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Getting married and want to go to nursing school

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Hey everyone,

I really need some advice..Im taking my core classes for nursing pre-reqs now at Georgia Perimeter College, I will be done with that by the end of summer 2010. I am also planning to get married around that time frame. I am going to start applying to different colleges in GA now(MCG,emory,mercer etc..). However, most of the people i know advise me to not get married until i become an RN, my fiance is an Engineer and i know he will help me with everything, but since ive heard the program is so "hard" that nursing school and having a family kids etc dont mix and can become very stressful because i wont be able to spend the right time with my family can cause problems.I really dont know if i should wait till i become an RN or just get married to the love of my life and continue school...To all the married people in nursing school can you please give me some advice of your experiences...

Thanks alot.

PAERRN20

Specializes in ER. Has 3 years experience.

I know several girls who got married during nursing school. As long as you get married when you don't have classes- i.e. summer or winter break- you'll be fine. Just don't miss class to go on a honeymoon! Getting married only takes one day whereas an education will last you a lifetime. Good luck!

itsmejuli

Specializes in Home Care.

You can get married during nursing school, 3 of the girls in my class got married during school.

I know people that had babies during school, that is a bit tougher than getting married.

I also know single moms who successfully completed nursing school.

thanks alot you guys...i appreciate your help

Hey everyone,

I really need some advice..Im taking my core classes for nursing pre-reqs now at Georgia Perimeter College, I will be done with that by the end of summer 2010. I am also planning to get married around that time frame. I am going to start applying to different colleges in GA now(MCG,emory,mercer etc..). However, most of the people i know advise me to not get married until i become an RN, my fiance is an Engineer and i know he will help me with everything, but since ive heard the program is so "hard" that nursing school and having a family kids etc dont mix and can become very stressful because i wont be able to spend the right time with my family can cause problems.I really dont know if i should wait till i become an RN or just get married to the love of my life and continue school...To all the married people in nursing school can you please give me some advice of your experiences...

Thanks alot.

being married with no kids is totally doable during school. I wouldn't do it with kids if I could avoid it.

Lets say i did have children in nursing school, while im in labor and just had a baby, if i end up taking days off ,,is it possible to even take days off in the nursing "program"?Wont that affect my completion for the program.

let me know,thanks

in my program they would tell you that you wouldn't meet the requirements for classes if you miss that many days. they would suggest that you take off the semester you are due, and come back to finish

I am married and in nursing school, as long as the love of your life is as supportive as mine is, and understands it would be best to try to wait to have kids til school is done, you'll be fine!:D

Lets say i did have children in nursing school, while im in labor and just had a baby, if i end up taking days off ,,is it possible to even take days off in the nursing "program"?Wont that affect my completion for the program.

let me know,thanks

The issue is more juggling all these things. Your courseload will be heavy and a child has many demands.

thank you so much ladies.

I just thought that it would be so hard that i cant even focus on my future husband and kids like being busy with school and exams..not giving that much attention to my family...what do you guys think?

hellerd2003, RN

Specializes in Critical Care.

Does your husband really support your career? If so, then nothing else should worry you.

I was married before nursing school. Ironically enough, I was accepted to a PA program, and hubby supported me living there (at the PA program 1/2 a country away) and said he'd fly out to see me e/o week. I couldn't deal with that, so I stayed home . . . my choice.

I got married prior to nursing school, but during nursing school, I dealt with issues related to hubby's previous marriage (knew about them prior but didn't realize how underhanded his ex was) and my stepkids (teens), and planned a cross country move. Still made Sigma Theta Tau.

If you both love each other you'll get through anything. And your destiny is your own!!!

Junebugfairy

Specializes in Gyn/STD clinic tech.

but since ive heard the program is so "hard" that nursing school and having a family kids etc dont mix and can become very stressful because i wont be able to spend the right time with my family can cause problems.i really dont know if i should wait till i become an rn or just get married to the love of my life and continue school...to all the married people in nursing school can you please give me some advice of your experiences...

i am 27 and happily married for 5 years.. no kids. getting married does not mean you have to have kids now, it is certainly easy enough to wait until you are finished with school to have a baby.

i am in nursing school and i would not dream of having a baby any time soon. being married is awesome! having kids right now would ruin my life, so i use effective birth control to prevent pregnancy.

i guess my point is that getting married and being in nursing school is great for me, i have a support system that cannot be beaten. it could be great for you too.

I'm married (3 years) with an almost 3 year-old and an 18 month old. I'm hoping to get accepted into a program for Spring 2011. I currently go to school full time and am a SAHM. I think the key is time-management. Yes, nursing school is going to keep you busy, but if your fiance supports you and you guys set time aside for the two of you, I think you'll be fine.

Best of luck to you.

Hello,

I got married right at the beginning of nursing school: I even missed the first two days of classes since it was an out-of-state wedding from where I normally live. We lived together beforehand for a couple years, but once school started everything did change as far as our day-to-day life goes.

The school is hard, and you will be expected to make sacrifices if you want to do well. I have the most supportive husband in the world. For us, this meant that he was doing more chores then before, and that he would understand when I got home late from clinicals and just wanted to sleep. I work FT too, so take that into account when you're planning "family time." More then that, I don't have a whole lot of time for my friends. I don't go out as much, or even want to since I'm busy all the time with work and studying and school.

If you plan on having kids, my advice would be to possibly plan it so you have the baby right after you'd graduate. But beware, too, since we have had 2 drop-outs due to pregnancy complications. The stress of school and clinicals can be a lot of pressure on a pregnant gal.

You and your new husband would have to be prepared that a lot of the time, he would have to pick up the slack. My husband has now learned how to cook, and even does my laundry for me when my schedule is too hectic. We enjoy our time together late at night, watching our favorite shows after my homework is done, or by emails I send him at work. I also have 1 day off (Sunday) from everything that I make sure is our day together.

And honestly? I'm about to graduate in a few more months, and I couldn't picture life any other way. Its been hard, we've buckled down, and I'm fortunate to have such a loving and supportive husband. Its worth it in the end. Just make sure you both have clear expectations of what the time during school will be like. Good luck!

If this is really what you want to do, then I'm sure your future hubby will be supportive. That's the reason why you are marrying him in the first place. It's a partnership and he needs to know that this is what you want to do right now so you can be there for your family in the future. Marriage can be stressful, but so is life, if you can balance the two and make sure you take time to be together then that's all that matters.

RNperdiem, RN

Has 14 years experience.

I was engaged in my last semester of nursing school.

My husband said that for the first three semesters of nursing school, my sense of time didn't extend beyond the next week, next test or next clinical.

He believed it wasn't time to talk about marriage until I talked about the future beyond school.

Marriage and school are fine together unless you will have step-children added to your household, or you want to plan a very elaborate wedding.

I think you should wait off until after nursing school , not cuz I don't think you can do it, BUT I think you'll get to enjoy marriage more after graduation. You'll be swamped with school work that the next thing you know you guys have been married for a yr or two.

Put off getting married if it affects your financial aid. Who wants to start a marriage with large loans? So depending on whether you're under your parents financial aid package, your own or will have the mix of you and your new husband, figure out which is most beneficial. Also there is no reason you have to get married and immediately start a family, that can wait.