Social sorority and nursing school. - page 2
hi allnurses.com I just wanted to get some views and opinions about being in a sorority and being in nursing school. I don't want this to vary off topic like some of my other posts have =) but I... Read More
Apr 27, '09Specialty: Emergency ; Joined: Sep '08; Posts: 1,233; Likes: 154thanks for the response. i might add that i plan to rush in 2010, as most chapters of this sorority rush in the spring, so i will have one semester of nursing school and clinicals down, so maybe that might help me with knowing my time management and my child will be older. thats just a suggestion im looking into. im not saying i will FOR DEFINITE try to be in a sorority, im just looking for suggestions and opinions like everyone is giving me. thanks so much.
Apr 27, '09Joined: Oct '01; Posts: 9,619; Likes: 14,055Other posters have raised a number of good points. I didn't last thru the pledge period because the social demands and time pressures of sorority life simply did not permit enough time to study. As a pledge, you will be expected to participate in virtually every activity the sorority offers. Once you are inducted and become a "full member," you may have a little more leeway to excuse yourself from activities that you really don't have time for.
Others' experiences may be different, but the social sororities on my campus were very expensive, demanded a large amount of time and involved a lot of partying. Few members worked while in college. They either worked a couple of jobs over summer vacation and lived off that money during the school year, or had parents who provided them with an income. In 4 years of college, I only knew 1 student who managed to remain in a sorority while successfully completing the nursing program. Most sorority members were in majors that were not as time-consuming as nursing.
I believe that sororities offer some benefits for students who are living a long way from home, but don't think that the trade-off in terms of expense, time and partying are compatible with the nursing program, especially if you need to hold a job also.
I like the suggestion of another poster that you consider seeking membership in a professional organization that will provide you with a chance to meet like-minded students and do worthwhile volunteer work related to your professional goals.
Apr 27, '09Specialty: Emergency ; Joined: Sep '08; Posts: 1,233; Likes: 154everybody keeps mentioning partying. the sorority in question is not of a partying type. and paryting is more on the lines of a NPC sorority. and that is not what that im interested in. but i know most sororities do party, but this, i havent "heard" to do as much partying.
Apr 27, '09Joined: Apr '09; Posts: 9; Likes: 5Well Prettyladie, this is from someone who tried to be active within her sorority and raise two children all the while going to nursing school. If you are willing to have no sleep at all and half way fulfill your obligations to your priorities, then I say go for it! As for myself, God, my children, school, then social activities were tackled in that order. It may seem as if nursing school is forever, but it too shall pass then you can enjoy any social activities your heart desires. I'm not saying to devote your life to just children and school, because all work and no play will definitely stress Jane out. But I am saying that if you can make a calander that will include spare time that will not impede on your time with God, your children, and your studies then go for it. Because in the end, a sorority or any organization really doesn't want a member who half way does anything and it certainly doesn't want an under achiever.
Apr 27, '09Occupation: CRNA Specialty: CRNA ; From: US ; Joined: Aug '06; Posts: 72; Likes: 25I was a member of a social sorority while completing a portion of nursing school and while it was great fun for a couple of years, it started to get 'old' before I graduated and I ended up withdrawing from the chapter, leading to hard feelings (and we know that some girls can be pretty catty when it comes to petty things, so they turned on me because I wanted to leave).
It was definitely a time-sucker because not only must you be present for a certain percentage of chapter meetings, but also for fundraising events on weekends, some out of town trips, and devotion to a "title" within your sorority after being there for a while (numerous heads of committees, chairs, etc). Not to mention the cost and very strict timely payment of dues...a majority of sororities also have a house live-in requirement in order to keep their $$ flowing. I did have fun and met some wonderful people, so I cannot say anything badly about that, but my grades did suffer and since sororities also have "academic" chairs, you can be placed on probation if your grades do fall and will not be able to attend certain events. If I had to do it all over again, I would have chosen not to join and concentrate instead on receiving stellar grades....if you want to head to graduate school, those nursing school and pre-req grades follow you wherever you go! Best of luck to you!
Apr 27, '09Joined: Jul '03; Posts: 2,937; Likes: 2,385These are the threads from the last year or so that I could find about sororities.
As another noted, it's just not that common for nursing students to be in sororities. Part of it is that many nurses got their RN through schools without any Greek organizations such as at community colleges. Also, there just aren't that many nursing school slots in any one university (eg less than 100 at my school with over 10,000 undergrads) so there's not a big presence of nursing students on campus or in sororities. In addition, the nursing school might not be on campus at all (eg it might be on the site of the university affiliated hospital) and so nursing students may not have much exposure to or awareness of other campus activities such as sororities. Nursing school in a university is often it's own little all-emcompassing world, separate from the larger campus life. Finally, once in the nursing program (beyond the first 1-2 years of pre-reqs), nursing school takes up A LOT of time. As another noted, between study groups, school fund-raisers, community service opportunities, student leadership opportunities, etc there's often more than enough within nursing school to keep oneself busy and to forge lasting relationships with classmates.
It sounds like the sorority you are considering isn't the typical sorority that many of us may be familiar with. The typical Greek sorority does require a rather substantial commitment of time and money and would be difficult to fully participate in just as a full-time nursing student, much less as parent. There are other kinds of sororities out there that work well for non-traditional and traditional student alike. However, the people here may not be able to give you much insight on it if they haven't encountered the type of sorority you are considering. Perhaps if you can describe the type of commitment this sorority requires you could get better feedback here.
