Thanx, BlackCat and Didi !
I actually thought of you BlackCat, as I remember you posting along these lines several times, and was hoping you'd respond.
I wouldn't go so far as to say Mom has Alzheimer's, but dementia is definately visible and audible... it has been subtle the past two years, but becoming quite evident now. So I just don't know if I'm over reacting here.. so many questions.
There are no other relatives other than myself on the other side of the country, and my sis who is two hours away.
She is going up on Monday again, and I will have her to have my mom drive this time when they run errands, etc., and that way Pati can gauge her driving skills and see if she has remembered where everything is in her car.. she's not driven for the past four mos., as she was overseas... maybe she just needed a little refresher.. we'll check that one out.
So would the Eldercare lawyer be preferable to her own atty?
I doubt that we could convince her to move until she feels she's ready, although she despises being alone... she thrives on having ppl aorund her 24/7.
And Pati can't move in with her and give up her job.. she has two more years where she's at to get her full retirement.. she'll be 100% vested then and cannot afford to quit now, or even transfer, as she has obligations of her own. Plus, Blackcat, she would not do well with this kind of stress with my mother, Mom is soooooooooooo argumentative... I think you know what I'm talking about !
Pati couldn't handle it.. actually I don't know that I could !
We'd be in the funnyfarm in two months !
She doesn't have pets, and is not the trusting kind, so there's no way she would have anyone stay with her other than me or sis. I can't just up and leave here to move there, either. AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARGH !!!!!
What is conservatorship... the same as legal guardianship?
And how does one pay for all these lawyer fees, anyway? Heck, neither one of us has that kind of mula ! :uhoh21:
And what if she goes in to her doc and presents her sweet side?
All talkative and chirpy ... oh she is the ultimate actress, to boot !
Bless her heart... she's a real catbird.
Oh boy... I have a feeling we've really got our work cut out for us. :stone