I have been working as an RN since August of 2019, and there has been a common theme: every time I switch to a new job, I have intense SI, anxiety, and depression.
My first job with adults I couldn't even get out of bed. All I did was cry. I was being bullied at this job and was miserable. I quit after 2 months.
My second position I had SI, depressive thoughts, and anxiety (but more bearable than the first job's). I remember sitting in the parking lot just thinking SI things. But I got through it...I became higher up. started precepting people, felt like I fit in...I knew what I was doing. But even as a I was "higher up" sometimes I still began to be depressed before showing up to work. I was stressed out (not eating properly). I feel like I cannot take care of myself as a nurse.
My most recent position (within the same hospital as my second position) has me feeling INTENSE SI depressive thoughts, anxiety. Here I am on my day off right now writing this and having SI about nursing. My last shift I had so much anxiety I was just sitting there trying not to panic in public. I'm incredibly anxious and feel like everyone thinks I'm so dumb. my coworkers are somewhat willing to help me, but they're also kind of standoff-ish. I made a mistake my last shift and I can't stop thinking about it. I'm trying to make it at least 4 more months in this position (to make a total of 6 months at least) but I feel such an intense dread and anxiety. my chest kind of hurts while just writing about this I have that much anxiety.
I don't know what to do. I've never had a position outside of the hospital, but at this point I am so done with healthcare, rude families, getting yelled at...sometimes it's just too much. like once I was having SI and then I came to work and a patient's family started yelling at me. my mental health can't take this. I need to get out. I want to be happy.
I just feel stuck. I live in a city where I renewed my lease until November, but I really feel like I cannot last that long. I want to just escape to a different country where no one knows where I am.
I am seriously almost 85% sure I am quitting the nursing field to pursue computer science. I think what I've learned from my experience is that I hate working in healthcare and I need a job where I can pee and people don't die. I don't want to watch babies die. I just want to be happy, but I have been severely depressed since I started working as a nurse. and as 2022 starts, I feel even more depressed that I still am a miserable nurse. I hate nursing. I need this to stop ruining my life, but I feel bad leaving my position earlier than 6 months. and also IDK what I want to do because to apply to computer science I need GRE scores, etc., that I do not have.I need to do something in the mean time...
also, something I noticed a huge difference was my personality vs all my coworkers personalities. everyone else is very outgoing, organized, "type a" whereas I'm the opposite: I'm quiet, disorganized, "type b"...I genuinelly do not care about work anymore. I feel lazy to do the job sometimes bc I just don't want to do it. this personality difference makes me feel like nursing is not the career for me. I know I need a therapist (I'm working on that). I guess I'm writing this to see if anyone relates to me...or maybe I'm just too insane. whatever. I hate nursing.