I flipped out!! Vent

  1. Hi everyone,

    First of all, I just wanted to say that I am a really really nice person. I am kind, and generous when I can afford to be. I'm the kind of person that pulls over to help someone push their car off the side of the road when no one else will stop, while at work and in the midst of snow storms I clean off the cars of all the pregnant women so they don't have to do it. I am thoughtful and courteous.

    However, I flipped out at work yesterday!

    To make a long story short, I work in the day time in a really small locomotive parts sales office (there are only 5 of us) doing typing and being the receptionist, then take a class or two in the evenings.

    It is not my ideal job. It's very slow and I'll go days on end not actually doing anything and it takes about 1/2 a brain cell, but it pays the bills and allows me to go to school at night.

    But, I have to put up with a lot of CR-- here. They are very sexist and just down right rude. It's obvious that I am treated like an idiot because I am a woman, "You'll just get pregnant and leave anyway.", etc. etc. I even have to put up with pornography and naked pictures of women that they send to each via email and lots of rude and snide comments about where I live because it is a "blue collar" neighborhood and not a higher SES like the one's they live in.

    Anyway, last week we had a pretty bad snowstorm in the morning and I was 4 hours late to work because it was an unexpected snow storm and most communitys were late in getting the streets plowed and salted.

    And then yesterday I was 2.5 hours late because we had an ice storm right at AM rush hour and I couldn't get out of my garage. Now, normally I would bust my hump to get into any job on time, especially if it was a nursing job, but I don't feel the need to risk my safety trying to get into this job because I don't really do anything and I just don't think it's worth my safety for my measly pay check. Plus, I don't get paid for the time I miss. I either have to use my vacation time or just not get paid.

    So, last week I had to take my lumps from my co-workers about getting to work late due to the snow. "It's because you live in that cheap neighborhood and they can't affort to plow the streets, etc." And then yesterday when I came in I got it all over again from one of the guys in the office. The rest were all out traveling on business.

    I don't know what happened, I just flipped out on him.

    I was swearing like a sailor and getting all worked up which I normally don't do. I told him that they were all a bunch of Frigging "Di-K Heads" and if they wanted to fire me they could go ahead and find some stupid A Hole that would come in when there was 5 inches of snow on the ground. That's about all I can remember, although I know there was much more to it, but these things were just flailing out of my mouth.

    And then I looked him in the eye and HE started to cry! At that point I stopped and said I was sorry that I took all of it out on him. But that's all I said. I really wasn't sorry that I did it. I felt kind of drained afterward but glad too.

    I don't know what happened. Even though other people may be rude and low brow or un-professional I always try to maintain the manners I was brought up with, except obviously this time.

    Please tell me that I am not the only one this has happened to.

    Really, I am a very nice person, but I guess what scares me is that I feel like I have changed in some way. Normally, I would never have done anything like that or at least been sorry about it. But I just don't care, I don't feel the least bit sorry and you know what, if they did fire me, I wouldn't care, I would be better for it. (Although, I know they won't fire me. I really don't think this guy would tell anyone what happened.)

    I guess I just feel like I'm not going to put up with needless Poo any longer.

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  3. by   PennyLane
    Colleen, thanks for bringing a smile to my face this morning. The people you work will do seem like a bunch of di-- heads. I would NOT put up with pornography and lewd pictures at my work place!! No way! And there is no reason for you to be subjected to rude comments about where you live. That;s completely untolerable. Their sexist and bigoted comments are inexcusable! Believe me girl, you did the right thing. It sounds like these men need to be put in their place.

    At my company if anything like that was going on, I'd be in the HR office ASAP. Sounds like you work for a small company that doesn't likely have an HR office, but perhaps you should report your working conditions to the headquarters, if there is one? It disgusts me how women are still treated as second-class citizens. I wish I had been there to see you 'lose it' with them. Don't feel badly, you're still a good person!!!
  4. by   CountrifiedRN
    He actually CRIED? Sorry, I don't think you intended your post to be funny, but I had to laugh at your description of when you lost it, and the reaction you got. Sounds like this guy can dish it, but can't take it. And I don't think you should feel guilty after all you have put up with. Maybe what these guys need is to get some of their own medicine.

    But the sexist attitudes, comments about your neighborhood, and porn have to go. You don't have to tolerate that in any workplace, no matter how small. There are laws that protect you from sexual harassment/discrimination at work. Report them.

    Don't feel bad about what happened. Sounds like his comment was just the last straw. You are still the same person you were before. If it were me, I don't think I could have been as nice as you have been all along.
  5. by   TCW

    It sounds like you had a rotten day!! The fact of the matter is that you shouldn't have to put up with any of that at work.

    I think we all reach our breaking point at some point...anyone who says they never have can't possibly be human. Hang in there!

    BTW, that ice storm yesterday was utterly ridiculous. I nearly broke my neck. LOL.

    Last edit by TCW on Dec 12, '02
  6. by   emily_mom
    Just like women can turn on the tears, so can men! He sounds like a total putz. Putting on the big man face in front of all the others and then bawling like a baby....

    I wouldn't put up with the porn and everything else you are dealt with. I'd find a different job or lay it on the line....it goes or I do!

  7. by   researchrabbit
    I think you were WAY overdue for that!
  8. by   colleen10
    Thanks for making me laugh and making me feel better.

    Now that I think about it, it was pretty funny when he started to cry.
  9. by   BMS4
    I agree, you were overdue for a blow up. You sound a lot like me. And you lasted alot longer holding your temper than I would have.
  10. by   VivaLasViejas
    I wish I'd had the "cojones" to go off like that when I got fired the other day! Of course, I wasn't having to put up with offensive (or illegal!) behavior like the sexual harassment you've been subjected to, but damn, sometimes being well-bred and polite just doesn't get us anywhere, does it?
  11. by   Stargazer
    I laughed too. From now on, whenever this guy starts giving you crap, you should just say, "Okay, whatever. Geeze, don't cry about it."
  12. by   colleen10
    "Okay, whatever. Geeze, don't cry about it."
    OMG!!! THAT is too funny.

    I would pay a million dollars for a video tape of the incident if there ever was one. All I can think of is that scene in "Mommy Dearest" with the "No wire hangers".

    I like to say, "I went Mommy D on his A**"
  13. by   CountrifiedRN
    Reminds me of the movie "A league of their own" when Tom Hanks yells at one of the female ball players, and she starts to cry. "Are you CRYING???? This is BASEBALL! There's no CRYING in baseball!!!!" LOL
  14. by   l.rae
    your sorry because you stood up for yourself?.....maybe you said some words you regret, however it sounds like you sent the appropriate message, and don't back down, they deserve every bit and more!.........................LR