't agree more........

    but I do stay with the life ain't fair and I am the only one that can change it stance.....that I have tooken'(can't spellin on purpose)

    love and peace,

    p.s. nursechris.....
    kudos for taking care of yourself.....
    depression is a disease process.......
    analogy of diabetes, heart disease, htn, etc........all appropriate........
    take care of yourself.......and do not let the stigma of depression, mental illness or anything else get in the way.........

    #1 is you.........
    Last edit by micro on Jan 7, '03
  8. by   sphinx
    Well, my third "in office" day, and so far so good. Today was very hectic, and I was assurred it is not always that bad. I believe it, there were several call-ins (everyone has that nasty GI bug) and 11 openings, plus having to place the visits from the nurses who called sick. The nurses were really overloaded, and I felt so bad for them, as I know how it feels. But it did seem unusually heavy, as we were assigning people more than I remember getting for a long time, if ever. We floated off as many as possible, but our team staff is great, freaking *volunteering* to work overtime. I'm sitting there thinking, how do they do it? I was freaking out and falling apart at much less. Well, I guess they aren't suffering from depression. Or, if they are, they haven't shown it. I am very much enjoying coming home and having no paperwork. I am kind of vegging, to "celebrating", but slowly starting to do more, do stuff I haven't done in many moons, like clear the table and fill the dishwasher, etc. Maybe I'll even cook one of these days. I haven't made more than grilled cheese in eons!!!!
    And tomorrow my youngest son has a physical, so I have the afternoon off. I might see one patient, as I have 2 medicare D/C I still need to do. I'll still have plenty of time, though.
    So, I guess, I am doing a little better. I'm glad I made this move. I learned something m,arvelous the other day: Our copy machine staples papers together if you tell it too! I was so *amazed*!!!! Then I kind of had to laugh at the fact I am still paying my student loan so I can make a copy machine collate and staple, hahaha!!!!!!!!
  9. by   mario_ragucci
    Originally posted by mamabear

    To quote Page & Plant: "I've been dazed and confused for so long, it's not true".
    Now finish it!

    Wanted a woman, never bargained for you
    Lots of people talkin', few of them know
    Soul of a woman was created below, yeah

    Im learning so much about pain and seratonin and re-uptake in class. They teach us that pain and suffering is not the same, but suffering causes anxiety and release chemicals in the body which signal distress. This is all difficult for me to understand because I can't see any of it. i can only imagine prostiglandins and opioids. Sometimes I think I am an opioid, when I am only an NSAID :-( I'm sorry
  10. by   micro
    the mystery of depression, mental health and illness
    physical health and illness...........
    I remember watching my first open heart surgery(when I was a student nurse-----), that one I could see the heart.....the doctors and the surgical personell doing their thing, but to see a heart start beating again.....omg, I could go on and on.........
    research shows that in the end, noone exactly knows.....
    which is why there are so many theories out there related to
    so many diagnoses of many kinds........
    and most approaches to wellness and returning health are multifaceted.........
    together something works..........

    but back to the original thought of this thread......
    are nurses more depressed than the general population.....
    are we more neurotic, are we more _______?
    imho, naah!!!!! we just are out there in the trenches, up to our armpits dealing with _____, that our own humanity/mperfections/diseaseprocesses shows through.............
    only in my humble opinions and thoughts and I have told I think too much.......

    in this fast-paced sometimes tragic world of today.....
    to each of you, I hope for you peace and peace to find
    starting with yourself and your own peace of mind

    love to you each, those dear to me and to all,
    cause this world is indeed very small
    Last edit by micro on Jan 9, '03
  11. by   mattsmom81
    Sphynx, isn't it nice to come home and 'be' home with your family...instead of looking at mounds of paperwork??

    I only did home health a short time and knew immediately I needed a job I could leave at work because I have a tendency to obsess a bit on undone work...LOL!

    Your mood seems to be lightening and hope you feel better as you are sure 'reading' better! (((HUGS)))
  12. by   kidsccrn
    I agree with alot of the posts. The biggest problem I have is with people making judgements about depression who have never been there. I have been on antidepressants for about 5 years now I wish I had done it sooner. I come from a dysfunctional family of which I will not bore you with the details. I also come from a strong family history of depression and suicide. It's takes alot of strength to go to therapy and face your demons and I do not appreciate people making fun of people who are in therapy. If you have never experienced depression you have no idea what it is like, to get to a point that taking your life seems like it would be better for your family then watching their mother unable to function is frightening. I got to the point I could no longer put on a happy face and fake it. I am so much better now but it took a lot of therapy and meds before I got back to living. So cut your coworkers a break that are being treated for depression it's a long and lonely road back. I wish I had time to do something for myself but between work and taking care of my family which includes a daughter with special medical needs I DO NOT HAVE THE LUXURY OF TIME TO MYSELF
  13. by   micro
    *If you have never experienced depression, you have no idea what it is like*
    *It is indeed a long and lonely road back*

    'the answers they give are so simple, aren't they'

    'living the solution is not'

    take care as you can