To resign early or risk getting fired? - page 3

I've been at my hospital job for three and a half months and just received my 90 eval. The only criticism I received was something along the lines of "You need to smile more and be more welcoming to... Read More

  1. by   SoldierNurse22
    Quote from griffinchet
    Advice like this could ruin you. No offense, the military is guaranteed pay, yours is not. Also soldiernurse22, I'm guessing the 22 is for age. Therefore, you have much to learn. OP be cautious of who you solicit advice from!
    Your guess is incorrect. My pay is guaranteed so long as funding is adquate, which is a gamble anymore; my promotions and retention are not. To infer that I must work any less to earn my dollar or retain my job is offensive. Your entire post is based on assumptions, an age-based prejudice and inadequate information. OP, advice (not to mention nursing practice) like this can ruin you as well.

    I understand and acknowledge the importance of smiling. I think the studies cited on the previous page are sufficient evidence for the argument. However, I do not consider smiling an appropriate cover when you're around your coworkers or management--especially the management considering they should be the ones trying to help you.

    When management sees that you're not smiling, their first question should be why, not "how can I threaten that nurse into smiling the fastest so I look good?". My favorite job yet has been at a place where my OIC (military equivalent of a manager) did just that. She actually came out and sat with us for hours at the nurses' station in order to make sure we were doing all right and to address any issues we may have had. She didn't confine her problem solving to meetings or emails; she was proactive in being there with us and noticing problems sometimes before we did ourselves. Did I smile for her and everyone else who worked on that ward? You bet I did.
    Last edit by SoldierNurse22 on Jun 2, '12
  2. by   Zookeeper3
    you have been given a variety of thoughts on this. my own experience is that i had no idea, none, that my thoughts rang out loud and clear on my face/facial expressions. i thought my sweet tone of voice and correct wording was all that was needed no matter how busy, irritated, worried or happy i was.

    early in my career, a patient family member called me out... "your tone of voice and words mean nothing because i can see your nastyness all over your face". yup, i was guilty... difficult family member and i had no use for her. little did i think or know it was plastered clear as day how i really felt.

    initially i thought she was an idiot, then in time, watching the body language of patients and family, i could see they were carefully reading my non verbal cues.... that subjective data. these stinkers are very skilled at it.

    for me to survive, i had to pay very close attention to my body language and actually had to relax my face purposefully for months until it became natural so no one could see what i was "thinking internally".

    this doesn't have to mean hiding nasty thoughts, i learn to hide being in hurry, being worried, having my buttons pushed, and cautiously being happy.

    food for thought and it's good advice that will carry anyone through any career, it saved mine!
  3. by   tothepointeLVN
    I think when it comes down to it technical proficiency alone is not enough. It might keep a patient alive but may not make them want to live. How your patients perceive is important. They aren't going to think wow he/she is really good at tasks. No they are going to think he/she doesn't care about me.
  4. by   studentnurse50
    "Keep in mind that patient ratings are soon going to be effecting Medicare payouts. So facilities all over the country are scrambling to do anything and everything they can to ensure that they receive good ratings."

    Cally, can you help me understand the statement? I'm a new grad and don't understand how patient ratings will determine payouts.....Thanks in advance.
    Last edit by studentnurse50 on Oct 2, '12 : Reason: punctuation
  5. by   Tippyrn
    Once I was fired for being an introvert which I don't even think is true. If the only complaint is not smiling enough, they should feel lucky to have you, don't give then the satisfaction of quitting.
  6. by   Sour Lemon
    Quote from Tippyrn
    Once I was fired for being an introvert which I don't even think is true. If the only complaint is not smiling enough, they should feel lucky to have you, don't give then the satisfaction of quitting.
    Your advice is about five years too late. Whatever the OP decided to do has been long-done by now.
  7. by   Purple_roses
    Deleted. Didn't realize how old this post was!