I know EXACTLY where you are coming from - my husband and I will be celebrating our 20th wedding anniversary this year, and I've been a SAHM for almost 3/4 of that time, since our first child was born. Hubby is lovely, but very high-maintenance attention-wise - as I found out to my cost some 3 years ago. Basically we had emigrated from our homeland, England, 4 years ago, to America, leaving all our family and friends behind. It was mostly hubby's dream - but where he goes, I go, so I thought I'd give it my best shot. Anyway, I got a lot more homesick than I thought I would and sank into a deep depression. I was NOT fun to live with and tried to bury myself in my hobbies to keep my mind off England. This meant that I was spending every evening scrapbooking & painting up in my study, while hubby watched TV downstairs. Well, unfortunately, my husband started working with a very attractive young redhead who started to give him LOTS of attention (even though she was married too) and the inevitable happened....Anyway, things eventually sorted themselves out, after 6 months of separation, and he realised that it was all a big mistake and that he really loved me after all. (I never, ever gave up on our marriage which helped!).
Since then we have worked hard to get some romance back in our marriage and spend more time together (tough with kids, but we manage!). The good thing (and there is always a good thing
) is that the whole incident shook us up and made us realise that we had gotten ourselves into a rut, so since then we've been going on dates, going for weekends away, going to music concerts etc., and generally been having a lot more fun. However, a year ago he decided that it was time for me to get back on a career path again (note: this was his idea), and we thought a lot about it and finally, for many reasons, decided on nursing.
Now, I am worried - I did not realise that nursing school was so tough, and even with my pre-reqs we have started to settle back into that old pattern of me being upstairs in my study, and him being downstairs in front of the TV
I have started getting the 'looks' when he asks me if I want to watch a DVD with him, and I reply that I have homework to do - then he stomps off and watches it by himself. It is very worrying for me, because of what happened before
However, this time we are a bit more prepared: Hubby has realised that I will be studying more or less all the while, so instead of being bored, he has decided to take his Masters Degree via an internet course. My plan is that we sort out the downstairs study (which is a mess), and put 2 desks in it, so that we can study together in the same room. I have also made a decision to keep Saturdays as free as possible from studying - even if it means letting my grades drop a bit. I know that nursing school is going to be hard on me, my hubby, and our kids - but at least this time we will be more prepared for it, and hopefully, more willing to support each other.
I'm sure that with some thought, and some serious planning with your husband (i.e. Saturday night is 'date' night and you will both try your hardest not to let anything get in the way of that), you will be just fine.
Best wishes, and hugs too!