Male L&D nurses - page 8

something i noticed while going through the nursing program was every male nursing students fear and dread of the obstetrics floor. in fact, one man in my class was not even able to participate much... Read More

  1. by   Energizer Bunny
    I was sexually abused and was never uncomfortable with my male OB because I made him aware of the situation.
  2. by   Energizer Bunny
    Quote from BRANDY LPN
    And our prenatal records have the information about past sexual abuse in them, as well as information on domestic abuse, it is up to the woman to answer these questions honestly during her antepartum visits.
    YES!!!! I even went for one "special" counseling session and had a nursing advocate that came on the floor and raised holy heck with the nurses to let them know that I had been abused. I started a thread about this a while back to see if nurses had been specially trained to help those that had been abused and didn't get many responses.
  3. by   imenid37
    It wouldn't bother me to have a male L&D nurse if he was a good nurse and let's face it being male or female has very little to do w/ being a good or bad nurse. What I try to be and what I look for in a nurse (in L&D) is someone who is respectful (even when pt. and family are not), someone who sees the pt. as a unique individual going through one of the most signifigant journeys of her own and her child's and family's life. What I like to see is someone who builds the pt. and her family up, even when they are discouraged or have a poor self image. You have to be there for her at that moment, not on the phone or out having a smoke or w/ your mind on what everyone's gossiping about out at the nurses' station. You've got to have knowledge, patience, common sense, and be able to keep your cool under pressure. Even if you're frustrated or disgusted by a pt. or their family, you've got to be professional, suck it in, and laugh or cry later. Most of all, you have to keep in mind that you are someone this person may well remember for life. When I worked med-surg, older ladies who did not know if it was night or day often remembered their birth experience. I know I'll never forget my own. Modesty, privacy, etc. are definitely important parts of caring for L/D pt's and their families, but these pale in comparison to the more important aspects of care which IMHO are pschological and emotional. My mind and heart usually get more of a workout during a sressful delivery than my body does. I don't think gender plays into it much at all, unless there's some religious objection or prior traumatic experience. If gender does play into it at all, then I think we need more men in L&D, not less. The world is short of nurturing male role models. Dayray you sound like a reaaly nice young man and an exceptional nurse. I think you did a great job of presenting this topic.
    Last edit by imenid37 on May 31, '04
  4. by   LPN4Life
    Quote from ltcdon
    Having experience in L&D, i think that having a male nurse would be very "uncomfortable" for not only the laboring woman but her partner as well. There are many more tasks involved in assisting in the LABOR of a patient, not just the birth of a baby. Many things are very personal and the process lasts usually for many hours and one must consider all aspects of the experience, not just the birth itself. There are processes like enemas and catherizations and back rubs and perineum stretching involved. As a woman, I do not feel i would be comfortable with a man, whom is a stranger to me, performing these tasks.
    But, you also see more younger women, or single women coming in without a partner too, read my story too see how this might be a situation where a male nurse may come in handy.

    Here is my story:
    When I was 18 yrs old, I had no idea what Lamaze was, I had a mother that had 8 children, but really had no good advice for me but too tell me all of her horror stories.
    I had "Toxemia" as it was called then, and was induced d/t High B/P and Edema. I was on the Pit for 2 days, Doc finally decides to break my water, I go into labor at 3:30pm, I don't deliver my son until after midnight. Since I was in the hospital for so long I got to know the nurses very well, and one particular Male nurse. He was wonderful. He ended up being the nurse that was working the night I went into labor. It was a small town hospital, I was the only one that was in L/D that night, and got wonderful attention. He rubbed my back, he washed my face with cold water, he catheraterized me, he gave me my enema, he even shaved me :uhoh21: I have a rather large family with 6 sisters, who all happened to be there for me (I was the baby having a baby it was a pretty big deal) he allowed them all to go into the bathroom and watch my delivery from there, cuz back then we couldn't have as many people as we wanted rooting us on. Well as my labor progressed, he became more of my coach, and the other female nurse became more of the L/D nurse, he stood behind me and held me and told me when to breathe, how to breathe, when to push, when to stop pushing, he was there for me because I had no one that could have taught me this stuff and had me so calm. I listened to everything he said, I stayed calm, he is on my video and you can hear him Yelling, and Coaching me, I still get tears in my eyes when I watch that video just for the fact that he was such a caring human being. His shift ended at 7pm that night, he didn't leave my side until 1am, after seeing me through delivering my son and taking it upon himself to, YES, teach me how to breastfeed
    My son has a bond with this man to this day, he still works at that hospital, and we still have to go over there for minor emergencies. He is THE most respected nurse in that hospital, although the L/D program has been cut from this hospital long ago, he continues to make impressions on the many pts he meets. A lasting one on this patient, so lasting he is one of the reasons I wanted to become a nurse.

