pillow therapy - page 2

i so wanted to engage in pillow therapy with one of my patients today. oh my god. she is filled with cancer. terminal of course. our big concern in her care is pain control. if you touch this pts... Read More

  1. by   CATHYW
    Bless your heart, thisnurse! I have a face that can be read like a book-no need for me to try to smile my way through a mouthful of BS to patients or family.
    I really admire you being able to sit down and relive this all through your message to us. You could almost hear the call bells and phones ringing, the IV pumps beeping, the family members yakking and nagging, and definitely, MOST definitely, smell the rectal bleed!
    All I can say is, thank God that there are nurses like you out there, who can juggle and play hardball at the same time.
    May He bless you, and give you loads of patients....no, I mean patience! :kiss
  2. by   Stargazer
    Every time I read one of her "day in the life of thisnurse" posts, I am reminded anew why I left the bedside.

    God bless you, girlfriend! I'd work a 12-hour with you and buy you a drink afterwards any day of the week.

    p.s. Has anyone ever told you that you have a "black cloud" over your head?
  3. by   TracyB,RN
    Darn it. I am sooooo confused. I don't know if I should be LOL or crying my eyes out Man oh man. How do you do it?????

    My pillow therapy is to picture that pillow as people (pts, family members, etc, etc) that have driven me batty,ticked me off, whatever, then yell at it, shake it, knock the snot out of it, until I am LOL or my hubby is telling me I'm loopy.
    Last edit by TracyB,RN on Apr 3, '02
  4. by   hoolahan
    Thisnurse, I just love reading your posts. I think if I could do what you do again, I would love to work beside you!

    Let me know when you want to do home health. We need a good sense of humor like yours to get through the day sometimes.

    Hats off to you!
  5. by   sharann
    You have one of the most essential qualities of a great nurse---your fantastic and sick sense of humor. I think you should keep writing these things down as you do and eventually submit the collection as a book. We already have a title : "Toxic Family Members" by Thisnurse, RN.
  6. by   micro
    we are all going to write a kicker book sometimes with thisnurse as the primary contributor..........
    what a kicker...........and what a read.......course do you think then that the public would have a different picture of nurses than now.....
    probably would be only nurses that bought the book anyway.........

    this nurse and Cathy Wilson, RN and others.......I too wear my heart on my sleeve and seem to not be able to change this in the 90 odd years I have lived on this earth.........

    the stories from the bedside.........too funny, painful, poignant and yet so true.........because it could be happening to you or your loved ones.........

    will not go on past that as life has rose up and kicked micro in the face again.........but that is k' cause micro is a kicker back!!!!!!!
  7. by   judy ann
    In Tuesday's Paper, Dear Abby had a letter from a lady who suggested that family keep a notebook with them so that they could keep track of who told them what, and when, what condition the patient and the room was in when they arrived, etc, so that they could report all the details to the management. She had found that this improved the care of her Mom immensely. Well! Abby agreed!!! That double fried my gizzard!!! I wrote back that I agreed with the notebook idea, but from a different angle. I suggested that the positives be noted. Did Mom look nice today? Did Pop's room look neater than usual? Was the nursing personnel friendly to both the patient and the visitor? These are the things that "management" needs to hear. Can you imagine hearing only negatives about your staff? That can only reflect upon management and administration, and in so doing, paint them with the same brush. With the limited amount of time that we have, why should we spend the few extra seconds with someone whose family will complain no matter what? We will spend those seconds with the patient who appreciates the pat on the shoulder or his family enjoys the friendly nick-name given to him. We have to do those things that we must do for our patients, but we do the extras because we want to. These are the things that warm the cockles of our hearts and make those patients so much happier. I hope that Abby will see that the negative attitude of the family putting themselves as the watchdog of the nurses is not furthering care for their loved ones, and certainly not making the nurse's job any easier.
    Last edit by judy ann on Apr 4, '02
  8. by   RN-PA
    Whenever I see a thread started by you, thisnurse, I eagerly click on it knowing I will be alternately wildly entertained, horrified, laughing, gasping, and empathizing/agreeing with all you say and the incredible tales you tell.

    Being a floor nurse insures that many nights will be a rollercoaster of emotions, challenges, and often unbelievable patients and situations, and you express the horrors-- and often surprising joys-- equally well. I love your writing style and stories for many reasons, but probably mostly because misery --indeed-- loves company!

    Thank you for being a great nurse and for your valuable contributions to this BB!:kiss
  9. by   eldernurse
    To Judy Ann,
    Some people see a glass half full, others a glass half empty. Frankly, I hope they all keep diaries. I know that I will be praised half of the time then.
  10. by   thisnurse
    tonite i came home from another awful day and immediately went to my comp to unwind.
    im reading the nice things you said to and about me and honestly got tears in my eyes.
    thanks for your kindness.
    in the last couple of months just about everyone i know has been telling me to write a book...my fiancee has been telling me for years. i guess it is time.

    and oh boy the stories i have to tell...lol
  11. by   thisnurse

    i ENCOURAGE families to keep a notebook. it keeps them busy and gives the something to do other than hit the call light every two minutes.

    if you are doing your job at all, what can they say?

    antibiotic due 10:00
    antibiotic given 10:02

    11:00--asked nurse to bring in snacks for our 12 children. was given directions to the cafeteria.

    --really...what can they possibly put in writing that they wont just SAY anyway.
    if they shut the hell up let them take all the notes they want. and if they are really nice ill take their log home and illustrate it...lol
  12. by   Heather56
    In the last few months I have seen articles in both Canadian and US magazines about how to ensure your family member gets good care while in the hospital. One of the points is for the family to make sure someone is always there with the patient to "help them with things like washing and feeding." In my experience this often (not always) means the family member sits beside the patient to make sure the nurse loks after all the patient needs. sigh....
  13. by   leeriza
    So sorry to hear that. But...hey! That's nurses is all about isn't it?. Welcome to the club!