I've been a nurse in the same specialty for almost 4 years and have worked at a few different hospitals in a large city. I like to think I have learned to communicate effectively and respectfully with my coworkers and our doctors. Super long story short, my patient had been refusing surgery since admission. She was on the fence about pursuing treatment as her symptoms weren't too bad. It actually came to the point where they had decided to transfer her to a medicine service and transfer her out of the ICU because she was so adamantly refusing everything they were recommending. Psych was consulted and deemed her capable to make decisions for herself. The attending surgeon came and spoke with the patient, explained the importance of treatment and got her to agree to the pre op MRI. They scheduled her surgery for the first case of the next day. When I took over, she hadn't yet signed the consent form. At the beginning of my shift the resident came by and said he'd go in and consent her before she went to sleep. The unit went crazy and he wasn't able to come back until late at night. He went in to talk to her and immediately came back out of her room. He told me she was seeing things and not very awake and that he didn't feel comfortable getting her to sign then. He thought it would be best to let the attending come in the morning and do the consent form. I agreed with this and really respected him for knowing when to take a step back. I had kept her NPO just in case and she was ready to go as soon as that form was signed. Anesthesia came to get her at 645 and I told him I didn't think she had signed yet. He grabbed the chart and said that she had indeed signed the form. I was confused but figured I just missed the doctors rounding and the attending's conversation with her. Something didn't feel right but she wasn't refusing at the moment so I packed her up and brought the day shift nurse in to do report at the bedside before she went down for surgery. I briefly explained the situation and the day shift nurse asked the patient right away if she wanted to do this surgery. The patient said no she did not want to go so the day shift RN called the team and the day resident came in and immediately started pressuring the patient to go right then. He told her she would die without the surgery and that everyone was waiting for her so they had to go downstairs NOW. I politely asked the resident to call the attending as this is what the night resident said would happen. He called the chief resident instead and asked me why this was a problem as the consent for was signed the day before. I explained it had not and that the night resident felt more comfortably deferring to the attending. He got the chart and said that there was a signed consent form so he was still confused as to why I was being difficult. I told him his own resident didn't feel comfortable consenting her when she was half asleep and delirious. He went to call the resident and asked him what happened, and came back and started asking her orientation questions which she answered correctly. He asked if she knew the severity of her situation and she said yes but that she still didn't want the surgery. The chief came out into the hall and started yelling at me about how this was ridiculous and that it was inappropriate for me to let her say no. I believe he said "do you want her to die? That's what you're saying if you keep pushing this". I calmly stated that I was in no way telling her not to do it, but I was just reporting to them that she did not want to go. I said I was advocating for my patient and he got so angry at that phrasing. He said "Oh so you're the only one in this whole place who is advocating for her? I'm trying to save her life. I'm personally offended that you think I'm not advocating for her as well. I didn't really know what to say so I just let him walk away and call the attending. I went straight to my managers office and told her what was going on. She's great, and she called the chief to her office to talk. She actually said "why are you being mean to my nurses" and I loved her so much for that. He started to talk and then they saw the attending so the three of them talked in the hallway. My manager came back in and said the attending was telling the chief to be nice and listen to us, and that he wants us to know we can always come to him directly. The chief came into the office and apologized for the way he handled our interaction. He said he was frustrated because the attending was waiting on him and he felt like I was insinuating we weren't all on the same team. He said he hoped we could go forward working together in a positive way and I agreed. He left and I did feel better that we handled it right then and there. However, I have several concerns with the overall situation. First and foremost I was disappointed that the team felt they had the right to pressure her so much to have a truly risky surgery. Patient's can always revoke consent and they were acting like she could not do so. I was also worried that there was a chance she didn't even remember signing the consent and that it was obtained inappropriately. Lastly, I felt frustrated that the chief was trying to manipulate my feelings to get me to do what he wanted. I obviously want the best for my patients but I also have to look out for their best interests and listen when they're saying no. Lastly, I don't think any of the residents understood that I was trying to protect the patient's wishes, my own license, as well as the whole team. If something went wrong in surgery and there was any question of consent, we would all be dealing with a difficult situation. Any comments, similar experiences, or advice on how to handle this team going forward? After this situation and a few others with the same team I truly feel like I need to escalate this to someone above myself. I know I can't change a whole lot, but I feel like this is as good a time as any to express concerns.