Flaming Mad at Local Hospital!!! - page 4

:angryfire :angryfire :angryfire :angryfire Okay, here's what happened. My father's health has been declining rapidly for several weeks now. This morning, my mom could not get him out of bed... Read More

  1. by   tonchitoRN
    i know this might be hard to read but maybe what happened is a blessing in disguise. the original hospital was obviously not able to meet his needs. if he had been admitted the worst case scenario is that he would have ended up in restraints, in a diaper and the possibility of developing all kinds of complications. at least at home you were able to find him alternative treatment.
    unfortunately this scenario is all toocommon. i used to work social work in ltc and it was very common for the elderly to only get the help they needed when a crisis happened. you are in crisis now so now it is time to do some planning and making some changes. one thing to do once your father is settled is to get your mother settled. living in a 2-story home with no bathroom on the first floor is asking for trouble. i know change is hard but sometimes it is needed. good luck.
  2. by   disher
    Originally posted by Jay-Jay
    :angryfire :angryfire :angryfire :angryfire

    He had a UTI. Hmmm...no surprise there! He had a cystoscope done last Thursday.
    I'm sorry to hear about your father's experience. I think the staff in the cysto clinic would want to be informed that he developed a severe UTI following the cysto. It helps them to know who should be treated prophylactically with antibiotic and they can flag your father's chart in case he has invasive urological procedures in the future.
  3. by   LaVorneRN
    Wow. My heart and prayers go out to you, your brother, and your precious, precious parents. It is so frustrating to see the elderly maltreated when they can't speak up for themselves. And they put you in a position where you couldn't speak for him. God is faithful and just and He has this thing about vengence so you don't even have to worry about that! But please do follow up with reporting this. I know your plate is full but they can't get away with this. Many blessings to you and your family.
  4. by   canadiannurse21
    Sorry to hear about your situation. In my hospital, there are beds on medical for patients awaiting admission to a long term care facility. There should be a holding place, either in the hospital, or a separate place altogether for your father and others in need like him. I hope and pray your family gets through this hard time--:kiss
  5. by   Jay-Jay
    Latest news: they've taken him off the antibiotics, as all blood cultures were negative. Good thing too, he ripped the IV out 7 times!!

    I saw him tonight, and cannot believe the change since Easter Sunday, when he walked for over an hour with my husband. He can barely feed himself, and kept falling asleep towards the end of the meal, as though the effort of eating had exhausted him. His O2 sats are normal, CT scan shows no major changes. His liver enzymes are out of whack, however, and the nurse asked me if he'd ever had a drinking problem!! (She obviously doesn't know my dad! He's not a teetotaler, but he's darn close!)

    So, they're going to do a CT scan of the abdomen on Monday to R/O cancer, cirrhosis, etc. Doesn't sound good....
  6. by   jemb
    Keeping you and your family in my thoughts, Jane. It must make you very sad to see your father so ill with no apparent explanation. ((((((Hugs)))))
  7. by   mother/babyRN
    How are his electrolytes? My sodium was off by 3 points once and I was confused...My prayers for you and your family....{{{}}}
  8. by   Jay-Jay
    I don't know (sigh!) In spite of being an RN, I had a heck of a time getting any info out of the nursing staff. Part of the problem was his nurse took an hour and 15 minute long supper break! I was sorely tempted to rip a strip off her, but bit my tongue for fear she would take it out on my dad if I complained.
  9. by   MelRN13
    Praying for you Jane, keep us updated.
  10. by   jadednurse
    My heart goes out to you and your family Jane. I went through a similar situation last year when my grandfather died. And it was at a hospital that I used to work at. Made me furious, made me sad. My thoughts are with you...
  11. by   mfdteacher
    No one can condone the actions of the RN you spoke with first. As an agency nurse with a full time wonderful job, my limited time in the ER on weekends lets me see the burnt out and frustrated nurses. They work 12 hours shifts and lots of overtime and are constantly short staffed. Then we expect them to treat people with respect and dignity. Perhaps you're seeing a symptom of our health care crisis. I'm glad I work when I want to instead having to but angry as hell for what happened to your father. I wish the $$$hospitals and $$$HMOs would get it together so nurse could once again nurse and TAKE CARE of people like your father. Know that you have helped me strive even harder to be the best I can be for your dad, your children, your siblings, and anyone who comes to me for care.
  12. by   fergus51
    Originally posted by nrw350
    I would think that they would allow you back there with your dad if gloved, gowned, and masked even if there was a risk simply because you are also a nurse and understand the implications! That is also a load of crock too. IMHO.

    Let us know how it all works out.
    It's the ministry of health setting the rules from day to day, not the hospital's nurses. I worked at the door and had to refuse entry to family members. It was TERRIBLE and many of them wanted to mask and come in, but were not allowed under any circumstances. I almost started to cry when one woman asked me why I wouldn't let her in, when I had no say in the matter.

    I hope things start to look up for your family Jay-jay. I know from experience how hard it is to start the LTC road.
  13. by   yannadey
    Thanks for the update sorry Your dad isn't doing any better & for your experience with the nurse
    but this just brings the state of our health care system to the forefront the bottom line now-a-days is money(making a profit & paperwork) not patient care.
    Will continue to keep your dad in my prayers.