How opposite are you and your mate?

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I'm a nurse of course and my boyfriend of 5yrs is a tattoo artist.

I sometimes feel weird telling fellow nurses that. I have no problem with his profession.

Just curious, anyone in similar situation?

Specializes in NICU.

Great thread!

In some ways, we are very simliar. In others, very different.

Similar:

We grew up in the same suburb and went to grade schools in the same district and then the same middle and high schools. We were both "smart kids" and were part of the gifted reading programs and advanced math and computer classes. So essentially, through high school, we had almost identical educations. (Weird thing is we didn't meet until college even though we were only one grade apart, plus we knew all of each other's friends.)

Our parents still live in similar houses in similar neighborhoods, have similar jobs, and make similar amounts of money. We had about the same benefits and hinderances growing up in this sense.

We were raised the same religion, going to church and Sunday school at "sister" churches across town from each other.

We both love working with our hands. If something involves tools - especially power tools - we will actually fight over who gets to do it. He was a little jealous recently that I fixed our furnace after being talked through it on the phone by the furnace company. I am jealous of him because he's going to get to be the one to paint the nursery and put together our new baby furniture. Freaks!

Different:

Ethnically and culturally, very different. I'm a Bohemian-German-Polish mix whose ancestors have lived in the Midwest for generations. He's 100% Filipino, born about 10 years after his parents came to the US. Our traditions are quite different, and our parents raised us very differently. Our relationships with our families are very very different.

I'm pretty outgoing and talkative (duh!). He's quiet and shy.

I love being out and about. He loves being at home.

I'm a night owl. He's a morning person.

I like sweet stuff. He prefers salty.

I'm wine, he's beer.

He knows all about politics, religion, music, history, technology, and sports. I know all about medicine, science, psychology, money, cooking, home improvement, and all things Hollywood. We really complement each other in a game of trivial persuit!

I am a hypochondriac. You couldn't pay him to go to the doctor - believe me, I've tried!

my so is a respiratory therapist, formerly a sometime/amature tattoo artist(always says he'll go back to it)

me....................................................................................................................................... him

conservative liberal........................................................................................... liberal conservative

fave food:mexican.............................................................................................. mexican

football chick .....................................................................................................hunter

like crowds ...........................................................................................................noooooo

classic rock ...........................................................................................................anything new

i can deal c any body fluid but sputum ....................................................sputum but nothing else

sleep:quiet......................................................................................................... sleep:noisy

cautious planner.................................................................................................. seat'o his pants

big picture ............................................................................................................whats in front of his face

anything entertaining .......................................................................................sci fi!!!

4 tattoos............................................................................................................... 1, amazing since i've seen his work!

I'm crazier than my manfriend (he's a lot older, so I feel funny using "boyfriend"...lol), but that's about it for differences. He and I are a lot alike in almost every way. I don't think I've ever dated someone who's completely opposite of me.

Hi

My ex husband was a lorry driver, we were totally unsuited in every way.

But the man I am with now is amazing. I am a nurse by profession, but have done loads of other things and prefer to work for myself. He is a pilot, and although he loves flying he also likes to wrok for himself. We both have the same hobbies, mainly fishing, we love to pop to our local pub, have half a lager and a smoke and spend time putting the world to rights, before either going fishing or going home and watching the tv and chatting. We both want the same things out of life, and everything we want to try in the future is the same. He is amazing.

My boyfriend and I are quite alike...we have the same goals in life, enjoy playing video games together, watching movies, and even being lazy together...there are also diffrences -- he likes politics and chess, I could not care less (except for voting lol), he is shy and I am outgoing... I think the key is to be similar but still have differences. That way you keep things interesting but you don't argue all the time. Oh, I forgot...I am a nurse and he is a computer programmer...however, my first degree is in computer science

Specializes in Pediatrics/School Health.

My husband and I are quite similar in that we share a lot of the same interests and we're both the oldest of 2 children in our families. On the other hand, he's an IT guy (a.k.a "computer geek") who loves to talk and has a very dry sense of humor. He finds it funny that one of his coworkers (a fellow IT guru) is married to a nurse - they talk about "what it's like"; I'm not sure if that's a good thing or a bad thing!

Specializes in Community, OB, Nursery.

DH is one of 11 kids, I grew up an only child most of my life. He grew up poor in rural Mexico, I grew up poor in SE United States.

He can plant a twig in the ground and it will grow into something beautiful. I managed to kill a cactus once because I didn't water it enough. I have to read instructions. Read Step 1. Do Step 1, and so on. He, OTOH, dumps everything out of the box, looks at it a few minutes and then can assemble it with no pieces left over.

He is very quiet. I can strike up a convo with anyone, just about. I have no secrets. He would prefer that no one even know what's on our grocery list. I am very emotional, he is the strong, silent type. I am very time-oriented. He'll say "It's almost 9:00" when it's really 8:07. I pay the bills & keep track of finances. He vaguely knows that we have money in the bank acct. He can fix just about anything that breaks, though.

What makes it work? We love each other, we both love God, and we are committed to the promise we made each other, even when we do not agree. And like Marla said, the things I am good at, he isn't, and vice versa. I wouldn't trade him.

Specializes in MDS coordinator, hospice, ortho/ neuro.

After being married for 27 years, we're 2 sides of the same coin. When they meet him, my co-workers tend to say things like "OMG there are 2 of you"

him: loves hunting, guns, fishing and reading. vacation is a trip to Canada to live as natives for a week or so and drink lake water "it never hurt me none." Says I'm a "sap" because I acknowledge people's feelings.

me: would never hurt even a spider without some remorse, I can handle guns safely but do not care to very often, love to fish and read, and also love the survivor trip canada except for the mosquitoes and lake water consumption. There were BUGS in the pudding, and that is where I draw the line. Uck.

Specializes in NICU,PICU.

Hi,I'm a nurse and my husband is in a military so he'll always have short hair and sahve all the time, he got lots of hair and i don't have even on my legs.My husband like video games and i don't, so complicated the games , we both don't like trucks, and we both likes travelling, So, that's it not all things you both like..

Specializes in Med-Surg, Tele, DOU.

Him high tech me ?what is high tech?

Him well read me love reading

him eats out me food at home

him spends money me saves money (well except starbucks)

him sits alot me runs around

him patient gentle me learning to be patient and gentle

him 1/2 of my soul me 1/2 of his soul

together 1 soul . . . . .

chasing 2 busy little critters . . . uh I mean children . . . yeah our boys

Specializes in Adult Care- Neuro ICU, Ortho, IRU, Pedi.

Ok let's see....

I'm an LVN for 10+ years. He's a cop for 2 years. We both work with people that mostly aren't to happy to see us until we have solved the problem. So in that respect he understands my profession. Similarities end there. He is easy going. I'm high strung. He's black and grew up in the projects in the south. I'm white and I grew up middle class up north. He listens to Celine Deon and Debbie Gibson (gag). I listen to whatever is hot and current whether it's rap, rock, country I like it all. He's a complete computer game geek and I can't concetrate long enough to play solitare. I prefer to watch lots of TV. I love my great dane and he loves cats. I have a tatoo and he would never think of it.

I wonder how I was ever blessed with such a sweet kind man that does the dishes (I swear I haven't done a dish since we started dating), never curses and is always respectful. He wonders how he fell for a foul mouth, quick tempered girl that never cleans up after herself.

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