I just wanted to get some views and opinions about being in a sorority and being in nursing school. I don't want this to vary off topic like some of my other posts have =) but I just want to know how someone in a social sorority, not Phi Theta Kappa, or Simga Theta Tau, but social sororities. Nothing against those that I listed, but those are more geared to nursing school and academics. I know my priorities and they are in order, so please don't try to lecture me on, well you should focus on school etc. I know. I know if that I see my schedule and I cannot do both, I'm definitely not going to let my school suffer. I know that there are some ladies on here who are in a social sorority who do both. So my question is how to do you manage your time? How does your sorority deal with your time committment in nursing school? How did you handle the related stress that comes along with being in a sorority. I'm asking these questions because I want to be more involved on campus and in the community of my school. I will be relocating to a different area and I would like to have an impact. And fyi, yes I am a mother of young child, and he is my first priority, then school and a sorority if I have time. Being a mother and a student is very challenging and might be difficult, but I know I can do it, so like I said, please dont let this drift to something its not. The particular sorority I have a strong interest in doesn't mind the fact that I'm a mother with a young child. I just want to know how you manage your time, how you focus on school. Do you attend all of the events that your sorority hosts, etc?
thank you for your post roosmom. i never said nursing school was a piece of cake or cake walk. im just asking for somebody who is in a sorority and nursing school and how they balance time. thats it. and so far i havent gotten it lol. i will not be working during school, so that can take out of the added stress. And for the social obligations, he will be there. And ill spend time with him while im at home studying. i dont plan to interrupt my parenting. i dont know if thats how i should say it. but i plan to be the best mother i can regardless of my social activities and school. and let me add that i mean in a social sorority in graduate or undergraduate.
Okay so you said, You will spend time with him while you are at home studying???? Is that possible? I had 2 kids, went to school, worked full-time, and still barely had enough time to sleep and study!!! And I am a single mother!!! If you get the response you are looking for, please let me know because maybe I was doing something wrong!! Nursing school is no joke! Seriously, after you graduate, I think you will then have more time to dedicate to your sorority. If you attempt to do it all at once, one of your activites will definitely suffer. Good luck!!
yeah i think it is possible to spend time with my child while im at home studying. he'll be what a 7 months when i start, and a year when i decide to rush. i have one child, so yeah i think im more capable to be able to do all of this and spend time with my child, than if i had multiple children and plus i dont work and will not work during nursing school. so i do have just as much time committment and stress, but i have my son, my school, and im just trying to see if i have time to do something on the side such as a sorority. if not then i wont do it. im just asking for opinions and im getting them and i really appreciate it. and to the poster who said this isnt a typical greek sorority..it is. i just cant disclose which one im talking about, but yes it is definitely greek. but it isnt a NPC sorority. there is no sorority house. so at least i wont have dues for that.
Well, I was a mother with a lot of support when I was initiated into my sorority. I was 23 and the oldest member on my line, I was not in nursing school at the time. It was very hard work and very expensive. If you wish to join a divine nine sorority, which I think you may......work on your GPA and be active on campus BEFORE intake. Since nursing is demanding you will have to work harder to have the GPA you need. Again, the commitment is expensive. I have read your prior posts on how hard you worked to get into school. It will be stressful, but it can be done :)
I think what it comes down to is that there are only 24 hours in a day. You're going to have to figure out how many hours a day you'll be taking care of your child, how many hours in class/clinicals, how many hours studying, attending sorority functions, cleaning your house, doing your laundry, showering, grocery shopping, etc, etc, etc. You're the one who has to figure out how much you can fit in and where you're going to cut corners.
I do have to warn you though, that while babies can be very adaptable they also need routine. He may do very well for you. On the other hand you may end up with a very fussy boy if you end up hauling him all over town to social engagements after trying to spend several hours a day studying with him. Doesn't sound like alot of fun for a baby to me.
From a mother's perspective, and a successful nursing school graduate,, my opinion is that there was no way I would have been able to be involved in a sorority while in college.
I was lucky to be able to spend time with my children after going to school and studying. Spending time with my children while cleaning the house and following them around making sure they didn't stick their fingers in a light socket, or swallow a small toy... or the many other hazards a child can get themselves into while I had my head stuck in a nursing school book.
I can't tell anyone else what to do, and that's not why I'm posting this. But what I can say is that you need to listen to the women/men who have successfully gone through nursing school. Don't discount their opinions, as they are trying to show you how busy you will be during school. I don't think you really know what you're getting yourself into.
IMO, once you have a child, your obligations change dramatically. Unless you want someone else to raise your child, then you need to concentrate on your future career and the child you brought into the world. Of course, there are always nannies, daycare,, housekeepers and your parents. Are you grown or do they still give you all the money you need?
