Parents at Orientation - page 3

So, I got my notice last month to go to nursing orientation July 6, and my mom wanted to come with me. I don't think it's appropriate for her to be there, but I'm not sure. She would be paying for my... Read More

  1. by   vettesweet
    Oh my! You should be grateful to your Mom for the support. In your time in school, you will need every means of support imaginable. Mom may have to help you in more ways than with the checkbook. Having someone interested enough to be there for you will likely make you successful. Nursing school requires the support of all your family, friends, clergy, and all the people in your life who care for you. Lose the independence quick, you will need all the help you can get, besides all that, when you are done, you will be the family guru of health!
  2. by   nursemarion
    I don't think this exactly classifies her as a helicopter parent. She is still stuck in the wanting to be involved and supportive mode. Nursing school is indeed different than college and calls for independence. I did teach in a nursing school for a couple of years. I would say no. Tell her you'll take notes.
  3. by   merrywhiterose
    There were a couple mom's, sisters, etc. at the recent orientation. However, the room didn't have enough chairs for extra people. The room was VERY hot with about 45 people in the room, so your mom might get awful uncomfortable. BUT, she would probably remember some of the things that you may forget. It's up to you two.
  4. by   Mookie427
    Someone needs to have that umbilical cord cut already. If you will be living at home while going to school (i'll pray for you dear.... this is just the beginning of your mother's interference in your school life), she'll want to know every second of your being of occurrence at school. If she is the 'purse' to your education she feels its your 'obligation' to report to her so her money is well spent. Nip it in the bud now before it escalates and you will not be able to concentrate on your work.... I hope your mom doesnt want to see your 'clinical' orientation as well....
  5. by   DolceVita
    I prefer my parental support to be in dollar form!
  6. by   tfleuter
    If parents are paying for the education, then they have every right to make sure that their money is being well spent and not squandered. If someone wants to "feel" independent, then that means s/he has to be independent and that means moving out of the house and paying for school and living expenses. Don't see how anyone can complain about mom's or dad's involvement when they are taking handouts.

    I think that if this OP's mother knew what orientation was really about and how long it may be then she would choose not to go. This isn't necessarily a situation where the mother is trying to be intrusive but supportive.
  7. by   MaritesaRN
    Quote from lak20019
    So, I got my notice last month to go to nursing orientation July 6, and my mom wanted to come with me. I don't think it's appropriate for her to be there, but I'm not sure. She would be paying for my supplies and such, but I could just ask for her checkbook ahead of time. Did anyone take or see other people's parents at orientation buying supplies? Or is it a "student only" event? Thanks in advance!

    I do not see why she can not come....she wants to see what she is spending on ? You should be happy of her interest?
  8. by   Jayhawk4Life
    My school has a special night where parents/family come to the school for a tour and to meet the faculty. Everything else is students only.
  9. by   netglow
    OP, I think you know that you feel uncomfortable if she sits in on your meeting. Unless parents are encouraged to come, I'd just be honest and say that you need to take on these responsibilities on your own now.

    By the time you are 18 you should be able to achieve most adult ADL's (just kidding). Remember nursing is not something your parents will be able to assist you with as they might have in highschool. You seriously need to see if you can be on your own as you will be expected to be in clinical, and in your life as a nurse.
  10. by   smartin13
    While no one came with me to my orientation several people had their parents or even s/o there with them. My program even encouraged it so that they will hear from the horses mouth what the program entails and how much help outside of school we will need. It's always good to have a support system especially while you are going through this so I say why not.
  11. by   lak20019
    Thank you everyone, for giving your two cents on the subject. I will first say that yes, I do live at home, my parents do help pay for anything my scholarship doesn't, and I do feel blessed that my mother wants to be a part of my nursing experience. It's interesting, because she wants to go to this one (she's not a "helicopter parent"), and yet she never went with me to my other three orientations (different schools). From 8-12 am, there will be vendors available for us to buy things from, and I need to get fitted and order my uniforms. Then, the "formal orientation" (as VCC worded it), is from 1-3 pm. So, I think that my mom will come with me from 8-12, and then leave (if it's appropriate) from 1-3.
  12. by   mskelr
    At the orientation you'll learn that a support network is essential. And having your mother there will help her to understand the stressors you will face.
  13. by   jenniern2be
    Spouses or parents were invited to our orientation. My husband came to mine and it was very informative for him. They encouraged us to bring the people who were going to a major part of our support group, so they can learn what we will be doing and what is expected of us. There was one parent there, others brought spouses, some were alone. I was happy he was there to see where and what I will be doing for the next 2 years.