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I am a graduated nurse and and the school I graduated from has a nursing face group page where pre nursing students, current nursing student, post grads, act can all post questions and get advice.

Well someone made a post about hospitals in our area are mandating the Covid vaccine. This girl in the group (she’s a pre-nursing student who just got accepted into the program but hadn’t started yet) got very aggressive with me and starting attacking me and a few other people who commented on the post not in favor of the vaccine.

We explained our reasons why we didn’t feel comfortable getting it and that we feel you should have freedom of choice. (I’m not fully against it or for it) I’m somewhere in the middle as feel more comfortable thoroughly researching all the side effects so that I can make an informed decision of what’s best for me. Well this pre-nursing student (she seems very young) was rudely attacking me. Everyone who commented on the post were getting along and being very respectful of each ones opinions/views on the vaccine until she came on the post name calling, using degrogatoey language, and throwing insults left and right.

Well she ended up getting kicked out of the thread and as if her disrespecting me couldn’t get any worse she publicly made a horrible post about me on her facebook bullying and harassing me saying I am a bad nurse for not already getting the vaccine and that I’m a dumb ***** saying she doesn’t know how I made it graduating nursing school and a bunch of other horrible names. After I seen the post I private messaged her telling her that was bullying/harassment since she mentioned my name and tried to warn her of the repercussions that can lead to. Well instead of apologizing to me she instead called me a bunch of horrible things and stated she didn’t care and told me I needed to mind my own business and that she can post what she wants on her facebook (even though she mentioned & slandered my name). At that point I just chose to ignore her and let it go.

Well an entire week after that I find out she made an additional TWO more posts about me that were even worse than the first one making threats and making fun of my child (who’s autistic) and throwing jabs at my appearance and other horrible things. So after 3 posts of this girl harassing/bullying me on the internet I need to know what I can/should do about this.

Should I contact the schools nursing faculty to file a complaint against her showing her behavior and the way she speaks and her overall unprofessionalism? I have screenshots of all the posts she made about me to show the nursing faculty. If so how should I go about doing this? Do I call, send an email? And should I remain anonymous to protect myself incase she tried to threaten/hurt me for reporting her?

Any insight/advice on what I should do and or say thank you.  

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5 hours ago, Melissa Basney said:

Should I contact the schools nursing faculty to file a complaint against her showing her behavior and the way she speaks and her overall unprofessionalism?

No I don't think you should.

As you move in to a professional role you will want to use judgment about getting involved in drama online or in real life. If you can't resist many more situations like this will crop up either online or IRL. It is often not necessary to argue and/or defend ourselves. You should not be private messaging mere acquaintances over this kind of thing; it is just willful participation in drama. You will have a rough time if you can't resist. Consider getting off fakebook or significantly tightening up the information/people you choose to interact with on such social media sites.

You have so many more important things to spend your time on.

Please consult accepted scientific information in making your vaccination decision. It is recommended that individuals receive covid-19 vaccinations with very, very few exceptions.

Good luck ~

 

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You can report the posts to facebook and they may or may not remove them. Like JKL said reporting her to the school is just adding to the drama. They've likely already seen them anyway. Block her and move on. 

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On 9/2/2021 at 4:36 AM, Melissa Basney said:

I am a graduated nurse and and the school I graduated from has a nursing face group page where pre nursing students, current nursing student, post grads, act can all post questions and get advice.

Well someone made a post about hospitals in our area are mandating the Covid vaccine. This girl in the group (she’s a pre-nursing student who just got accepted into the program but hadn’t started yet) got very aggressive with me and starting attacking me and a few other people who commented on the post not in favor of the vaccine.

We explained our reasons why we didn’t feel comfortable getting it and that we feel you should have freedom of choice. (I’m not fully against it or for it) I’m somewhere in the middle as feel more comfortable thoroughly researching all the side effects so that I can make an informed decision of what’s best for me. Well this pre-nursing student (she seems very young) was rudely attacking me. Everyone who commented on the post were getting along and being very respectful of each ones opinions/views on the vaccine until she came on the post name calling, using degrogatoey language, and throwing insults left and right.

Well she ended up getting kicked out of the thread and as if her disrespecting me couldn’t get any worse she publicly made a horrible post about me on her facebook bullying and harassing me saying I am a bad nurse for not already getting the vaccine and that I’m a dumb ***** saying she doesn’t know how I made it graduating nursing school and a bunch of other horrible names. After I seen the post I private messaged her telling her that was bullying/harassment since she mentioned my name and tried to warn her of the repercussions that can lead to. Well instead of apologizing to me she instead called me a bunch of horrible things and stated she didn’t care and told me I needed to mind my own business and that she can post what she wants on her facebook (even though she mentioned & slandered my name). At that point I just chose to ignore her and let it go.

Well an entire week after that I find out she made an additional TWO more posts about me that were even worse than the first one making threats and making fun of my child (who’s autistic) and throwing jabs at my appearance and other horrible things. So after 3 posts of this girl harassing/bullying me on the internet I need to know what I can/should do about this.

Should I contact the schools nursing faculty to file a complaint against her showing her behavior and the way she speaks and her overall unprofessionalism? I have screenshots of all the posts she made about me to show the nursing faculty. If so how should I go about doing this? Do I call, send an email? And should I remain anonymous to protect myself incase she tried to threaten/hurt me for reporting her?

Any insight/advice on what I should do and or say thank you.  

Great googly moogly. Block her. Lock down the privacy settings on your own facebook. They're better off being private anyway. Employers these days will look to see if you have one and peruse it prior to hiring you, not to mention that people are always looking for posts to run to management with. Better to keep social media as clean and separate from your professional life as possible. Avoid the drama cesspool. 

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On 9/2/2021 at 7:18 AM, JKL33 said:

Consider getting off fakebook or significantly tightening up the information/people you choose to interact with on such social media sites.

For me it's real friends only on my facebook an dall I post is cat videos, garden and food pick's and family news. As a general rule I don't even have work friends on there.

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14 hours ago, hppygr8ful said:

For me it's real friends only on my facebook an dall I post is cat videos, garden and food pick's and family news. As a general rule I don't even have work friends on there.

I mostly use it to follow my favorite beach campground's fan page so I know what is going on there before I visit. Or, as you said, pet pics and family/close friend news. Every now and then I will share an article with interesting medical news that I think they should read. Other than that, I mostly ignore having one. Too many people find ways to get into trouble on social media these days. 

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It is better to keep your thoughts to yourself on this hot topic, except to your closer friends. I'm glad I'm getting out of Nursing, there is not a lot of tolerance for alternative points of view in it at the moment. From the moment you become a nurse you need to publicly toe the party line.

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