is somebody in school and working full time want to share???

  1. HI
    I was wondering if a lot of people is working and going to school full time. ITS SO HARD! how to balance everything!! i am still single with no kids, I can't imagine the people that does it with family !! on top of work and bills!
    any tips??
    I think I have a nervous breakdown at least once a month, because I feel so overhlmed and hopeless. I am 23 and I want to get school over with, because I don't want to go back to school when I am married and with kids, etc.
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  3. by   Q.
    I can relate. I work full time and attend grad school full time. It's a bytch. I don't have kids either, but I have other family commitments, and it's very hard to juggle them all. My only tip is to, unfortunately, make yourself a priority and keep your goals in focus. I say this is unfortunate because sometimes as a result, your friends and family suffer.

    I find when I get discouraged, I remember my ultimate goal and sometimes it helps.

    Good luck.
  4. by   Hidi74
    Same here! Single no kiddos, work full time and school full time. Its tough sometimes but I have no life, so......mmmmm ok most of the time. For me it's mostly emotional. Breakdowns on a daily
  5. by   Tweety
    I did the work/school thing. Basically, I just sacrificed my life. I was single at the time as well. Lived alone. Maybe met some friends for coffee after getting off work after midnight on Friday night.

    I'm sure you've got your routine down and are really just venting.

    I forced myself to go to the library and study, because when I was home I slept. On non clincial days before work (I worked evenings) I would drag myself to the library before class to study. I didn't get near enough sleep, but when I slept, boy did I sleep good.

    Also, I made sure I went jogging every other day for about an hour at a time, regardless of what I had to do I can say the whole time I was in school I kept this committment to myself.
  6. by   hapeewendy
    I'm doing the work school thing right now..
    its a struggle, very tough
    I just had the relationship between myself and my boyfriend end at least in part because of my hectic crazy schedule
    I dont regret it but it is tough...
    I find the worst part of it all is getting no support from your workplace
    I need to keep focused and see the light at the end of the tunnel
    I wish each one of you great success and we can always lean on eachother for support no matter what !!!!
  7. by   mattsmom81
    God Bless all of you...I could NEVER have worked fulltime while going to nursing school...part time was all I could handle! My hat's off to ya'll!!

    When you're young and single it IS a good idea to get school done it gets much harder to find this personal time after kiddos and spouse...our priorities change then.

    Best wishes to all of you..and remember to take some time to 'unwind' and be good to yourselves!
  8. by   opalmRN
    Having a family, working and going to school takes planning, dedication and the ability to laugh in the face of dust and clutter!

    You adjust or you go insane. Maybe for me it is because I am older and I have begun to realize there is no finish line just places to stop off and rest.

    When I started school nearly twenty years ago, I had small children and THAT was nearly impossible. So I backed off, only took a class here and there and kept the big picture in focus.

    Now that my babies are grown I have more time to dedicate to more classes and it's full steam ahead.

    I know once I finish nursing school, I won't really spend many years as a paid nurse but that is ok. I have been blessed with realtively good health. Many in the world have not been as fortunate. I will spend my "golden years" giving to those who need nursing care the most. My pay will be the satisfaction I feel inside.

    I heard a saying once and I think it helps pull me back on track when I have feelings of being overwhelmed.

    "Life is Not a destination, it IS a journey"

    Enjoy your journey, this is not a dress rehearsal.
    I admire anybody that has a family, job, and going to school. There would be no way I could do that.

    I go to school full-time, work full-time, and a part-time job on the weekends. The only family I have is my boyfriend (who is like me works 7 days) and my 7 cats.
  10. by   Tweety
    BTW, anyone can come work for my hospital! We will pay for your education. You only have to work 16 hours and get paid for 40!!!! Welcome!
  11. by   Worthy
    Add me to the list. I work full time, for a miserable grouch who I am sure would fire me if he knew I was planning on abandoning him and his company in three years. Really!

    Totally unrelated field.

    It's hard, and I don't have kids, but I do have a husband and a horse and friends...

    I've learned to say NO. NO, I can't help on that horse show committee. NO, I can't bake all the cookies for the christmas party - but I'll buy a box of some storebought ones and bring them. I used to see the horse five days a week, now it's twice. That's ok - life is full of choices and I know when I'd done, I'll have that time that I used to, only ONE job, and a little bit of extra money to enjoy it.

    People were shocked that I wasn't at their beck and call anymore, but they've learned to deal with it!
  12. by   Keely-FutureRN
    Yes, I also work full time and go to work full time. During the summer, I worked two full time jobs (one during the day and one at night) to pay for school. Now I work one full time job and do school. It would be harder for you guys since I'm not in nursing school yet which is much harder than generals. But good job to all of you who are balancing family into that too! You guys are my heros!
  13. by   Keely-FutureRN
    Sorry, I meant to write go to school full time and work full time, not work full time twice. Geez, thirdshiftguy, I'm going to catch the next flight over there! And it sure beats the snow here!
    Last edit by Keely-FutureRN on Nov 26, '02
  14. by   ParrotHeadRN
    My son was 8 when I was in school. In the beginning I worked part time, went to school and tried to be a wife and mom. It didn't work AT ALL. It ended up that my family was the last on the list. So, I quit work. We were poor and it was a struggle, yes, but the (little) time I had with my family more than made up for it.