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i was out for blood last night. my daughter, 18, works in the deli of a grocery store. she showed me a rash on her forearm a few days ago, and i told her to pay attention to what she's come in contact with. she figured out it was the meat slicer.....it's an abrasive rash, isolated to one spot. both hubs (also a grocery clerk) and i told her to tell her supervisor. the deli manager teased her about how it wouldn't work to get time off. she went up one more level, who told her to let the assistant manager know. asst manager told her that it's not a comp problem, it's a food allergy.

i told her that it is not his place to determine the source of a rash, that if he had any doubts he should have sent her to the clinic.

where does he get off telling her something like that?? she's not asking for time off, she's doing what we told her to do, which is report the problem in case it gets worse later, and to ask for help in determining how to avoid a recurrence.

*update* dd texted me a bit ago. big boss is not happy with the way this was blown off by two other supervisors. details to follow.

Specializes in med-surg.

Reminds me of high school...

We had just moved to GA and I went to the nurse's office complaining of chest pain. I was only 15 and could not take a breath in without agonizing pain. I had it happen once or twice before, but it always went away after a breath or two--I hadn't even mentioned it to my mom yet. The nurse accused me of trying to get out of class and sent me back. The next teacher saw what bad shape I was in and sent me back to the nurse who asked the vice-principal to have a 'talk' with me. So I had to prove to the vice-principal that I really could not breathe right and was in pain. So she and the school 'nurse' decided I should lay down for a while to see if my chest pain disappeared. My math teacher came by after the next class to check on me and apparently raised holy heck with both ladies for not calling my parents. My mom gets there and she went off on the nurse demanding to why I was left alone in room with chest pain instead of an ambulence and her being called in that order. My mom gets me to the nearest hospital 40 minutes away and the ER doc has a fit because the school didn't call an ambulance.

Diagnosis--costochondritis. Outcome--my mom made it clear that if I felt unwell at school that I was to call her from the office. I was not to go to the school nurse for any reason.

Its amazing how distrusting some people can be of symptoms, especially in teens.

Same DD had mono and a roaring sinusitis a year or so ago. She was seen at Kaiser and went back a few days later for a F/U. Bio Mom sent her with a note saying it was okay to see her. The stupid receptionist actually told DD that "How do I know this isn't forged?" DD can barely talk and she was flushed with fever.....not something a teen would need to forge a note about!

Specializes in med-surg.
Same DD had mono and a roaring sinusitis a year or so ago. She was seen at Kaiser and went back a few days later for a F/U. Bio Mom sent her with a note saying it was okay to see her. The stupid receptionist actually told DD that "How do I know this isn't forged?" DD can barely talk and she was flushed with fever.....not something a teen would need to forge a note about!

Ridiculous. Why can't grown people take sick kids seriously? :nono:

Specializes in LTC/SNF, Psychiatric, Pharmaceutical.
Not a boss, but...

When my oldest daughter was in jr high, she fractured her arm one weekend while skating and was casted. I was concerned because she seemed to have more than the usual swelling; doc said to ice and elevate, and come back if symptomatic. The cast just didn't look right to me, or maybe it was just my Mom intuition, who knows. But on Monday, I sent her to school with explicit instructions to call me immediately if she noticed any numbness or tingling, color or temp changes or increase in swelling.

I went to pick her up at the end of the day, only to find her sitting in the office sobbing and rocking back and forth, holding her arm. Her fingers were pale and cool and swollen--- it looked BAD.

She'd noticed several hours before that it had begun to swell more, and was numb and tingly. She went to the office to call me as I had instructed, and the secretary and assistant principal had refused to allow her to contact me. She'd tried to go back to class, only to return to the office, begging them to allow her to call. Again, they refused. Told her to sit and wait until I arrived, so they "could have a talk with me."

When I saw her, I didn't know about what the office staff had done, and immediately asked my daughter why she didn't call me. That's when the secretary spoke up and informed me that their phones were not there for the personal use of students. She then told me that "all breaks swell" and suggested that maybe my daughter was "just looking for a reason to leave school."

Oh. My. God.

I am a very laid back person. I rarely if ever lose my temper. But when I do...

I truly do not remember what I said to that witch; probably just as well cuz all y'all see here is a bunch of ***** across the screen anyway. You know that expression "see red"? It really happens. I was possessed.

I do know that I am lucky I wasn't arrested. And she's lucky I was too short and out of shape to vault that counter. The assistant principal came out and demanded to know what was going on, and then repeated what the secretary had said.

I had a few choice words in response, ending with something along the lines of if she had suffered any damage to her arm, I was going to own that school district.

Took her to the ER. Turns out, there was a dent in the cast not really noticeable until they'd cut it off. She had a pressure area that took some time to heal. She was splinted and after the tingling and swelling went away, had no more problems with it and healed well.

Damn. My BP shot up just typing about those idiots.

:angryfire

Bloody hell. She could have lost her arm thanks to those idiots. Where was the school nurse??? Does this school HAVE a school nurse?

If something like that happened to my kid, I'd yank my kid out of that school and make sure that this school district suffered through a pricey and publicly embarassing lawsuit.

Specializes in Cardiology, Oncology, Medsurge.
Not a boss, but...

I do know that I am lucky I wasn't arrested. And she's lucky I was too short and out of shape to vault that counter. The assistant principal came out and demanded to know what was going on, and then repeated what the secretary had said.

:angryfire

:lol2: Thank goodness, they both still have life.

I too would be awfully angry if it had been my daughter. Broken limbs swell, yeah but loss of sensation is another matter, indeed!

That is a SCARY SCARY tale EG!

I'm sharing this story with my x-school nurse mother, I just know her jaw will drop to the floor!

:lol2: Thank goodness, they both still have life.

I too would be awfully angry if it had been my daughter. Broken limbs swell, yeah but loss of sensation is another matter, indeed!

That is a SCARY SCARY tale EG!

I'm sharing this story with my x-school nurse mother, I just know her jaw will drop to the floor!

Well, this wasn't a school nurse. They didn't have one available.

My daughter attended a private high school and had serious health problems on at least three occasions. In each instance I felt like setting bombs in the admin's office. Most of her problem had to do with the male dean of students who was a pervert that should have had his teaching credentials revoked and done some jail time. Every time she had to deal with this man, there was an issue that I should have gone to an attorney over. I finally did and was preparing a lawsuit, but my daughter refused to cooperate. She was afraid of the man. I kept telling her to not have anything to do with him, not to tell the school anything other than she had health problems, and to watch herself, but she always played into their hands. For a kid with serious medical problems, they treated her like dirt, except when it was time to collect the tuition checks. And there was no school nurse she could go to.

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