When there is a beginning, there is always an end *sob*

  1. In the Fall 2004 semester, I failed my hospital clinical site and recieved a failing grade. I was in the first semester. In the Spring 2005 semester, I went to a new nursing school hoping for a fresh start. In the past 2 weeks I did extremly well in my theory exams. I am one of the top 3 students in grades BUT in my lab check offs, I am behind too much and I am just too far gone to catch up. Instructors are looking at me as incompetent/weeding me out. It is common for them to do that and it hurts me to see that.

    I know that you are thinking, I am just a failing student and I am a casuality but you know failing students do try to be a nurse but it just does not happen for some reason...In the Fall 2004 semester, I gave it my best vert best effort and still failed...This semester, I tried also but things did not work out right..

    Good bye all.. And when you seeing missing students in your class, think well of them because some of them gave it their best effort like me but it just did not work out..
    Last edit by sad on Jan 25, '05
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  3. by   Tweety
    I'm sorry to hear that. As it happened at two schools, I'm sure they aren't just picking on you to weed you out. Don't blame the instructors. Take a good hard honest look at yourself, your strengths and your weaknesses. Don't a victim.

    Good luck in whatever you do. Perhaps there's something else in the healing arts that you'd be better at. Best wishes.
  4. by   lindymarie
    Quote from sad
    In the Fall 2004 semester, I failed my hospital clinical site and recieved a failing grade. I was in the first semester. In the Spring 2005 semester, I went to a new nursing school hoping for a fresh start. In the past 2 weeks I did extremly well in my theory exams. I am one of the top 3 students in grades BUT in my lab check offs, I am behind too much and I am just too far gone to catch up. Instructors are looking at me as incompetent/weeding me out. It is common for them to do that and it hurts me to see that.

    I know that you are thinking, I am just a failing student and I am a casuality but you know failing students do try to be a nurse and but it just does not happen for some reason... Good bye..



    I am so sorry you are so hurt. When some one wants something so badly you hate to see them think of themself as a failure. You are NOT a failure. You are having some set backs. Please! find Tutor365SON post from 1/23/05 @4:30 P.M. It was wonderful, and may give you some insight. Please don't be down on yourself. I'll be praying for you.

    I started nursing school and was 10 months from graduation with my R.N.when my husband and I were in an accident. My husband was killed and I was almost killed. When I recovered I went back to school and got my L.P.N. I didn't have the money to go back for my R.N. For the longest time I felt like a failure and very sad, because I had not completed my R.N. We are always so hard on ourselves. I was not a failure and neither are you. As long as we have breath in our bodies we have hope! Don't give up. Anything good is worth fighting for.
  5. by   Blackcat99
    I am so sorry to hear that things didn't work out for you. I hope you will take some time off now and take good care of yourself. I can only imagine how painful this must be for you.
  6. by   weetziebat
    sad, i am sorry to hear you are not doing well in a second nursing program. from your past posts i know that you have had numerous problems in nursing school. hopefully, this time you will realize that nursing is not for everyone. you need to stop and think about things honestly and understand that your attitude had a lot to do with you not doing well in school. please realize that by playing the victim you set yourself up for failure.

    take a long, hard, honest look at yourself and go into a field that you will do better in. there are many, many other healthcare related fields out there where you can help others.

    i'm sorry if this seems harsh, but you really need to understand how you contributed to your problems - and then go on to find an area where you will shine. i wish you all the very best, really i do. take care -
  7. by   sad
    Quote from Blackcat99
    I am so sorry to hear that things didn't work out for you. I hope you will take some time off now and take good care of yourself. I can only imagine how painful this must be for you.
    It felt very bad when an instructor passed me up from a check off because I did not perform a skill right on the first attempt. Also, a different instructor told me today, that I am struggling. The funny thing about it, is that I know I can do these skills competently if it was in a different environment...I could not take how the instructors were treating me so I decided to throw in the towel to save my dignity.. I hope I made the right choice.. I was behind in two check offs and everyone else was finished..
  8. by   SusanJean
    Theory is theory but clinical skills are what are needed in daily work as a nurse to care for patients, aid in their recovery and save lives.

    Not everyone is cut out for nursing (or computer programming or any specific field for that matter). Maybe it is time to meet with a career counselor to evaluate your interest and ability to function under pressure so you can find a field that incorporates your interests and allows you to be happy.

