Feeling like I'm doing everything wrong lately

[littleINlpn]

(sorry long, venting post)

Last week was awful. Had a parent upset at me because their child vomited here at school yet he wants to play outside when he got home (she called 3 times to complain about this). Among other things, I felt like parents were attacking me left and right. Found a bed bug on a student, bagged everything and all the other student belongings in class. Spoke with my admin and she says to send letter home to that one parent. (I spoke to this parent last semester about it and it did not go well, admin didn't want to talk with parent either.) I run into the teacher and shes really furious because she ended up calling all parents in her class to tell them why their child had their stuff bagged up, sooo that is all my fault for not doing that. Come to find out admin told her I did call all of the parents, yet she told me not to do that. (always miscommunicating here) I don't think this job is for me anymore. I feel like everything is dumped on me and then blamed on me. I'm still fairly new to all of this and so is the school. Trying my best to make everyone happy but cant seem to do it. Sorry for the long rant, i just need to get it off my chest before I blow up.

[Farawyn]

I know the type, he will not engage in anything that could hold him accountable (email for example) and will always have a scapegoat. The best way to deal with those kind is to not deal with them. Do what you want to and try to ignore them as much as possible. I know, easier said than done, but think about it...when you have to deal with him, it might be a good idea to have your cell phone in your pocket, recording the conversation,if you ever need to use it in the future (nobody uses pocket recorders anymore).

Indiana Jones would totally do that.

[SnowyJ, RN]

I know the type, he will not engage in anything that could hold him accountable (email for example) and will always have a scapegoat. The best way to deal with those kind is to not deal with them. Do what you want to and try to ignore them as much as possible. I know, easier said than done, but think about it...when you have to deal with him, it might be a good idea to have your cell phone in your pocket, recording the conversation,if you ever need to use it in the future (nobody uses pocket recorders anymore).

OMG this is a GREAT idea!

I do try to avoid him as much as I can.

[Farawyn]

This is how I've been feeling lately. In fact I told my boss, "It's ridiculous! If someone is having a life-threatening emergency, oh! We run to the nurse and trust her judgement... yet my judgement is questioned over a trivial non-issue like whether or not a client can have cake?!"

How does that work?

I'm sorry. I'm not a school nurse, but there aren't any other elder daycare nurse peeps here We do have some similarities, so I have to crash your board once in a while.

Of course!

You are always welcome. We wear pink on Wednesdays.

[dec2007]

OMG this is a GREAT idea!

I do try to avoid him as much as I can.

I've actually done this (openly) for inappropriate conversation at the nurses station. Stops the gossiping right away!

[SchoolNurseTXstyle]

Part of our job is, well, to be mean. There I said it. Perhaps the better word is firm, but honestly, to a lot of people - especially students and parents - we are mean and that's it.

I've learned I just have to own it and when I do, I actually get a lot more respect. And after the initial blow, "mean" can transform into some great, lasting student and parent relationships.

YEEESSSS!!! So well said. If we did our jobs in a way only to people please, the darn school would be empty between Sept-June. There are studies that show that having a full time school nurse improves attendance. If left up to anybody else, every hang nail would go home.

If you don't like me because I do my job as set forth by polices and procedure, that is your problem and not mine!

[tining, BSN, RN]

This time of year everyone is on edge. Breathe, then breathe again. Take a break this summer and start fresh next year.