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pinkdoves BSN

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I am a relatively new pediatric nurse trying not to have a panic attack every day...

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pinkdoves has 2 years experience as a BSN and specializes in Pediatrics.

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    Coworkers Competing For Vending Machine Food And Drinks

    I was feeling a little sad and I read this & feel tons better. thank you for making me laugh a little
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    The golden first year?

    hello guys thank you for commenting...I think I'm going to change to outpatient in June. I think having a schedule would benefit me at this time in life. I think a large stressor for me at work is in the influx of psych patients we are getting. Psych is not my specialty at all and I get very scared about being hit and yelled at. I am also a relatively tiny person so having me as a nurse to these aggressive people is very intimidating. There was someone at my work that literally had a bunch of her hair pulled out by a patient...another was bit. I never wanted to be a part of this. I want to be respected for once in my life. and I get that they need help, but still the idea of trying my best just to be abused is why I feel like nothing even matters at this point. god bless actual psych nurses because that is definitely not my forte. and patients always sniff out weakness (me)
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    The golden first year?

    I am in great despair...I feel like life has lost it's meaning at this point. They can replace me in a second with someone else and nothing I do even matters. I could be working hard all day and then someone will point out some stupid minute thing I didn't do and I feel so dejected. It makes me not want to work hard. I used to take everything so seriously: nursing school, finding a good job, etc., but I've learned that none of these things even matter at this point. I just want to be happy again. I spent so much of my life studying, losing sleep over work or school...and for what? To be told I'm not working hard enough? To be threatened by patients that they're going to punch me? To be yelled at when other people don't do their jobs and I'm the only person the patient or families actually see? None of it is worth my sanity and I wish I never went into such a garbage profession. All I do is give and give for strangers who don't give a *** and will even insult and abuse me. Why would any sane person deal with this? I come home so empty and depressed. My knees and legs hurt and I'm only 23. I'm sacrificing my sanity for people who can replace me in a second...but how can I complain? I chose this profession so it's my fault anyway. I tell this to my family and friends but they don't really understand. My mom's always like "you only work 3 days a week. you barely work why are you even complaining?" I just feel like I put so much time and energy into this stupid profession but it's never enough. I've never been so miserable in my life. I used to be so positive and happy. I still look happy from the outside. My coworkers always comment on how I am always willing to help other people and that I'm a pleasure to work with. that's nice to hear but I'm literally dying on the inside...the fact I have to wait 'til June makes me feel so hopeless. it's not a long time but I'm not sure how I'll survive 'til then. Another huge stressor is that there's a pandemic and I live alone. So I come home from work so dejected, worn out, just to come back to an empty apartment. I feel so alone. I think it could be easier for my coworkers who have boyfriends or husbands or kids...but I have none of that. I feel so lost and don't know why life has handed me such a terrible fate. I just want to have a desk job at this point. Any job is stressful but nursing is just too much for me. People will tell me I'm immature but I don't really care. They tell me I should feel guilty for thinking this...that I'm so lucky to be 23 and to have a job and to be able to live on my own without outside help... I'm just so tired of this being my entire life...and I guess I am privileged and I shouldn't complain but IDK what else to do
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    6 Reasons Why Nurses Are No-Cape Heroes

    I do not agree that we are heroes and for some reason this sentiment makes me slightly angry. I think managers use this excuse to pile more garbage on us and say "thank you for all you do! heroes work here!" and then continue to overwork us and tell us we're not doing enough the next second. We are severely underpaid for being "heroes". I am not falling for this BS ...
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    The golden first year?

    oh that's awesome! if that's true I will reach out. Thanks!
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    The golden first year?

    I am really traumatized by my first job. I thought nothing could go wrong because I worked at one of the top 5 hospitals in the US. That clearly means nothing as I've learned. Even the hospital I'm working at now is considered "prestigious" but we're so short staffed and underpayed. I don't understand why it has to be like this. I think I would be 50% happier if we had better staffing and if I wasn't doing the front desk receptionist's job on top of mine. I just have to survive a couple more months of this BS and hopefully I can switch to outpatient. I swore I would never work with adults again after my first job, but maybe outpatient will be different...(maybe ?) I love kids and particularly babies so I love that I work in peds. I just don't know where to go from here. Most of my colleagues are in school for school nursing, NP, etc. I don't seem interested in any of those options. IDK.
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    The golden first year?

