nurse/doctor relationships? - page 2

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   Feb 16, '03

   Still just a pre-nursing/CNA student here, but I've worked the clerical side of medicine since 1995, and seen my share of...well, things.
   
   Of the 13 male docs I currently work with, 7 are on their second or third wives and four of the rest are unmarried. The remaining two are happily married; both of these are married to physicians, as well. The only one I'd vaguely consider attractive--witty, funny, devastatingly brilliant--is not 'traditionally' handsome. Life is not like "ER". I like him for him--not because he's a doctor; we actually met for the first time BEFORE I worked with him.
   
   Another doc I worked with, who has since left the practise, was noted for (or infamous for) seducing nurses and other staff while a fellow at the university...he continued to have various and sundry affairs and was so flirtatious with me that an uninformed coworker thought he was my husband (we carpooled, so left work and arrived together at the same time). He was married, but didn't wear a wedding ring and never mentioned his wife unless directly asked. She eventually divorced him, and she and I remain good friends.
   
   So, moral of the story: Beware. There are docs out there waiting to take advantage of the white-coat charm. And it doesn't get easier if he marries you...you'll never see him, because he's with me, at work, or at a conference, or on call...and that's AFTER residency. He'll forget your birthday, your anniversary, your kid's birthday. His secretary (me) will pick out your Valentine's card, remember your cell phone number, and track down your husband when he forgets that the in-laws are coming for dinner tonight.
   
   Good luck.
2. 
   Feb 16, '03

   I'm engaged to a med student but I got him before he ever got accepted to med school, so he's all right. :wink2: Some of my friends from college went on to med school too and we still keep in touch. They're great people, hopefully they won't change!
3. 
   Feb 17, '03

   Only know two dr/dr prs and the practice in different specialties and in different hospitals from one another...Most of the physicians here are married...and the others seemingly have no interest or girlfriends in different proffesions...The few personal realationships that do spring up are simply casual friendships..the type of realationship that makes it easier to work with the person, not harder...
4. 
   Feb 17, '03

   Sometimes MDs are so busy, especially residents that the only people they get to know are nurses, so naturally some of them ask them out.
   
   I've seen a few coworkers date doctors. Most of the time it hasn't worked out.
   
   One of our docs notoriously flirts and asks out nurses all the time, and find no shortage of takers. But also, gets many rejections along the way.
   
   I keep the relationships strictly professional and am no unfriendly, but don't get to know the docs I work with.
5. 
   Feb 17, '03

   About 95% of the docs where I work are married and in orietation the nurse educator told us if any one of us was looking for a doctor to marry we better go elsewhere.
   I don't know why anyone would want to marry one they seem like more trouble than they are worth.
6. 
   Feb 17, '03

   When you think about what you want in a spouse-marrying a doctor just doesn't fit those things. Especially with a nurse's life thrown in there, how would you successfully have a marriage or family? Unless you wanted to end up at home raising kids essentially alone.
   
   I grew up with a family whose dad was a surgeon. He was about as ideal of a dr/dad combo as they come, actually did stay involved in the kid's/wife's lives but even then his pager was constantly going off and he was never really there-could leave any moment. That gets old and I wasn't even related I feel for his wife now that their kids are moved out and away--what a lonely life she must have now. You can get "involved" in things to fill up your day, but it just isn't the same.
   
   Definately not for me
7. 
   Feb 17, '03

   <-----it's LiNA!! HEYYY!!! oOOo goooodness!! now u guys are making me AFRAiD of doctors!! mrs, RNb2005 really got me there. HAHA...jus kidding, as if. though i'm not a nurse YEt, i, sorry to say, already hav resentment against them!! i picture that damn surgeon, what's his name...u know the one froom ER...the bald one...OoO who cares... stop it!! why?!?! i'm so bad!! BUT, many of the posts mentioned a lot about disrespect from doctors...GRRR!! i hate that last sentence!! ok, i was gonna say something else but i forgot...HEYYY!! look for my next thread!! what about NURSE&NURSE relationships?? now this i'm really interested. both nurses, both can relate, what do YOU guys think??
   
   mmmmuahhhh!!
   lina

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