Just found out I'm pregnant....

  1. This is very unplanned! I have a 5 year old and an 18 month old, my husband and I were both on the same page that we were definitely DONE having babies! Welp, the universe had something else in store for me and I guess I am pregnant
    I don't really know how far along I am, but if I had to guess I am 6 weeks which would mean the baby would be due a couple weeks into my 3rd semester during my med-surg clinicals. I have never been one for abortion but I just don't know if I can do this. I know med-surg is supposed to be one of the hardest semesters and I know I will need a c-section as my last 2 ended in emergency c-sections, so time off would be an issue. Has anyone been through this? My head is spinning and I know a decision has to be made soon. I guess I'm just looking for different perspectives, motivation, advice, anything to help me through this! Thank you!
    *Please no judgment, I am already not very happy with myself right now
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  3. by   verene
    Have you looked into what your programs policies are for medical leave? My school would allow up to a year off with out losing your spot for medical reasons and pregnancy would count. Or other accommodations, like going part-time for a little while? It may be a pain to delay graduation by a term or two, but it may be possible to still succeed in school even with a new baby if that is the route you chose to go down.

    Best wishes with whatever you and your husband chose for your futures.
  4. by   Regina_Phalange
    Thank you. I just found out today so I have not talked to the school yet. I do not think they would do a year, possibly a semester though. I plan on talking to the advisor tomorrow, i just really do not want to delay graduation though!
    Thank you for your advice ❤ i think i am just in so much shock right now i need to allow myself time to process all of this.
  5. by   MiladyMalarkey
    Talk to the advisor & see what your options are and go from there. In the scheme of things if you have to put off a semester it isn't so bad, not ideal and wouldn't be my first choice, but you gotta do what you gotta do. Good luck & congratulations.
  6. by   Horseshoe
    I had a baby during Christmas break. I took off spring semester and then still had the summer to spend at home. It worked out just fine.

    Definitely see if you can take a semester off.
  7. by   KelRN215
    Most, if not all, schools have a medical leave policy. There are a number of reasons why students need to take time off school. I took almost a year off in college after having brain surgery. (I went back in the fall then had to medically withdraw 6 weeks into the semester.) If you know you would be due a couple weeks into your 3rd semester, you could arrange to take that semester off in advance.

    If you don't want to go through with the pregnancy, there are places that can help you and it's early enough that termination should be relatively straight forward.

    If you are definitely done having babies, you might consider a tubal or your husband a vasectomy.
  8. by   Regina_Phalange
    Thank you everyone. I was in a complete state of shock when I wrote this but I'm starting to accept it more. I talked to my school and they are very supportive and excited for me. They recommend I take a semester off instead of stressing my body and the baby by trying to return to school prematurely. They actually offer up to 3 semesters off for pregnancy, but I will definitely take the least amount of time possible.
  9. by   VioletKaliLPN
    I was going to write something but realized you already found a resolution.

    I was going to say that I too had an unwanted pregnancy, but I chose a different path.(without regret) that was nearly 12 years ago. Follow your gut. Only you know what you can and cannot handle.

    Congrats on making into Nursing school.