I understand the need to enjoy the college experience, but I think you gave some of that up when you had a child and decided to major in nursing. If you really want the full college experience, you should major in interior design or art. Definitely not nursing.
I don't mean to sound harsh, really. I think that maybe there's not many nursing students who have had a sorority experience because of the demands of nursing school and on the lives of the students. To be successful in nursing school it takes up mostly ALL of your time. Leaving none left for extra curricular activities.
thank you lonestar [1908] and i do that for a reason. i plan on becoming active in the community and on campus the first semester that im there. i plan on working hard, studying hard and making sure my grades are well above average. i want to graduate with honors, and i know i can. im very ambitious and i know it will be hard, but I would like to do it all. But if i cant, i will definitely not let my job as a parent fail, or my schooling. those are my top two priorities, i would just like to do this for me. this is something that ive looked into for a long time and im just trying to weigh my options. and like i said there is always grad chapter. im just trying to see if i could possibly do both. and i think i might be able to, like i said in my other posts, ill have one semester down in clinicals and school, and ill have a steady routine for daycare, and my time management skills should be at its best after a semester of getting all the quirks out. so i guess ill know when the spring comes what i can handle. thanks for everybody's input so far.
Also in different post you are struggling with moving away from your family and finding day care for your child so you can attend school. You do realize as much as the sorority is welcoming a mother they are not going to welcome your child at every meeting and/or event. You will need childcare for sorority events too. So many woman struggle with leaving their kids in daycare for work or school and day care for clinicals is not always just going to be 6a-3p, you might have a PM shift clinical and need daycare then too. To join a sorority and have your child in daycare or baby sat more so you can have a broader college experience doesn't seem fair to your child.
"I understand the need to enjoy the college experience, but I think you gave some of that up when you had a child and decided to major in nursing. If you really want the full college experience, you should major in interior design or art. Definitely not nursing"
magsulfate, i appreciate your comment, but i COMPLETELY disagree with this particular part of your comment. I dont think having a child meant that i cant fully experience college life. or choosing a nursing major.
I think basically im looking for the people who have done this. meaning been in a sorority and nursing school on some posts about a year ago that said they did it. i think she was a delta gamma. where are thooooose people =)
Also in different post you are struggling with moving away from your family and finding day care for your child so you can attend school. You do realize as much as the sorority is welcoming a mother they are not going to welcome your child at every meeting and/or event. You will need childcare for sorority events too. So many woman struggle with leaving their kids in daycare for work or school and day care for clinicals is not always just going to be 6a-3p, you might have a PM shift clinical and need daycare then too. To join a sorority and have your child in daycare or baby sat more so you can have a broader college experience doesn't seem fair to your child.
ive gotten day care covered. she is a lady that is retired and she is also an active member in this sorority in question. and all the clinicals are in the day time. so i think im good on these two. thank you so much.
Wow! Can I say cruxifiction! As bad as the Sarah Palin VP race for the White House. Oh but she was doing that for the greater good not for her own self interests.
Wow! Can I say cruxifiction! As bad as the Sarah Palin VP race for the White House. Oh but she was doing that for the greater good not for her own self interests.
These wonderful people have made you out to be a very selfish person who gives a damn about your child. It is obvious that you have given this much thought and sought the opinion of other sorority members. Instead you are told that your child is first. You want to party. You should have thought about this before you had a child.
I'm sure you have thought about these things. Your child is why you are trying to better yourself anyway. Though I am not a Sarah Palin fan, she was told that she could not be a mother and VP. Sure it would have been difficult but she had a good support system. Many conservative women's groups weighed in their opinion and practically judged her to be an unfit mother.
I wish you the best in whatever decision you decide to make. I know many women who are wonderful mothers with full careers and members of various organizations. YOU ARE YOUNG! If you can do it. Then do so. You seem to have your priorities in order. I hope that you get more feedback from the sorority members who have done what you are trying to do. I am happy that so many people here are concerned enough to give you their honest feedback. Ultimately, the decision is yours.
This is 2009 and women have proven that they can perform more than one task at a time. In fact, they've been doing it all along. Why can't you?
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Okay so you said, You will spend time with him while you are at home studying???? Is that possible? I had 2 kids, went to school, worked full-time, and still barely had enough time to sleep and study!!! And I am a single mother!!! If you get the response you are looking for, please let me know because maybe I was doing something wrong!! Nursing school is no joke! Seriously, after you graduate, I think you will then have more time to dedicate to your sorority. If you attempt to do it all at once, one of your activites will definitely suffer. Good luck!!