    I was thinking about using EAP but then I was also scared that the providers through that would be the ones from the hospital that I work with. Do you think that could be true? That might make work very awkward if that is the case... I thankfully work in a city so there are a lot of hospitals and clinics around me. I think I'm going to try outpatient as my next move and if that doesn't make me happier IDK what to do. I really like the idea of making a list. Maybe that will help. Thank you for commenting I appreciate it! thank you Dave I am really trying to survive at this point...
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    The golden first year?

    I think I am also frustrated partly because of this reason. The healthcare system is all about money. I work at a prestigious hospital there are people lining up for this place yet they refuse to hire them to save money. It's not okay and ends up short-staffing us all the time. But "it's okay" because the business people look at the numbers and calculate we have enough staff...it drives me nuts and I would love to see them come to our "fully staffed" units. It's hard because I feel like this job takes over so much of my life and I'm so miserable. On my days off I research what other jobs I can have in the future when I can switch positions or units. I feel so hopeless and I've been depressed ever since I started as a nurse. I get a lot of SI teens who overdose. I always am required to ask them questions like "do you feel suicidal today" which is ironic because someone should be asking me that. My whole life seems like a fog. I'm so close to working at starbucks. so close...
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    The golden first year?

    I thankfully have really great family and friends. But sometimes my nursing schedule is so hectic that I can barely have an outside life it seems...I sometimes feel like I live in that hospital. I have not been taking care of myself the way I should. I have lost a lot of weight since starting as a nurse. I am young (23) and this is (I guess technically) my 2nd job but first real career move if that makes any sense. I guess I compare myself to my sister who works in business. She makes more money than I do sitting at home from her laptop and watching daytime shows...then I go to work and am running around, yelled at, abused, etc...it just doesn't seem worth it to me. There are other jobs out there that don't require this but I feel so stuck. I wish I could be 17 again and choose a different major...sometimes I think I need to check myself into a mental hospital. I don't understand why anyone would do this for more than 2 years. I guess there are different personalities...and god bless because I'm struggling to even make it to 1 1/2 years.
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    The golden first year?

    it sounds like you're having trouble understanding because you're taking my life and comparing it to yours. I am assuming I'm a lot younger than you so I can safely assume much isn't the same today as it was for you. I was never an LPN. I went to nursing school straight after high school. Nursing school (especially nowadays) does NOT prepare you for bedside nursing. It was a lot of watching and sim lab, but not a lot of hands-on. The most I learned during school was during my externship I took on my own accord (not through my school) so god forbid someone doesn't have that experience, how do they even survive? I enjoyed learning the concepts of nursing: pharmacology, pathophysiology, etc., but being the bottom of someone's shoe more times than not is not what I ever wanted my career to be. I think this could be the answer. I really do not thrive in the hospital but I feel so stuck. I'm so miserable I'm scared I'm going to be here forever 😞 thank you!
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    The golden first year?

    I am at a loss for words. I graduated school in may 2019 and landed an adult inpatient med/surg telemetry position. I was so miserable due to my preceptor bullying me and high patient loads that I quit in less than 3 months. I was unemployed for a couple months before landing an inpatient pediatric med surg position. I have completed nurse residency here and am able to do my job unlike the first place...but I am still so miserable. I’ve hated nursing from the beginning and people said it would get better. It never did and I’m still so miserable. I can’t switch units until June and I’m feeling so depressed. Wake up thinking “why am I living to do this” ...I am usually a very happy and positive person but ever since I became a nurse I’ve been so depressed and not like myself. When will this get better? It’s been over a year and I still hate my life. Beginning to think I shouldn’t have been a nurse at all
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    Advice on what to say during performance review

    OK, this is very helpful information! Thank you!! LOL that's so funny they are making me be in a committee to maintain their magnet status or whatever...at least I get paid for it but I really have no interest
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    Advice on what to say during performance review

    every nurse on my unit is required to be on a committee. they also made me in a harm prevention role (preventing infiltrates/PIV issues on the unit) so I have that covered
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    How Long Do You Expect To Be a Nurse?

    although at this point in time I really hate nursing, I know I probably will stick within the field. this is because there are so many avenues I can go down anyway--whether it's insurance work, selling medical equipment, etc., I would still use my experience as a nurse
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    Advice on what to say during performance review

    LOL oh no it's so sad it's like this
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    Advice on what to say during performance review

    that seems like the entire healthcare system OMG...no substance all about business/money