Got offered my dream job today...

[SweettartRN]

Working at a psych hospital. Full time with benefits.

Ugh.

I have no idea what to do. I want to do this so badly.....BUT there are other personal issues involved, and I don't even know how to begin to address those.....Sick father should sum it up quite well.

Any advice at all?

[BrookeeLou_RN]

You sound like soo0000000 many nurses who feel it is their responsiblity to care for everyone. If you were out of the picture your family would come up with a plan. I recommend you take your job, assume all will work out and, if issues arise, tell family members you have limits just like they do. Everybody pitch in. Don't forget home health providers & nurses. Good luck!

I feel it was my responsibility to care for my parents. I did not feel this strongly till I was in the situation. Now that they are gone I would do anything to be able to care for them just one more day. I think if you are ever in those shoes.. you might think different. And maybe it all depends on what kinds of relationship you have. I have never felt responsible for everyone.. I mean I might offer to help out if I can but not like I felt for my parents.

[Katie5]

It's a dream job. How bad do you want it?

Today is the tomorrow we worried about yesterday. ~Author Unknown

Do not anticipate trouble or worry about what may never happen. Keep in the sunlight. ~Benjamin Franklin

People gather bundles of sticks to build bridges they never cross. ~Author Unknown

Worrying is like a rocking chair, it gives you something to do, but it gets you nowhere. ~Glenn Turner

Whatever you do decide, make sure you don't end up resenting your ill father.

[xluescluesx]

nlmoore, gosh I really hope you win your case! I can't stand family suing family, especially when in your case she is definitely out of line.

I have a useless sister as well, but at least she'd never sue me. I definitely know how you feel, OP. I have a lot of family burden as well. If I were in your shoes, I would take the job and just figure out a way to make things with your dad work second. Things will fall into place. You have a lot of anxiety about it now, but I'm sure once you get into a routine, you will come up with a way to see that it interferes with your job minimally. You have to put your career first or you'll regret the decision and will be haunted with "what if's".

[zbb13]

I would take the job. I don't think you can rely on your sister....a young child and twins on the way is not easy at all. However, you can figure other ways of handling this, and there must be others around who can pitch in. Good luck with all of it, hope it works out!

[dudette10, MSN, RN]

Take the job.

Work your dad's appointments around your schedule.

Sister needs to pitch in, too. Don't let her push you around or manipulate you. Try to get her to work with you to care for your dad.

Your husband can help out too.

Even if your father is illiterate, if he can sign for himself, he just needs someone there to explain the forms to him. The POA doesn't need to be the ONLY one taking him to his appointments. Illiterate does not mean that he is unable to make his own decisions.

[BrookeeLou_RN]

I hope you are able to take your dream job. Try hard to get help and last poster is right illiterate does not mean someone else can't explain forms and witness his X or signature. Speak to his dr's office staff. If you can start the job while he does not need 24 hr care, you have a chance of getting 1yr under your belt and then could use FMLA down the line when needed. I really hope your sister will pitch in and help.. Might be easier to find a babysitter for her to get your Dad to the medical appointment.. Best of luck with all of your family and the Dream job.:redpinkhe