How has nursing affected your marriage?

1. This is especially directed at those of us who went through nursing school & began our careers while married w/ children.
   
   
   If I knew then how my career was going to affect to my marriage now, I don't know if I would have made the same choice.
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   Nov 17, '06

   Joined: Apr '03; Posts: 7,569; Likes: 2,297

   I was single when I went through school, but it didn't really affect either of my marriages. My ex was an RT and we both worked nights. My current works for a grocery chain and also has the weird schedules. It's affected my relationship with my mom more than anything, because she just can't understand that I have work some holidays and they and birthdays are not celebrated on the actual days.
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   Nov 17, '06

   Joined: Aug '04; Posts: 9,279; Likes: 4,302

   My marriage has been affected more because I had a child than because I was married. I worked nights so that my dh and I could save babysitter costs. Nights paid better and also gave me time to be with my child, but it took away time from my dh.
   
   I've been working nights for years now and I'm getting interested in having a Real Life and more time with my husband now. I get worried because I don't know how much time we have left together and we have a lot of not sleeping together to make up for at this point.
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   Nov 17, '06

   Joined: Apr '02; Posts: 38,771; Likes: 16,375

   It changed nothing. I have been a nurse 9 years; married 18. Maybe being military had something to do w/that. Our marriage has been strong thru a lot of things, including his being gone for a war----nursing is just one of those things I guess.
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   Nov 17, '06

   Occupation: Medical Device co. Specialty: 10 year(s) of experience in Critical care, cardiothoracics, VADs ; Joined: Nov '05; Posts: 1,470; Likes: 48

   What about nursing? The shifts? I think any job with shiftwork would have the same effect if anything was going to, not nursing in particular. Like anything, it depends on your ability as a couple to communicate and compromise.
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   Nov 17, '06

   Occupation: MICU Specialty: 15 year(s) of experience in Critical Care ; From: US ; Joined: Jun '06; Posts: 163; Likes: 4

   Financial independence, job security, job options= better relationship due to less financial stress.
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   Nov 17, '06

   Joined: May '06; Posts: 29; Likes: 3

   It's made it soooo musch better... I was able to get rid of his sorry A$$!!LOL!! In first semester, 8 out of 20 were there to get earning power to get rid of husbands. We can support our kids!
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   Nov 17, '06

   Joined: May '06; Posts: 202; Likes: 115

   Narnia456,
   
   You go girl! Ha, ha, ha. I love an independant woman. I know some of my classmates in the same position and I'm so proud of them for taking that step.
   
   My husband is awesome, but we don't live together and only see one another about once a month. Sometimes I think that's the secret to a great marriage, we've never had time to get tired of each other.

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