    Best of luck to you.
    Sj
  9. by   wonderbee
    Nursing is not for everyone. Sad, first thing I would do is change that name. You will never find success in anything you do if you identify with the victim role. Let this day be an end to failure, and a beginning of success. Sad, meet Glad. Fake it till you make it.
  10. by   HyperRNRachel
    Yes, like someone else has already stated, if you had difficulty with two programs then you have to stop and ask yourself what are you doing wrong. I am a strong believer that instructors do not weed students out of a program, but students weed themselves out of a program. When such things happen the only way to move on is to honestly re-evaluate the situation and determine what lead you to this point.

    If you did well in theory, then maybe take this time to get tutoring in your weak areas and then proceed with your nursing education.

    Good luck
  11. by   Compton
    Thats a very sad story. I am sorry it does not appear that things are working out for you. But like in all things in life. You must make the final decision. Just because instructors have their say doesn't mean you can't have yours. If you think you can do it, do it. Keep going and try again. You seem to care a lot about it and I think that is commendable.

    So I would say, take a break, relax. Take a look at what you want and set a goal, even if its a small one and go for it. Good luck!
  12. by   ADNCyn
    In response to the OP, I hope and pray the best for you. Hey HAPPYSTUDENT if you are reading this by chance. I would say that being happy with yourself leaves no room for becoming the "victim". We all have had to climb some steep hills to get anything or everything we wanted. Just keep climbing, but for me, I say " MOVE MOUNTAIN GET ON OUT OF MY WAY" in the NAME OF JESUS... Bless you... take care.
  13. by   smk1
    perhaps nursing is not for you? Maybe something else in the healthcare field would work? You probably have more than enough prereqs for most programs so look into other areas, such as dental hygiene, respiratory therapy, radiology tech, etc.. or perhaps you can take a break, or maybe health administration is for you. Good luck and get some counseling for yourself. You are always so down on yourself in your posts and you need to talk to a professional about your outlook, it can't be healthy for you to sounds so depressed so often.
  14. by   Justmeandmycat
    Quote from sad
    In the Fall 2004 semester, I failed my hospital clinical site and recieved a failing grade. I was in the first semester. In the Spring 2005 semester, I went to a new nursing school hoping for a fresh start. In the past 2 weeks I did extremly well in my theory exams. I am one of the top 3 students in grades BUT in my lab check offs, I am behind too much and I am just too far gone to catch up. Instructors are looking at me as incompetent/weeding me out. It is common for them to do that and it hurts me to see that.

    I know that you are thinking, I am just a failing student and I am a casuality but you know failing students do try to be a nurse but it just does not happen for some reason...In the Fall 2004 semester, I gave it my best vert best effort and still failed...This semester, I tried also but things did not work out right..

    Good bye all.. And when you seeing missing students in your class, think well of them because some of them gave it their best effort like me but it just did not work out..


    Hi. Sad. It's obvious to me, at least, that you are trying to come to some closure about a dream that didn't work out and I, for one, won't criticize you. It's hard to let go of a dream sometimes. Did you do your very best? If so, that's good enough for me! And for a lot of other people, too! That doesn't mean you can't dream again.

    Take a deep breath, now. Pull up your socks, blow your nose, and look around. Guess what? You have a tableau rasa, clean slate now. Some might even call it "square one". A wonderful place to start over, don't you think? No constraints, nothing to confine you. Lots of freedom, for sure. What's so bad about that? Nothing that I can see.

    Now think carefully and when you are ready to create again, you will. Pick up that paint brush called life and create a masterpiece that's beautiful, wonderful and unique. One that's just for you! Favorite colors and all. Build it layer by layer until its just the way you like it. Take a step back. Look at it from top to bottom. Ah. Now, isn't that marvelous?

    Yes, even a bit grand, I'd say.

    Okay, here's your brush.

    I'm going to go and, I ,for, one can't wait to see what you come up with. Whatever it is, it will be marvelous, you'll see, because its uniquely you. Not what an instructor says. Not what some people on a bulletin board say. It will be yours. Now, THAT'S what I call interesting!

    What am I trying to tell you? If you have to start over, dear, there's no better place than square one. Now get to it and give THAT your best effort.

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