My wife won't stay home alone and I don't get to see my family. - page 3

I work night shift from 7pm-7am. My wife is 26 y/o and does not want to stay home alone because she says she feels lonely. She stays at her parents because of this. She has done this since we got... Read More

  1. by   Nonyvole
    Having been there, done that, got the t-shirt...

    Doesn't matter if she doesn't want to go to couples counseling. You can go, and honestly, I'd suggest it. (The one time I was able to talk my ex-husband into going with me, all he got out of it was that I wanted a new dresser. It wasn't a want, it was a need, because I had no way to store most of my clothes that didn't require a ladder to get to.)

    The baby is a red herring...you're saying that this started well before your wife became pregnant.

    Ultimately, though, I think that the two of you need to have a sit-down with a neutral third party and discuss everything. Brace yourself for hearing things that you may not want - or like - to hear, but also don't be afraid to be blunt with her.

    Good luck.
  2. by   Emergent
    First of all, don't consider having another baby with this woman. She sounds weak, self-centered, unreasonable, ungrateful and immature.

    It sounds like she's staying home with the baby. Great, I'm all for that. But, that doesn't mean the mother turns into a baby herself! She needs a reality check as to how much of the world lives! She's a blessed woman with a hard working husband and supportive parents.

    Couples counseling is a must. It should be top priority. Good luck!
  3. by   MunoRN
    Quote from ICUman
    Uhhh, no.



    Some people on this board are desperate to be offended. I agree with your comments.
    Actually my first inclination is usually that people here are just being whiny, which was my first thought on reading the OP. However the more I thought about it the more it was apparent that this is a legitimate and fairly serious example of abusive behavior. Limiting or otherwise withholding access to children is a well established form of spousal abuse and can be quite painful for a parent. As much as I tend to discount this sort of complaining, there is a legitimate concern here.

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