Handling an issue at work

Am agreeing with PP. It seems like you've been having performance competency issues that need to be addressed by you and your manager. As your manager/supervisor, he is responsible for your performance and the safety & wellbeing of your pts.

And no that is NOT bullying, NOT disrespectful, nor NETYing.

Thanks for you both.

I brought the subject up again because I am seeing that guy and his staff again tomorrow. He is not my manager, he is the team leader of the ward.

My manager wants me to handle patients.

If they think I have competency issues then why do they assign patients to me?

I think this isn't in the USA from the language you're using. Cultural differences can lead to misunderstandings and do all the time. But in the end the only way to resolve whatever these issues are is exactly what the previous people responding to you have said, you need to talk with your manager. Otherwise you can expect the problem to either continue or get worse, these things never seem to just work themselves out without some kind of recognition being brought to light either on your part or theirs.

Don't let "hurt feelings" get in the way of doing a competent job. Listen to what the team leader has to say, show some respect and hopefully it will improve. A good nurse has to be strong.

Talk to that person to hash our your problems.

You have received excellent advice here; I suggest you take it.

The best way to handle this is to be a good nurse. Stop focusing on him and focus on your patient care and patients. He has the right to observe and if he was observing me, I'd simply introduce him to my patient. "This is Don. He is one of the team leaders for our unit and part of quality control on our floor is that from time to time they observe the staff. I guess it is my turn today." Are you that self-conscious about your skills after 12 years in nursing that you can't perform without being nervous in front of your leadership team?

I'd probably ask for feedback from him on anything I was doing off of policy or any suggestion that he had concerning my care the minute we walked out of the room so that it could be address right then and there. You have already admitted that there are policies that you are not aware of like reporting the leader when you go on break. Stop being so defense and just using it as a chance to learn. The quickest way I have gotten people off my butt is to show them I know what I am doing and instead of being defensive, treated them with respect.

You're asking a question to which no one on the internet can give you an accurate answer.

Thanks everyone very much. I feel better after reading the replies. Sometimes we post to give vent to our feelings and worries.

You encouraged me to confront him which I might have done, but guess what, he wasnt observing me last Saturday when I went to their unit( I go once week). He was very pleasant and sweet and easygoing as usual.

I guess people get moody and agitated from time to time and we have to suffer.

I am little nervous when I go to that unit because it has been 4 years since I worked as a bedside nurse.