Apr 27, '09Joined: Oct '03; Posts: 17,240; Likes: 42,345For what it's worth, in the last BSN program in which I taught, I had one student (out of ~100 Jr. year students) who was in a sorority, and she ended up choosing to resign from her chapter because the demands of the nursing program plus the sorority chapter were too great (her grades were dropping and she didn't want to flunk out of the nursing program). And this was a "traditional" college student -- young, single, no kids or job, and v. strong academically.
Apr 27, '09Occupation: engineer Specialty: nursing family members with rare disease ; From: US ; Joined: Feb '09; Posts: 19; Likes: 23My daughter is a junior in a sorority of smart girls with an average GPA of 3.2 at a difficult university. They have several parties a year but most of their events are volunteer or school related. They have weekly chapter meetings and many more time obligations. It seems there are always several events a week. What's more, if you miss an event you are fined $30 to $50 on top of the already high dues. They didn't care if you had a test to study for, apparently you should have studied sooner and planned better. They don't have a house, it's just high dues. If your sorority levies a fine for non-attendance, I think that would be hard since you have a child who is higher priority and can suddenly become ill etc.
She is getting out. She cannot deal with the schedule and the cash outlay. As one poster pointed out, they don't want anyone who does it halfway. She was elected to an office a year ago, asked for help in a project she was supposed to head up, and no sister would help her (they are too busy also). She had to do the whole thing by herself, and then it was publicly criticized for not being up to their standards after all her hard work and after no one would help her. The cattiness of a couple of alumni was unbelievable, leaving such a bad taste in her mouth that she quit. So I would recommend not being an officer because no one will help you and you will get in over your head time-wise.
Actually I would recommend not doing it at all, BUT...at every dinner I have attended of theirs, there were several girls who had tears in their eyes as they described how much the sorority meant to them, and how much they loved their sisters with whom they had made lifelong friendships. So I think, if you want to do it that badly, give it a try but check out costs and don't sign up for too much until you see your workload. And be prepared to bail if your priority #1 or priority #2 start to take more time.
Apr 27, '09Specialty: 1 year(s) of experience in OR Nurse ; Joined: Nov '08; Posts: 23; Likes: 22Hello! I was in a bsn rn program and took on executive board positions and eventually became Greek coordinator of all of Greek life on campus during my senior preceptorship in the Icu graduated with a 4.0 and worked two other jobs and my good friend in my sorority also in nursing with a 3 year old child did it just fine.. Lots of late nights and found myself missing some fun socials and weekend events to catch up with work but loved it and don't regret it anything is possible when you are driven! Good luck ps I was in alpha sigma tau national sorority!
Apr 27, '09Occupation: RN-i (RETIRED) Specialty: ORTHOPAEDICS-CERTIFIED SINCE 89 ; From: US ; Joined: May '00; Posts: 14,479; Likes: 2,298I was in an all Nursing student sorority when at USC. It was called Meditrina and we had big sisters who helped us with classes and studying. We also had the party or two but mostly it was a helping group. I wonder what happened to it. Any one ever hear of it before?
Apr 27, '09Occupation: RN Specialty: 7 year(s) of experience in ICU, nutrition ; Joined: Jan '02; Posts: 905; Likes: 281I was not in a sorority in college but I graduated with several girls who were. They had all been in for a couple of years when they got into the nursing program, however. None of them pledged while they were in nursing school.
Rush and being a pledge are a big time commitment that semester. It seems like you might have too much on your plate...I'm speaking from the experience of going to school with a young child.
I went back to school to finish my nursing degree when my oldest was about 21 months old and finished when he was almost 5. My husband worked out of town a lot and we were separated for about 6 months as well, so it was like being a single mom for most of those years. I didn't have much time for a social life, certainly not anything that was mandatory attendance.
Apr 27, '09From: US ; Joined: Apr '09; Posts: 1Quote from Prettyladiethank you for your post roosmom. i never said nursing school was a piece of cake or cake walk. im just asking for somebody who is in a sorority and nursing school and how they balance time. thats it. and so far i havent gotten it lol. i will not be working during school, so that can take out of the added stress. And for the social obligations, he will be there. And ill spend time with him while im at home studying. i dont plan to interrupt my parenting. i dont know if thats how i should say it. but i plan to be the best mother i can regardless of my social activities and school. and let me add that i mean in a social sorority in graduate or undergraduate.
Okay so you said, You will spend time with him while you are at home studying???? Is that possible? I had 2 kids, went to school, worked full-time, and still barely had enough time to sleep and study!!! And I am a single mother!!! If you get the response you are looking for, please let me know because maybe I was doing something wrong!! Nursing school is no joke! Seriously, after you graduate, I think you will then have more time to dedicate to your sorority. If you attempt to do it all at once, one of your activites will definitely suffer. Good luck!!
Apr 27, '09Specialty: Emergency ; Joined: Sep '08; Posts: 1,233; Likes: 154yeah i think it is possible to spend time with my child while im at home studying. he'll be what a 7 months when i start, and a year when i decide to rush. i have one child, so yeah i think im more capable to be able to do all of this and spend time with my child, than if i had multiple children and plus i dont work and will not work during nursing school. so i do have just as much time committment and stress, but i have my son, my school, and im just trying to see if i have time to do something on the side such as a sorority. if not then i wont do it. im just asking for opinions and im getting them and i really appreciate it. and to the poster who said this isnt a typical greek sorority..it is. i just cant disclose which one im talking about, but yes it is definitely greek. but it isnt a NPC sorority. there is no sorority house. so at least i wont have dues for that.