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In a discussion I had with my brother in law today (who is a future nurse!), I learned he is uncomfortable with public breastfeeding unless there is a blanket involved. I know some folks wouldn't even like it with a blanket! I strongly feel that, as nurses, we should be doing what we can to support and advocate for breastfeeding and shed it in a positive light. I couldn't believe that a health care professional would feel differently. Obviously, this is coming from the United States (sigh).

I'm someone that usually works to make people feel comfortable in situations, but if my baby needs to be fed and some guy doesn't like it, well then he doesn't have to look! My baby comes first. That's how I feel about it. Guys will say that we shouldn't expose our breasts because they are too sexual, then agree that breastfeeding isn't sexual, but still say that we should hide it.....I cannot follow the circular reasoning.

I want to raise sons who know that breasts, as sexually appealing as they may be to them when they are older, are made to feed babies. That a uterus carries babies and lady partss birth them. I believe that this gives men a truer, deeper respect for women and for all human beings ... our bodies are not just sex objects! I saw a funny T-shirt that said -- Breasts: Not just for selling cars anymore!

I wanted to see what other nurses thought about this, on a personal level as well as a public health level.

Specializes in Home Health Care.

I support breast feeding 100%. I will never understand why people are uncomfortable with it, especially people who are in health care. As for young children seeing a mother feeding her baby in public, that would be the perfect time to educate them. It should as simple as, " Babies are supposed to drink their mom's milk to grow stong and be healthy, and that's why ladies have breast."

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My kids have seen it, and I explained it to them. end of question/answer session. I sure hope to raise my son to think of breasts as something besides sex toys.....good luck, Yea I know.

I'm not a mother, not a nurse....just a bystander. I have no problems with mothers discretely breastfeeding in public places...but that's the kicker isn't it...everyone seems to have a different opinion on "discretely". I know breastfeeding is a "natural" activity....but there are lots of "natural" activities that I don't want to witness while I'm eating in a restaurant.

My sister has just had her second child....she borders on militant on her right to breastfeed (right being a very big word). I just think that with everyone so defensive on their rights (her right to breastfeed, a passerby's right not to have to explain it to their young children) it's hard to meet in the middle with so many folks.

I guess I just wish that both sides could consider both perspectives a bit more and be sensitive that whether you think it should be or not...this is a cultural change here in the states. I don't remember seeing women breastfeeding in public while I was growing up......where as now it's a somewhat common site. It takes time and consideration for changes....and I just wish we were kinder with each other during the growing pains.

Take the whole blow up with Barbara Walters on the View....all she did was say she was uncomfortable when a woman sitting next to her on an airplane started breastfeeding.....she didn't say anything to the woman at the time and said that that she had the right to breastfeed....but just mentioned she was uncomfortable at the time.....the next day there were protesters for crying out loud....the show had to make a public apology. Since when did someone admitting that they were feeling uncomfortable become a problem for all of us....talk about intolerant, can't we give each other a little growing room?

My .02

Peace,

Cathie

Specializes in LDRP; Education.
Q. ~ It's a simple fact that breasts produce milk to feed humans. If a woman chooses to utilize that God given ability, why should she be concerned about who sees it? Your kids should know that babies are fed by their mom's breasts or by formula & bottles.

I mean honestly, I've seen many nursing mothers and I rarely see any part of her boob. Where do you all find these women that are flinging their boobs & milk around :rolleyes:

Sure, my kids "should know" that babies are fed via breast if desired, but I prefer to be the one to decide when I want my children to know that, not some breastfeeding mother who is not discreet in the least.

Have you ever breastfed yourself? I can tell you that depending on the baby, getting them to latch on might be a bit of challenge, and there you are tickling your baby's mouth with your nipple, or, your baby has had enough and the latch breaks, or, you're done feeding and if you're like me, you feel the need to dab the remaining milk off of your nipple so it doesn't get that sticky feeling. Again, all this doesn't need to be done in sight of everyone else. Privacy is best. And besides, babies feed better when undisturbed. I've fed my twins a bottle in public but I still go find a nice, quiet corner to do so.

I agree with you, Cathie.

I've yet to see a discussion about breastfeeding that didn't turn into a free-for-all.

LOL

Logging in with my opinion, I support people having "the right" to breastfeed in public, BUT I do think it should be done "discretely."

Of course an infant may not allow a blanket in hot weather, but there are nursing slings and blouses that are discrete.

Yes breastfeeding is natural but here in the USA breasts are a sexual object, like it or not and some people do not feel comfortable with exposed breasts.

I didn't hear about the flap with Barbara Walters.

That sounds a little extreme IMHO. It's pretty bad and repressive when you aren't allowed to even have an opinion that differs from the norm.

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As for young children seeing a mother feeding her baby in public, that would be the perfect time to educate them.

Yes but perhaps on that day, I didn't WANT them to be educated on it. As a parent I have the right to decide when they learn something, don't I?

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So the anwser for those feeling offended:

don't look.

This is not a Mediaographic display but the natural fact of feeding a baby.

We need to get over it already.

Specializes in LDRP; Education.

Deb, that's not an answer and you know it.

I don't see what the big fuss is about being discreet. Why can women not be discreet? Why do I have to bend, change my direction, change the restaurant I'm eating, change my behavior yet a breastfeeding mom can't do ONE simple thing like cover herself or be discreet?

Specializes in Home Health Care.

I also think it's sad that new mom's are feeling discouraged to breast feed their babies because of other people's uncomfortableness/views. Last week in my OB/peds clinical rotation, there were only 2 breastfed babies out of 5. Those babies and mothers are missing out on so much. (I can understand problems with lactation, latching on ect) but for those that don't even try because of the percieved sexual overtones are really doing a disservice to their babies antibodies, bonding relationship, and brain development. :(

Specializes in Home Health Care.
Yes but perhaps on that day, I didn't WANT them to be educated on it. As a parent I have the right to decide when they learn something, don't I?

Help me to understand why you wouldn't want your child to be educated about it?

Specializes in LDRP; Education.

Oh, let's not go down THAT road. Because if I hear how my twins are missing out on SO MUCH because they weren't breastfed (they were gavage fed my milk and I pumped nearly exclusively) I think I'm going to puke.

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Deb, that's not an answer and you know it.

I don't see what the big fuss is about being discreet. Why can women not be discreet? Why do I have to bend, change my direction, change the restaurant I'm eating, change my behavior yet a breastfeeding mom can't do ONE simple thing like cover herself or be discreet?

Where does it stop? I don't think overweight men should wear tight Speedos at the beach. Do I get to tell them to change into boxer type trunks? I don't think anyone should be walking around with huge tattoos. Do I get to tell them not to come into any building that I have to occupy? These are my problems, not their's. I don't actually understand the motivations of women who don't choose to be discrete, but I sure don't think I have some right to insist that they are.

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