    This whole arguement is really ridiculous, it does come down to the pt and what they want and if it doesn't and someone else decides this other than the pt, well that is just wrong and prejudice. IMHO
  5. by   SmilingBluEyes
    Quote from judy ann
    Gender is not what is important. What is important is the quality of care given by that person. :angel2:
    you said it. NOW can you spread that message to the other debates regarding gender in nursing? It really does NOT matter unless WE make it matter.

    dayray, you know what I think of you. you have my ultimate respect as an OB nurse, but more, as a very kind and compassionate human.
  6. by   bmurf
    Looking for nursing debate topics
  7. by   mmurphy
    I agree. This should be left alone to the women. A nurse is not a physician. Ias a RN for many years, and a mother, I would not care for a male nurse to attend me in an OB/GYN setting. It is inappropriate.

    Quote from Farkinott
    I think some things should be left alone and I reckon midwifery should be lft to women. I know that there are male midwives around but for the life of me I can't understand why a man would want to work in such a position!
    I have assisted in emergency births but would hate to have to deal with that kind of stuff on a regular basis!
    I like to try and retain images of "feminine mystique" and birthing and its associated processes totally destoys that! I feel sorry for any bloke that wants to do midwifery but is restricted by clients only wishing to deal with a female, but i can see where they are coming from. As a male you would be putting yourself in potentially litigious situations on a regular basis due to the intimacy of scope of practice. i reckon it I would look a bit silly trying to teach a woman how to breastfeed too!
  8. by   clee1
    I'm a male LPN student.

    As a paramedic, I have done two emergency deliveries (well... not emergency per se, but... unexpectedly quick ) and was present all the way through my wife's labor and delivery of our dd.

    As for me, I have no preference one way or the other about my role in L&D rotation; I have had the "books" and just enough "hands on" so far to do what is necessary if I had to.

    Stick me in the nursery if the pt has a problem with a male nurse.... I'd rather play with the lil ones anyway.
  9. by   deanaRN
    When I had my last baby my nurse asked me if I minded a student. I said no I do not mind. Then a very timid instructor came in and asked me if I minded having a nursing student. Again I said no I do not mind. She then looked pointedly at me and said "Are you sure? The only one I have left is a male." I told her that was fine. This obviously upset my nurse. Then the instructor said "I just need to make double sure, and also do you mind if he is black too?"

    I really felt sorry for the guy. The nurses were all really rude and the instructor seemed upset to be stuck with male student. The whole thing really bothered me. He was very nice, and I tried to make him feel at ease. I had the baby within a couple of hours. He nearly cried when he saw the baby being born and thanked me for letting him in, and said that every day of clinical he had to sit in the hall b/c no one would let him in while the other (female) students all had patients.
  10. by   mariuszraj
    I am a male nurse and have to say that while I was a nursing student I enjoyed this experiece. I did attend many L&D and as I remember only one woman did not want a male while she was delivering. It was a great venture for me.
  11. by   wymnwise
    I have a very hard time understanding what part of "NO" male docs and nurses are not getting. Look, it is our choice. Culture, religion, history, feminist education, whatever the reason a woman does not want men involved in intimate procedures and care while under anesthesia, we have that right. BTW did you know that if a male requests an all male team for a vastectomy it will likely be respected; but if a woman requests an ALL female team for a mastectomy or GYN surgery, her request is not likely to be respected.
  12. by   wymnwise
    Quote from mariuszraj
    I am a male nurse and have to say that while I was a nursing student I enjoyed this experiece. I did attend many L&D and as I remember only one woman did not want a male while she was delivering. It was a great venture for me.

    You have a good attitude. You did not focus on the one "No" but all the opportunities you were allowed.