blended families - page 2

I was curious how many of you are living in a blended family? It is so hard some days. Just was curious if anyone else out there has a hard time with it. renerian... Read More

  1. by   ageless
    We are a blended family that works. 2 his and 2 mine all in the same house, but we decided along time ago to forget which ones are which. Its only as complicated as one makes it. No different then if one has a biological child and then an adopted one..would that mother love one more than the other?
  2. by   renerian
    Thanks everyone for replying. We are hanging in there. Three are gone from home, next year another one then in three years the last will go away to college. Not looking for answers just wondered how many others were dealing with the dynamics.

    Again thanks,

  3. by   KaroSnowQueen
    When I met DH, he had two kids, 6 and 4. I had three kids, 6, 5, and 3. Five kids six and under. We married less than 2 years later. Now the kids are 22, 22, 21, 20 and 19. 21 and 19 still at home. Kids meshed together, some probs with one being hyper and a real PITA (HIS KID) but as they got older things mellowed out and they are all very close. 21 had a stillborn baby last month and the two stepsiblings were here at the hospital and cried and worried just as much as teh others. They do not refer to their siblings as steps, just brothers and sisters. It took a lot of work, but feel great about it. My kids call him Dad and his kids call me Mommee. By their choice, we never insisted in any way. Thought a few years about having one together but never worked out that way.
    His youngest had learning disabilities, and his oldest was undiagnosed ADHD for years!!!!!!!!! My boy had congenital blindness in one eye, and the three youngest ones had a lot of illnesses. His oldest was always in the ER, fell out of a tree and stuck a branch though his back at 6 and that was just the beginning!!!!!!!
    It will all work through, the troubles will ease, and they will (I HOPE) all leave home eventually!!!!!
  4. by   renerian
    Snowqueen wow you have had a passel of kids! I hope ours turn out as close as yours are.

    Somehow I doubt that.

  5. by   GPatty
    You may be very pleasantly surprised...
    My son (my hubby's son actually) calls me Mom. I am his Mom and he is my son. I love him just as if I gave birth to him. Wouldn't trade that boy for anything....
    He had a rough start in life with his bio-mom...he tells me about it sometimes. But he knows he can come to me or ask me anything. And just like a Mom, I can tell him that he's nuts...and he still loves me.
    He's the best!
  6. by   renerian
    Julie you are so lucky.

  7. by   RRMLPN
    I brought 3 of my own into our marriage and bryan had 2 girls that lived with his ex-wife, all in the same town, the kids did great together, his girls call me mom and mine (except for my son) call him dad, they are very close in age 19, 17, 16, 15, 14 with the bot being the oldest. I think it helped that they all were very young when we blended. there have been problems, but we all learned together and i think the strongest force in all of that was the fact my hubby and i presented a united front, no manipulation allowed from any of the kids. And none from the ex'es either lol. I found myself frustrated at times and yes once or twice i heard the "your not my mom" but i always tried to be there for all of them and as they have gotten older it's been better. never an easy situation and different for each family.
  8. by   renerian
    RRMLPN Thanks for your input........

  9. by   Love4Me
    Blended fam here also. I have 2 boys (8 & 9) from a prior relationship, my husband has 1 boy (8) from a prior marriage, and we have 1 son together (15 mos).

    It is extremely difficult at times. Sometimes I find myself being unfair. I just try to step back and check myself.

    Other times it is great.
  10. by   renerian
    Thanks for reply nursechellebell..........I know what you mean.......

  11. by   camkib
    Blended here too. I have 2 girls 13 and 7 and hubby has 2 girls 10 and 7 with a son together 2yrs. old
  12. by   Nurse Hag
    Hi, I am a step mom and "MY KIDS" think the world of me. I was in the delivery room when my grandson was born, "ON THE BUSINESS END" as my daughter stated. Well he had 10 fingers and 10 toes but grandma was not happy with her apsar score and needed one from someone who does not deal with only the elderly. I could read the monitor that we had distress and finally figured out it was just not me . Not everyones grandchildren are born to the weather channel. My Step kids come to see me every week so I hope this is a good sign when I'm in the home they will come then.
  13. by   renerian
    That is good. When I had surgery none of my stepkids asked about me, would help me when I came home, called me or anything. My kids did though.